How to tell your friends that you are G@y?

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    May 07, 2009 9:02 AM GMT
    I don't know how to do.icon_cry.gif
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    May 07, 2009 10:19 AM GMT
    "I'm gay."
  • GQjock

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    May 07, 2009 11:03 AM GMT
    What? Oh and by the way........

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    But seriously, find the people you really care about and tell them in what ever way you feel most comfortable
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    May 07, 2009 11:23 AM GMT
    as I have said many times.. you choose a fabulous pair of shoes, these will be your coming out shoes.. you choose a fabulous outfit, this will be your comingoutfit and you find a fabulous wand..

    Then, when the moment is right..

    You throw open the doors, you step out in your fabulous shes, your fabulous outfit and you wave your fabulous wand while saying these words and preferably with a heavy lisp..

    "I am gaaaaay my sweet fairies"

    The more of your friends are around the less you get to do this, so, I'd recommend you keep it to max of two people at a time, giving you absolute maximum chance of both showing off your fabulous attire and wand AND allowing you to add to the production every time you do it, then, you can really make it yours ya know..

    Hell by the time I was finished telling people that I'm gaaaaaaaay I had lights, fog machines, disco ball, lubricant showers and this machine that shot rubbers out.. with the thumbing kylie music it was just a fabulous show!
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    May 07, 2009 2:55 PM GMT
    GQjock saidWhat? Oh and by the way........

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    GQjock is right. Just let your friends see you drinking a light beer. icon_wink.gif
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    May 07, 2009 3:22 PM GMT
    UofTLatinBoy said
    GQjock saidWhat? Oh and by the way........
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    GQjock is right. Just let your friends see you drinking a light beer. icon_wink.gif


    Hehe. Nice one, LatinBoy.

    In all seriousness, you have to wait until you feel comfortable, and in a place where you're comfortable. What I've done, and what you might too, is find the friend of yours you know will react the best to this (in all honesty, most, if not all, will have the same "What difference does it make?" reaction). Once you tell that friend, go to the next easiest one to tell, then the next, and so on. Basically, it's the snowball theory - you build up your confidence with each small victory, and before you know it you've told everyone you need to.

    Just keep in mind two things: For your good friends, this is not even an issue, and when you're done with this, you won't ever have to do it again!
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    May 07, 2009 3:22 PM GMT
    I dont tell anybody that im gay, they realize at some point...

    like when i say that guy is hot...and I dont have anything to say when they check on girls and if they ask me if im gay I say: you know it! lol
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    May 07, 2009 3:31 PM GMT
    IF the TRULEY know you....they already know it!

    and at some point their gonna corner you about your relationship ship status...and then simply reply "His name is ........" ;)
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    May 07, 2009 3:32 PM GMT
    thank you
    i will try icon_wink.gif
  • MSUBioNerd

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    May 07, 2009 3:32 PM GMT
    The difficulty lies in pronouncing the @ symbol.

    In all seriousness, most people just go with something along the lines of "There's something I've decided to tell you. I'm gay, and I thought you should know" to tell people they've known for some time. With new friends, you generally just wait until it's appropriate to the conversation at hand, like when they ask you if you have a girlfriend.
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    May 07, 2009 3:37 PM GMT
    This is what I do (or similar):

    Friend: Yo man where were you last night, why didn't you come out with us?
    Me: Oh I was at this gay bar, I met this cool hot guy and got really drunk.
    Friend: Hahaha, oh cool, that sounds..... WAIT WHAT?!?!?!!!
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    May 07, 2009 3:44 PM GMT
    Just change your 'Interested in:' stat on Facebook. They'll figure it out.
  • Anto

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    May 07, 2009 3:53 PM GMT
    UofTLatinBoy said
    GQjock saidWhat? Oh and by the way........

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    GQjock is right. Just let your friends see you drinking a light beer. icon_wink.gif


    I think he meant how you hold the beer.
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    May 07, 2009 3:55 PM GMT
    It's going to be very difficult for you to admit anything to your friends when you're too afraid to even type the word 'gay'. Maybe you should send them an em@il.
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    May 07, 2009 4:00 PM GMT
    jprichva saidOh, I thought this was yet a NEW variant on g0y.


