Attention Deficit Disorder

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    Nov 06, 2007 2:07 PM GMT
    This has happened to me so many times I am thinking that there's something in the water supply of Boston: I'm on a date and the person seems to be incapable of focusing on me or conversation. They are usually very high energy and enjoy hearing themselves talk. They are very eager to cut me off before I finish sentences, assuming they know the rest of what I was going to say.
    The punch-line is, I find this completely unattractive, but they seem totally into hanging out with me again at the end of the evening.
    Would this problem be solved if I just threw gallons of ritalin into the drinking water? I'm hesitant because, you know, I wanna get the dosage just right.
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    Nov 06, 2007 3:44 PM GMT
    this is a joke right?

    baby, if i were on a date with you i wouldn't be able to take my eyes OFF you? if you could barely form sentences your words to me would be as sweet as pyramus' to thysbe through chink in wall!icon_wink.gif
  • cowboyupnorth

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    Nov 06, 2007 4:42 PM GMT
    If you threw gallons of ritalin into the drinking water you may be in prison. If that happened my concern would be a lot of your dating partners there would also be ADHD, lol.
    In reality ADHD people often have high energy making this disorder a real plus for them. I would let the person know what they are doing; pointing it out and making him conscious of his behavior will help him correct it. Also having dates after his work out may be helpful. In regards to Ritalin it is a stimulant and for ADD/ADHD people stimulants have a paradoxical effect so fill him up with coffee, tea etc.
    I think sometimes we ADHD people get over excited and or nervous and may interrupt or talk too much. I would hate to miss out on a relationship when I can change my behavior. I am a therapist and an educator so I definitely know how to listen, have empathy and all that other stuff needed for a real relationship. Good Luck
  • treader

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    Nov 06, 2007 11:12 PM GMT

    Haven't noticed this in my neck of the woods in Boston. I've often sensed the opposite problem - gaps in conversation where both people are scrambling to find something else to keep the conversation going. It might be that these people are overcompensating or just bluntly trying to impress you. If it isn't working for you, be assertive. Lastly you don't have to hang with people at the end of the evening that you aren't interested in. You always have options. Use them.
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    Nov 06, 2007 11:14 PM GMT
    LOL

    To funny...

    Throw some crack at it!
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    Nov 06, 2007 11:17 PM GMT
    I'm sorry, but, could you repeat your initial post? I wasn't listening.
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    Nov 07, 2007 12:11 AM GMT
    I have ADHD, some of the behavior you describe I am guilty of. I am also hyper sensative to any kind of movement, so my eyes are usually going as fast as my mouth..LOL I usually explain this when on a date.
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    Nov 07, 2007 2:01 AM GMT
    You need take our date somewhere where you can go shirtless...