The loss of your beloved pet

  • zakariahzol

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    May 07, 2009 12:27 PM GMT
    Well, my cat Charlie died today. She have been with me for almost 9 years , living with me in 2 cities, 2 houses and was part of my life for all this times. I have a warm and sweet memory of her. Cuddling, feeding her and her kitten, and playing with her. I plan to buried her in my garden, underneath a stone Japanese lantern (so I can lit a candle when I feel like remembering her).

    Any body else been through the death of their beloved pet? I just need a little comfort.
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    May 07, 2009 2:00 PM GMT

    Oh gosh, zak, we've been through this many times, although usually the passing away happens after about 17 or 18 years. Grief is the measure of how much you loved. You obviously love well and deeply. There's much to admire in that, you know.

    Hang in! -the guys
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    May 07, 2009 2:10 PM GMT
    Zak, I'm sorry for the loss of your beloved pet. You'll always have great memories to comfort you. I'm betting your cat appreciated all the love you gave her. No doubt she loved you too - in her way. My belief is that our pets wait for us at the gates of Heaven - and if that is true - you'll see her again someday - and be reunited forever in eternity.
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    May 07, 2009 2:15 PM GMT
    I'm sorry for your loss, Zach. It sounds like you loved your cat a great deal.
  • got2get2it

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    May 07, 2009 2:17 PM GMT
    I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I loss my first dog, Cleo, in 2004. She was 9 yrs old and had been with me since she was a 6 week old puppy.

    It was really hard at first, but things eventually got better. I now have another dog, G-Dog, who will never replace Cleo, but is special in his own way.

    Hang in there, things will get better.
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    May 07, 2009 2:25 PM GMT

    I'm so sorry for your loss. It's amazing that such a little creature can leave such a big hole in your heart. Try and fill that hole with all the great memories Charlie left you.

    I do understand the pain and grief. When our little Ruby died a little over 3 years ago, we were devastated. We cried a lot the first few days, and bouts of sadness would occur over the next month. And we still miss her, even though we have a new cat now. We love Bijou just as much as we did Ruby, but we haven't forgotten Ruby and still think of her fondly. I know you feel the same way about Charlie.

    Also, it is okay to be sad and to grieve for Charlie. She was a part of your life and she is still part of your heart.

  • vindog

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    May 07, 2009 2:43 PM GMT
    I'm still wrecked over Vincent, I haven't thrown his last bowl of food away...he died in July 08.

    I still think about him everyday...and you will too with Charlie. I've usually had two dogs, so having another one there always helped.

  • calibro

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    May 07, 2009 2:45 PM GMT
    I feel far ya buddy. I don't think you ever not feel the loss from losing a companion, be it person or animal. Pets love us unconditionally regardless of our looks, our wallet size, etc... hard not to miss a fella who asks for so little, but thinks everything of the world of you.
  • zakariahzol

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    May 07, 2009 3:08 PM GMT
    Thank guys I appreciated the comforting word. Its wonderful to have friend from all over the world saying this things just over a loss of a cat. For those who loss their beloved pet, condolence to you from me.

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    May 07, 2009 3:18 PM GMT

    .....that's our Zak! icon_wink.gif
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    May 07, 2009 4:16 PM GMT
    Rainbow Bridge

    Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
    When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

    All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
    They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

    You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

    Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

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    May 07, 2009 4:20 PM GMT
    Zak, my thoughts are with you. I know how you feel.
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    May 07, 2009 4:51 PM GMT
    I know how attached we get to our pets....they're part of the family. Sorry, for your loss.
  • joshuainsf

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    May 07, 2009 6:57 PM GMT
    Hi Zak,

    My heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry.

    In late April I lost my amazing pooch, Luke.

    I can say, without a doubt... these have been the most emotionally challenging past few weeks. Faced with the 'decision' (after an accident) whether Luke would be able to adjust to a new and additional crippling handicap (he was born blind).. and what the quality of his life would be..... It was the hardest choice I have had to make thus far in my life. If I loved him... I would want what is best for him. No matter how hard it would be/has been for me.

    In my heart, I know that Charlie would want what is best for you... hold her memories closely... and know that her spirit lives on within you. Your heart will heal in time.

    While I still (yes, right now!) find myself crying at odd times... it still brings me joy seeing someone else walking their dog. I am still coming out of 'hiding', so to speak... all healing will take place in your own time.

    Don't allow the devastation of your loss to hold you back from opening your heart to another companion when you are ready. There are many wonderful animals out there who would benefit from a loving heart, such as yours. Again... all when you're ready.

    Reaching out (as you are doing), is a very brave step.

    Animals have a way of holding up a mirror to us and showing us how 'good' we can be.

    Charlie came into your life for a reason. Honor her memory... and take what she has taught you... and let it bring out the best in you.

    Warm hug for you,
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 08, 2009 2:45 AM GMT
    I'm certainly very sorry in reading this and the loss of your cat. I totally understand where you are coming from and I'm sure its very difficult after 9 years. My thoughts are certainly with you and I think the burial place and the approach you are taking sounds very nice.

    I've had quite a number of dogs (and 1 cat) that I've lost over the years .. since age 7. The worst experience was when I was about 30 when I ran over the new maltese puppy I had been given with my Dad's car. I can still get pretty emotional over that one even to this day..... but they all have a special place in my heart... and my cat did as well. Just think about all the good times.. never forget those.
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    May 08, 2009 2:48 AM GMT
    Sorry to hear about your loss. I believe you'll see your cat again someday. I believe pets go to heaven icon_smile.gif
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    May 08, 2009 3:02 AM GMT
    I have lost many pets in my lifetime. in 03 when i lost my Dalmatian of 12 years after a fairly long battle with seizures I went out and adopted a black lab male, adult. He was gorgeous, but less than a year later we found out he had cancer, and after months of chemo, no doubt prolonging his life as long as possible, we lost him. After that there was a break in pets for about 4 months, and then I got a great Pyrenees from another rescue. This dog is the love of my life, he is amazing in so many ways, and I find even newer ways each week. Luckily he is only four, and I hope I can spend years with him healthy happy and fondly. Sorry for your loss
  • beaujangle

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    May 08, 2009 3:17 AM GMT
    Yeah, been through that a few times.

    The most recent one was in 2005 when I was in overseas for 5 weeks. My dog was already old & weak & had to be put down and my mother spoke to me on the phone about putting her to sleep. I agreed.

    Later I cried.