    As did I.

    I note on campus these days that a lot of young ones use Facebooks status data to sort of announce their gay self in a very non-event fashion.
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    May 07, 2009 4:11 PM GMT
    omgwtf saidI don't know how to do.icon_cry.gif


    OH, the drama. Are your friends assholes? If they are, you need new friends. This should be no-brainer.

    Here's the deal. Gay / bi folks are everywhere, but, when all they see are nutcases rainbow cases, lots of folks hide and some folks get completely the wrong idea. Now, likely, one, or more of your friends is into guys, but, messed up in the head, too, just like you. Here's how you fix it: No drama. Just be honest. "Oh, dam that guy is hot." There...you've just told them. It's that easy. Now, unless your friends are clueless, you're the world's best actor, or your friends are complete assholes, they know your preference already. You see, body language, actions, give you away anyway. No drama required. It's just a preference; not a thermonuclear weapon.

    The saying goes: Everybody knows I'm queer but me.

    Sexuality is a non-issue. Homo / bi / hetro sexuality goes around everywhere in nature around us.

    Remember this: come to like yourself; live a life of virtue. The rest will follow. When you like yourself, others will, too. It's THAT EASY. No rocket science required.
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    May 07, 2009 5:01 PM GMT
    Oh this is fun!!

    I've tried several approaches - my favorite though is

    "Hey, remember [that vague reference when you were probably joking and said something that somehow lightly has something to do with being gay or in love or something] ? well.... " (and here you proceed to show a picture of you and a/your lover (or just any hot guy) making out) !

    like so :p

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    of course there's always 20 questions- that one was fun.. just start them off with a fun clue.

    Or the ever popular "casual" one. "So i was talking to Doug yesterday and we were discussing our trip to Chicago..." "wait, who's Doug?" "Dur, my boyfriend? Anyway..." icon_razz.gif

    What i haven't tried yet though is liltanker's idea and i think that one will be next :p I'll have to practice limping my wrists and doing the "gay voice" though....

    *pops torch song trilogy in the DVD player to practice*


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    EDIT:: wait i just caught that.. wtf's up with the @?
  • shoelessj

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    May 07, 2009 5:06 PM GMT
    1) Read Chuckystud's reply again. and again. take it to heart.

    2) if you really want to think and think and plan about it, michelangelo signorile wrote a pretty decent guide to coming out a few years ago. it is a little dated because it was written in the days before everyone had broadband internet connections, but he may have updated it recently. still, its a really good guide for how to talk to everyone from parents to co-workers to friends about "it."

    good luck. you're not alone.


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    May 07, 2009 5:15 PM GMT
    i told my best friend and he just smile to me. then lol i have notthing to sayicon_surprised.gif

    @ is only to make it cute lol
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    May 07, 2009 5:21 PM GMT
    He knew already.....
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    May 07, 2009 5:22 PM GMT
    Wuteva happen to dont ask, dont tell? be a man & human being 1sticon_lol.gif
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    May 07, 2009 5:33 PM GMT
    i have no idea, and actually i havent told any of my best friends about it, kinda hard to tell
  • dionysus

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    May 07, 2009 5:36 PM GMT
    i did it when i was pissed off at my brother.

    im a weird kid and whenever someone asks 'dude, why is your little brother so weird?'

    'aww, dont fret it man, he's gay.'

    'ooooooh'
  • 2theTEE

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    May 07, 2009 5:44 PM GMT
    Anto said
    UofTLatinBoy said
    GQjock saidWhat? Oh and by the way........

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    GQjock is right. Just let your friends see you drinking a light beer. icon_wink.gif


    I think he meant how you hold the beer.



    Yep, it's all through body language. When holding anything, an erect pinky finger says it all.
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    May 07, 2009 7:05 PM GMT
    Don't worry about being subtle about it, either icon_biggrin.gif

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