how does porn effect relationships?

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    May 01, 2009 9:15 PM GMT
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    May 03, 2009 10:21 AM GMT
    well if you get addicted to porn it will interrupt sexual intimacy with your man. i have read cases where men could not have a orgasm while having sex with their mates because they now sync porn with climaxing....and some men take it as insult or you not wanting them or they didn't do a good job if you don't come during sex.
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    May 04, 2009 3:26 AM GMT
    Good response. I like to watch porn when I'm alone. If I were seeing someone regularly I would cut WAY back. Porn is about creating sexual fantasies that no one can live up to even when they are physically just as hot as the stars. I think it would be okay to watch it to get a bit horned up but if you are using it to rub one out why not save the load for your lover?
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    May 04, 2009 11:57 AM GMT
    watching porn give me and the bf new angles and positions to try.

    unfortunately, what looks erotic and sexy on the screen is seldom as much fun in real life... icon_confused.gif
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    May 04, 2009 1:04 PM GMT
    I suppose it depends on the couple. I've been in different situations where a video got us in the mood, though once where it killed the mood (more on that below).

    I've known guys who see it as a distraction while in bed, others who want to copy all the moves. And my late partner, possibly out of insecurity, got mad if I even looked at nude pics online, considering it a kind of insult to him and almost cheating. But I loved him too much, and he gave me all the sex I needed, so I didn't miss the porn.

    The story: I tricked with this guy briefly when I was a recently-out newbie, and the first time over at his house was a little awkward. I've never been as sexually aggressive as many guys anyway, and neither was he, evidently, so getting started was slow going at first.

    Finally he sat us down on the sofa and put a gay porn tape into the VCR. It turned out to be the most gawd-awful attempt at a military barracks scene, that he thought would appeal to me because of my former career. But I found all the mistakes & flaws too distracting, like the impossibly long non-regulation haircuts, the laughable uniform errors, the Army "bunks" that looked like something from Ikea, the silly dialogue no soldier would speak.

    Finally he got mad at me for playing film critic instead of getting into it. I realized my mistake, because he'd thoughtfully done this just for me, and I apologized, and said a non-military tape would be better for me. He started one, and soon we had our dicks out stroking ourselves, then stroking each other, and finally naked on his bed, the video left behind.

    Porn can be a sexual stimulant under the right circumstances, but a killer under the wrong. Gay porn in an LTR is like anything else: a matter of mutual agreement & accommodation. Anything that pleases both partners is fine; anything that doesn't needs to be negotiated or else nixed. If either partner won't budge, then maybe it's not a good match.
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    May 05, 2009 2:32 AM GMT
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    it kind of spices thing up a little hehe ! ok no more details hehe !icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 07, 2009 1:03 AM GMT
    Can very easily make comment on this posting. My boyfriend and I sometimes watch porn together, other times, not at all. It depends upon our mood and the 'atmosphere' we wish to create.

    just this past weekend, was with him and we started with a porn dvd going..but i could not tell you a thing about the content of the movie. I was so into my man, i couldnt have cared less for what was playing on the television screen. And i know his eyes were on me, and his interest in what WE were doing..not the actors. It was merely there as background for our own sexual intimacy.

    We have watched porn together, while jacking ourselves off...but our attention is always deverted to what the other is doing with himself.


    Before we met, I always used porn in my own personal times of enjoyment. Since meeting him, would rather think of him, what we have done together, and look at the various nude photo's i have of him. That is MORE than enough to push me over the edge. Just my own mind and visual reminder of his fine, naked body...

    And much more of this, and I am going to have to take matters into "my own hands"...lol...
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    May 07, 2009 12:22 PM GMT
    I really think it depends on the relationship and the people involved. Both my boyfriend and I watch porn. For the most part, we use it as a self-pleasuring aid icon_wink.gif. Neither of us have a problem with the other doing so. I also think it's a way to explore fantasies that one of us is more interested in than the other.

    We also appreciate that each other might find certain psychical attributes hot that the other doesn't have. (For example, I like hairy chests, but my boyfriend is naturally smooth.) I guess some guys might see that as a reason to feel not good enough, but we both understand that we can't be every single thing to each other.