Can we make RealJock stay a non-sexually based site? Or will it be taken over by a small group of people into a dirty site?

  • triathleteguy

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    May 03, 2009 9:50 PM GMT
    RealJock has a great opportunity to be something different than all the other gay sites out there.

    Are you sick of getting email's from people you don't know, typically from another state and rarely verified users and them showing off x-rated pictures?

    What purpose is there for having x-rated picture on RJ in the first place? Does that have to be a focus of every gay site out there?

    I think RJ should not allow x-rated picture to be posted, private or public.

    What do you think?
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    May 03, 2009 10:33 PM GMT
    I don´t mind nudes, some of them are very tastefully hot if you know what I mean. Someone sending me pics of their cock or asshole is a near inevitable block, as are the IMs which start

    Ur hot
    wanna cam?
    Im horny
    Wanna see my cock?

    Depends what you mean by X rated. Some pics make me want to be straight, but my "adult" pics I don´t think are really "X" rated.

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    May 03, 2009 10:39 PM GMT
    But it is already both. There are the forums and the chat room which are what is so different about this site. And then there are the thousands of other members who participate in neither but fuck the hell out of everyone.

    And I couldn't love either group more.
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    May 04, 2009 1:01 AM GMT
    I think the site tries too hard to appeal to everyone instead of focusing on developing a core group of users. Most sites that take this route often fail in the long run. I don't own the site so it isn't my place to say what should or should not be acceptable content. However, I can say what is acceptable to me and I do so in my profile and responses to people.
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    May 04, 2009 1:08 AM GMT
    triathleteguy saidI think RJ should not allow x-rated picture to be posted, private or public.

    What do you think?

    I thought RJ already didn't allow X-rated images, even in private. Nudes, yes, but nothing sexually explicit, and I thought even hard-ons were banned, too. How do you define X-rated?

    I'm happy with the way RJ currently is in this regard. (Well, maybe a stiffie in private pics wouldn't kill us)
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    May 04, 2009 1:11 AM GMT

    This is the classic case of scooping the peas offa yer plate if you don't eat them.
    Maybe yer neighbor does, ask if he'll have them.
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    May 04, 2009 1:15 AM GMT
    I can take it...ALL......Variety is my spice of life and if it gets to HOT...I just drink some H2O

    CHILL BRO'S
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    May 04, 2009 1:31 AM GMT
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    May 04, 2009 3:14 AM GMT
    I agree, but what can you do. The site's open to anyone and everyone. I mean people will use anything as a meat market. AA meetings and other support groups, bookstores, social clubs, and sports leagues. People are just too preoccupied with sex. I think that sometimes it's simply about getting any kind of attention. The best thing you can do is ignore the person if they e-mail you up to no good. The internet's pretty much a fantasy land for a lot of people. If you engage them they win, if they get a rise out of you then they win more, and if someone indulges them then they really win.
  • Webster666

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    May 04, 2009 3:18 AM GMT
    You can find nekkid pictures anywhere on the internet.
    It's nice to see some intelligent discussion, for a change.
    I'm really impressed that a site like this can thrive without the sex angle. And, I'm also very impressed with the level of intelligence of the guys here.
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    May 07, 2009 1:57 PM GMT
    I think most RJ members strike a good balance. But lets face it, you can't ignore sexual interest/tension when you get a bunch of good looking intelligent guys together. Men have testosterone which makes them who they are......they flirt.......they make jokes with tongue in cheek sexual references..........they have the same equipment and social issues......and even their dicks get hard when they look at pictures.

    If all RJ members were able to dismiss their inherent sexuality in the name of making this site completely "clean", I would be worried.......I mean, bored.
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    Oct 03, 2009 12:52 PM GMT
    To answer the original poster's question:

    No, I am not sick of getting emails from people I don't know, typically from another state, and rarely verified users and them showing off X-rated pictures.

    Here's why -

    It's never happened to me before on RJ.

    Meanwhile, I agree with Red Vespa.
    X-rated pics are already banned by RealJock, sans the periodic stiffie.
    There are no sex pics on RJ.

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    Oct 03, 2009 12:54 PM GMT
    Yeah, and the quality of conversation is much higher here than in any other gay forum I've ever found...so, yeah, I'm a big fan.
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    Oct 05, 2009 12:27 PM GMT
    Well, since they're now making "Manhunt" their biggest sponsor, what do you expect?

    I'm just really glad they added the "ignore" button.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 05, 2009 12:31 PM GMT
    Leave your "IM" button on off and its helps although I still get quite a number of suggestive e-mails..

    If you don't want them, just ignore them and if you do... proceed..

