Whats less attractive?

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    Apr 28, 2009 11:22 PM GMT
    Just to satisfy my own curiosity -
    What do you find personally less attractive?

    1) Smoking
    2) Being 20 lbs. overweight
    3) Chronic drug use
    4) Other

    (to prevent flaming - please do not misread this to understand that I personally hate people from any of the above categories)

    I'm trying to quit smoking, and I find it to be by far the least attractive /cry

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    Apr 28, 2009 11:33 PM GMT
    drug use..
  • Timbales

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    Apr 28, 2009 11:35 PM GMT
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  • jlly_rnchr

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    Apr 29, 2009 12:07 AM GMT
    I'd say smoking. And I smoke. Waking up smelling like nicotine is the pits.
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    Apr 29, 2009 2:15 AM GMT

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    I agree with Timberoo here because gays on drugs is the most tragic scene ever. Smoking is pretty gross because it makes everything smell. "Other" means surprises and surprises suck except the "I have no gag reflex" surprise. And, a lil extra ain't no problem attt all.

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    Apr 29, 2009 2:29 AM GMT
    Drugs. Immediate deal breaker.
  • scott0612

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    Apr 29, 2009 2:30 AM GMT
    drugs. and to be clear i mean the substance not the person. i lost a wonderful friend to a heroin overdose. it broke my heart.
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    Apr 29, 2009 2:31 AM GMT
    I've no real gag reflex... *coughs*
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Apr 29, 2009 2:36 AM GMT
    Depends on the drug. Heroin is worse than smoking. Coffee is much better.

    Being 20 pounds overweight is less of a problem than smoking, pretty much always.
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    Apr 29, 2009 2:36 AM GMT
    Being a smoker(trying to quit again), I'd have to go with smoking. A little 4:20 never hurt anyone, with moderation of course. icon_smile.gif Any other drug is a deal breaker for me, though.
  • silverfox

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    Apr 29, 2009 2:37 AM GMT
    Other
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    Apr 29, 2009 2:47 AM GMT
    silverfox1 saidOther


    I have to agree here. You can quite smoking, hit the gym and go to rehab, but a nasty case of "other" is forever.
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    Apr 29, 2009 2:47 AM GMT
    4) Other.

    The items from that list are subjective..

    1. I don't mind social smokers. I just don't like smokers that smell like an ashtray. Or have wheezing coughs. Or coughs up a lung cookie every hour.

    2. Some guys are "overweight" in the right proportions. I like all types of bodies, including the big burley football types. icon_biggrin.gif

    3. I'm ok with friends that smoke pot. But I don't think I could be romantically involved with a guy that smokes pot. And absolutely no meth addicts or crack heads.
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    Apr 29, 2009 2:53 AM GMT
    Bad attitude is by far #1.
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    Apr 29, 2009 2:58 AM GMT
    Drugs are a huge turn off for me.. I when I was a youngen I tried some I hated them and I moved on.. I know first hand what its like and what the people who surround you who are on them are like.. Did not like it.

    People who lie or are not up front and lead others on..

    Smoking.

    Being overweight.. (I like a guy with a bit of meat don't get me wrong some guys can carry a little extra weight quite well but there is a fine line.
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    Apr 29, 2009 3:05 AM GMT
    Timberoo said3
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    Quoted for truth.

    I've seen pot mentioned in defense of drugs. As someone highly allergic to pot, I'd like to suggest it's not always so harmless as one might assume.
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    Apr 29, 2009 3:16 AM GMT
    Whoa.

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    Apr 29, 2009 3:17 AM GMT
    I'd have to say:

    1) Other - just because of the massive, wide ranging endless possibilities of "turn offs" that go in this category. Arrogant personalities, ignorance for me is... difficult to take in other people, someone with no sense of humour will never be able to interact with me, too much ego is ugly, etc etc

    2) Drugs - i say this because I've been down that road. made some bad choices, although i dont believe in regrets because ive learned so much, but im glad im not there anymore. I know what kind of effect they can have on you and your life, and that they change your personality. When i am around people who do certain drugs, i have to remove myself because it reminds me of how i was, and i really didnt like who i was back then. so, this is just a no-go, i'm afraid. i have friends with problems, still... but i refuse to be around them if they are under the influence.

    3) Smoking, i guess. im a smoker... edging towards the "quitting stage" but refuse to use that word until i can commit to its meaning. but i think i would only have a problem with a smoker if i was no longer one, which will hopefully be so in the near future. but if i was still smoking, i couldnt give a rats ass.

    4) Overweight - Just because 20lbs overweight means so little to me, i suppose. i'd much rather someone a little overweight than underweight, at least there's sumthin to hold on to.

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    Oh, and as an aside: having said all of the above, I'm sure it's partially bullshit, because i have no doubt whatsoever that there exceptions to each and every above-mentioned rules.

    I try not to write people off according to their flaws, because i have so many myself, and wouldnt want someone doing that to me. I think often the little flaws and imperfections are the greatest part of someone's character.

    Everyone, with no exceptions, is flawed and imperfect. And my god, isn't that just great? Like, honestly. If no one had any flaws, everyone would be beyond boring, and i think i would hate everyone, and there would really be no purpose to humanity at all.

    Flaws have a bad rep. I think they're great, and the best people and most amazing friends i have in my life, are deeply flawed, and have gone through many bad choices, wrong turns, indulged in their "flaws" - but how one get's through such things, overcomes them, deals with them, how they indulge in them, etc... these are all factors that lead to forming fascinating and strong characters.

    flaws in people are like bad choices in life... they come part-in-parcel, but they're up to you on how to navigate around them or confront them - and how you do that, determines where you end up on the other side.

    Anywho, don't indulge... moderation is the key. Something i struggle with daily, one of my greatest "flaws" is that i have a highly indulgent (see: addictive) personality. but flaws go both ways. yes, i ended up going the drug route, am still on the smoking route, etc... but then, there is the good side. when i look into an issue, i indulge in its information, and in reading, and have developed an addiction to information about as much as i can find out about, which has led me to where i currently am in life, somewhere i am, for the first time in a long time, happy to be.

    so... flaws.... have a bad rep.
    just like everything, it's balance.
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    Apr 29, 2009 3:32 AM GMT
    Drug use.
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    Apr 29, 2009 3:38 AM GMT
    I'd say chronic drug use (it's unfortunate when someone has this problem).
  • dreamer121

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    Apr 29, 2009 3:59 AM GMT
    RunintheCity said
    Timberoo said3
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    Quoted for truth.

    I've seen pot mentioned in defense of drugs. As someone highly allergic to pot, I'd like to suggest it's not always so harmless as one might assume.


    agreed... I don't know if i'm allergic, if its the scent, or if its just my nerves from being around it... but i feel sick when around it. its always my cue at parties to leave. so i can't really date dudes who're into it so much. (also aggree with the 3,1,4,2).
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    Apr 29, 2009 6:33 AM GMT
    I think of Smoking as the same as Drug Use. To generalize, I'll just go with Drug Use!
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    Apr 29, 2009 6:35 AM GMT
    Looknrnd saidI think of Smoking as the same as Drug Use. To generalize, I'll just go with Drug Use!

    i'll second that; nicotine is a drug - just a legal one.
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    Apr 29, 2009 6:41 AM GMT
    1. drug use
    2. smoking
  • barriehomeboy

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    Apr 29, 2009 7:30 AM GMT
    Of your choices, "other" is the only one that doesn't come with a death sentence. I'll take that one if he's hot and hung.