Frank_AZ saidAs a "straight man", I never considered myself to be attractive. I was average - maybe. Women never really hit on me and rarely were my flirtations returned. (Should have been a strong signal at the time, but then again, I wasn't that perceptive).
But life as a gay man has been great. I get hit on from time to time, and it's a great feeling. Somehow, I became attractive. Maybe it's the goatee, maybe it's the loss of 25 lbs and in much better shape, maybe it's a higher confidence level - I have no idea and maybe it's all of the above. But I am enjoying the hell out of it.
I avoid comparing myself to others, in any category. People are individuals and I can be happy for someone else's success even if that success was something I wanted. So I don't really focus on who's cuter than who.
Im pretty sure its all of the above.... being in better shape breeds confidence, and confidence is attractive.
Anyway, I dunno... my friends yell at me all the time because I say that I'm fat (haha, they really get pissed sometimes) which I think I am, compared to some of the guys on here.... though I'm learning that I am attractive in my own way, which is nice. It's always enjoyable to get hit on and be payed compliments, however, I definitely wouldn't consider myself attractive, nor would I hit on myself if I saw myself in a club, haha.
I honestly think that people with "types" are missing out. Theres many attractive guys out there that arent what one might consider their "type"