    LOL

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    Oct 05, 2009 3:27 PM GMT
    All these gay sites are so lazy and new school when it comes to their marketing. I would love to see a site actually take the grassroots approach by going out to gay bars, talking to the people and telling them why their site is different and better. I know tons of people that are fed up with A4A and Manhunt and would love an alternative that isn't so trashy. The problem is that sites like Real Jock spend most of their marketing budget on advertising, mostly interactive I would imagine. If you were going to place an ad for Real Jock, where would you put it? Gay.com? Manhunt? Adam4Adam? Granted, you have some gay online publications, but when you're advertising only online to the people that are already online, you're not going to do much when it comes to truly creating a new community. You're just transferring users from one place to another.
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    Oct 05, 2009 4:02 PM GMT
    RJ is mainly a non sexual site for gay men, and I enjoy the topics of discussion because they relate to me and my interests.

    I always chuckle to myself when I hear someone describe sexually charged stuff as "dirty".....but I digress.

    Still...........collect a bunch of inteligent, sexy guys together and there is no way in hell that anyone can avoid picking up on testosterone vibes and natural instincts. We ain't blind and we ain't priests. That's the way men are wired.

    "Dirty" email pics sent to you don't represent the main reason for this site. If it offends you, then hit the delete button. But let's face it..........visuals are nice to have around when needed.

    Stick to forum topics and other reasons why this site exists.
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    Dec 13, 2013 2:11 PM GMT
    I have a feeling things have changed since then lol
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    Dec 13, 2013 2:58 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidYou know, the classic answer: you don't like the nekkid pics, don't look.
    Block those who send them.
    Hang out with the forum guys, we never get really nasty in here, only wink-and-nudge innuendo-y.


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  • PR_GMR

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    Dec 13, 2013 3:01 PM GMT
    Geez, Tmac. Why bring up a thread from 2009 from someone that posted just once? He posted just once then left. Don't think the OP's opinion matters much.
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    Dec 13, 2013 3:13 PM GMT
    PR_GMR saidGeez, Tmac. Why bring up a thread from 2009 from someone that posted just once? He posted just once then left. Don't think the OP's opinion matters much.

    I was thinking the same thing, how did that guy have any idea how RJ was with only one post…I guess he wasn't into the forum section.

    RJ is unique and as you can tell from the post of 2009, it was unique back then. I'm glad they didn't try and conform to other sites, otherwise, today it would be a site for men and women that workout and would have NO unique relevance to the gay man. This is about the ONLY site I'm aware of that is not a hookup site, a dating site, or a porn blog where gay guys can meet others, discuss everything and still enjoy a little eye candy on occasion.
    Changing it would ruin everything.
  • PR_GMR

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    Dec 13, 2013 3:19 PM GMT
    eb925guy said
    PR_GMR saidGeez, Tmac. Why bring up a thread from 2009 from someone that posted just once? He posted just once then left. Don't think the OP's opinion matters much.

    I was thinking the same thing, how did that guy have any idea how RJ was with only one post…I guess he wasn't into the forum section.

    RJ is unique and as you can tell from the post of 2009, it was unique back then. I'm glad they didn't try and conform to other sites, otherwise, today it would be a site for men and women that workout and would have NO unique relevance to the gay man. This is about the ONLY site I'm aware of that is not a hookup site, a dating site, or a porn blog where gay guys can meet others, discuss everything and still enjoy a little eye candy on occasion.
    Changing it would ruin everything.


    Exactly. Making this a 'standard' fitness site for more users would mean making it a plain, old fitness site for all men in general. This site is supposed to be for a gay audience and we enjoy the occasional 'hot candy'. I don't think anyone wants the site overrun by porn photos. But trying to make this site into something 'more family friendly' is a terrible idea. I hope admin reads this message.
  • MikeW

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    Dec 13, 2013 3:30 PM GMT
    PR_GMR saidI hope admin reads this message.

    Yeah, I hope the admin read this as well.

    One of the disturbing things about RJ is the Admin (whom ever they may be) seem to keep in the background and do not communicate with us in any official way. Occasionally there is a post in a forum but that doesn't cut it, IMO. Consequently a) there is no real dialogue or feedback system in place between the users of this site and the people who own it; and b) there is a sense of uncertainty about what is going on and where it may be headed. This also suggests that the owners/Admin are not apart of the community that exist here and, therefore, really don't care about it or have any interest in being responsive to it.

    I don't know, maybe I have this all wrong but it sure seems that way to me.

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    Dec 13, 2013 4:38 PM GMT
    How would this be a gay site with the sex removed?
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    Dec 13, 2013 5:02 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    triathleteguy saidI think RJ should not allow x-rated picture to be posted, private or public.

    What do you think?

    I thought RJ already didn't allow X-rated images, even in private. Nudes, yes, but nothing sexually explicit, and I thought even hard-ons were banned, too. How do you define X-rated?

    I'm happy with the way RJ currently is in this regard. (Well, maybe a stiffie in private pics wouldn't kill us)


    +1
    This is a very wise answer !