Well, as a matter of fact, most of you who have read my posts on here know that although I consider myself Gay, I'm technically bi, in that I enjoy sex with women, and have had girlfriends in the past.
But, the purpose of this reply is to mention only one: Eva.
Eva and I met in 1980, and stayed together all these years as "significant other" to each other, even though I've had a few boyfriends in that time, and have a wonderful man in my life now.
Eva died this week, after suffering a massive heart attack a couple of weeks ago . She was 56. She and I were each other's Gemini twin; her birthday was June 2, mine is June 18.
I am glad that she had a chance to meet and briefly get to know my BF. She liked him very much, and thought he and I were great together. He liked her too, and he has been right there for me this last couple of weeks that she was in a coma and we had to drive 3 hours each way to see her. D, if you read this, you have been so giving and generous to me, both during this time and in general, and I will strive to earn the love and respect you've given me.
Eva and I meant more than just BF/GF to each other. We were each other's family in many respects. Even though we didn't live together (we're both VERY solitary and territorial) she was a MAJOR aspect of my life, and as much as I love my BF, I'm quite beside myself over losing Eva. I know that, in time, the pain will become bearable.
I guess I just wanted to share this with you because, in my world, even if one is Gay, one can still have a loving, meaningful, and yes, sexual, relationship with a member of the opposite sex without it being a betrayal to what it means to be Gay. Eva allowed me to do that, and at the same time gave me two wonderful step-children, who are now themselves young adults. Eva and I were totally open to each other about our relationships, and as a result, had a much stronger relationship than some married couples I've seen.
She was a totally giving person, but unfortunately many people (especially men) took advantage of that and never gave anything back in return. But, as much as it could get her down, she was always ready to help others, and gave of herself above and beyond the call of duty or friendship.
She was a wonderful, bright spot on Earth. I'll miss her terribly.Eva and I Thanksgiving, 2008