Hallmark/Holiday Card peeves

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    May 10, 2009 2:33 PM GMT
    Does anyone really keep them? Or do you read them then throw them away? icon_exclaim.gif

    As for me, I prefer not buying into it as the questions stated above deters me from doing so. So whenever I get a present attached with a card, I accept it as a nice gesture, but I discreetly don't keep it (card). But really I don't like receiving them. Is that wrong?

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  • ShawnTX

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    May 10, 2009 5:03 PM GMT
    This may make me sound really lame, but I keep all the xmas, bday cards, etc. i get from family and friends.
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    May 10, 2009 5:58 PM GMT
    i'm not a card or flower person, ever. yes, i keep a stash of old cards i've gotten in a drawer at home because i can't just throw them away, but i resent the guilt trip of having to keep that useless paper clutter around; flowers die in a week and are a symbol of impermanence to me in my mind, and they're useless besides which, so i'd rather not get or give them either. in my book, jewelry's always the answer, to give or receive icon_smile.gif
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    May 10, 2009 7:02 PM GMT
    I see cards and flowers as a total waste. Any flowers get passed on to someone who may enjoy them and cards go directly into file 13.
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    May 10, 2009 8:12 PM GMT
    Keep 'em all here... I must be a pack ratt....
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    May 10, 2009 8:21 PM GMT
    Keep all cards from my partner, and save Chrsitmas cards for a year at least, so I can go back and check addresses, see what people wrote, look at photos, etc.. Helps writing notes for current year's cards.
    On a packrat note, saved all my letters from my Mom and Dad, and some other friends and relations, from the time I left home in 65 until they died.
  • DCEric

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    May 10, 2009 8:25 PM GMT
    We no longer get each other cards. Giving them to us is a waste. We give them to others because they enjoy it.
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    May 10, 2009 8:45 PM GMT
    I don't keep bithday cards. unless its a big one like 19 was for me.. (Age of drinking in Canada) I got a card from a family friend after I came out that was really nice, and any other cards that stand out I keep.

  • somedaytoo

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    May 10, 2009 8:46 PM GMT
    I recycle them after about a week.
  • Rookz

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    May 10, 2009 8:50 PM GMT
    Cards are for people you care for, you wish them well and not financially able to give them gifts (or maybe you don't know what to give them). Unless the cards have something memorable written in it, then keep it. Otherwise don't bother and recycle.

    But then again, as an artist I don't bother with cards (I can make if needed) or give folks flowers (bouquets are just beautiful dead things).
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    May 10, 2009 9:22 PM GMT
    I've given up writing Christmas, Birthday and Greeting-cards 20 years ago, mostly because I don't care getting them myself. Everything goes right into the recycle bin, especially happy holiday cards from suppliers I work with.

    When I sign birthday cards for colleagues at work I always try to write something witty and am disappointed if in return I get only 'all the best to you's.


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    May 10, 2009 9:39 PM GMT
    We display for a year the annual occasion cards we give each other (birthday, Valentines, anniversary, etc), on some glass shelves that work well for that purpose. Then they go into a drawer.

    And I always get perverse pleasure selecting them in the Hallmark store, where I buy most of mine. Cause I get the "Husband" ones, me standing next to the wives getting theirs, as they stare and do double-takes at me. LOL!

    Not always easy finding a good one, because many tend to have a female theme, and say from your "Wife" with images of a man & woman's hands clasped together, and that sort of thing. But I always find one that manages to work from another man, and has the words I want to say.

    Sometimes I get a second card just for fun from a gay store, some totally obscene thing of a hunky nude guy with a pop-up hard-on or whatever. And that's what we often get for our gay friends, to amuse & embarrass them (the few than can even be embarrassed). Although we always treat Christmas & Hanukkah seriously, and try for lovely cards our friends will enjoy displaying.
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    May 11, 2009 1:42 AM GMT
    The art of card giving is or has fallen by the wayside with the onset and advances of technology. Gone are the personal, handwritten letters ( and the price of cheap stamps) of old (even phone calls). So I appreciate the cards I receive and take care in getting a good card for those who I send them to for holidays, birthdays or just because. They can do alot to make people smile or raise their spirits, especially when things are going badly for them.
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    May 11, 2009 2:02 AM GMT
    ErikTaurean saidThe art of card giving is or has fallen by the wayside with the onset and advances of technology. Gone are the personal, handwritten letters ( and the price of cheap stamps) of old (even phone calls). So I appreciate the cards I receive and take care in getting a good card for those who I send them to for holidays, birthdays or just because. They can do alot to make people smile or raise their spirits, especially when things are going badly for them.

    I suppose a foolish vanity on my part, but selecting the right card has always been very important to me, a kind of art form. And all my BFs have never failed to remark on them being obviously extra special. I'll spend more than an hour in a greeting card store, and go to several if I need to, looking for:

    - something visually stunning
    - in a style & color he likes
    - having words with a special private meaning
    - romantic sentiments (not "You're a good friend")

    And then I use a pen with a matching color (if I don't have one already I get one), and write something personal of my own. Finally, the gift wrap is coordinated with the card. Trust me, they always notice these details, and appreciate the trouble I go to.
  • Timbales

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    May 11, 2009 2:06 AM GMT
    I keep cards for about two weeks to a month.
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    May 11, 2009 2:11 AM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    ErikTaurean saidThe art of card giving is or has fallen by the wayside with the onset and advances of technology. Gone are the personal, handwritten letters ( and the price of cheap stamps) of old (even phone calls). So I appreciate the cards I receive and take care in getting a good card for those who I send them to for holidays, birthdays or just because. They can do alot to make people smile or raise their spirits, especially when things are going badly for them.

    I suppose a foolish vanity on my part, but selecting the right card has always been very important to me, a kind of art form. And all my BFs have never failed to remark on them being obviously extra special. I'll spend more than an hour in a greeting card store, and go to several if I need to, looking for:

    - something visually stunning
    - in a style & color he likes
    - having words with a special private meaning
    - romantic sentiments (not "You're a good friend")

    And then I use a pen with a matching color (if I don't have one already I get one), and write something personal of my own. Finally, the gift wrap is coordinated with the card. Trust me, they always notice these details, and appreciate the trouble I go to.


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    May 11, 2009 2:18 AM GMT

    We have a collection of cards that have a 20 year history. Each other's.

    Sometimes we take them out and re-read them, full of passion, humour, sometimes sorrows. They have a power in their own right....

    Cards with nothing really personal or special about them are eventually recycled. The intent behind any card is what counts.


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    May 11, 2009 4:35 AM GMT
    Red_Vespa saidSometimes I get a second card just for fun from a gay store, some totally obscene thing of a hunky nude guy with a pop-up hard-on or whatever. And that's what we often get for our gay friends, to amuse & embarrass them (the few than can even be embarrassed). Although we always treat Christmas & Hanukkah seriously, and try for lovely cards our friends will enjoy displaying.

    Now those types of cards are a cynosure worth keeping. It's something different and nothing of the norm. It makes me laugh. In contrast, I could interject a situation that happened at work, but it's the complete opposite.

    Someone in my work group were leaving the company, and our supervisor decided to get us to sign a card that said on the cover "We only make fun of people who aren't here to defend themselves". I was like (oh my gosh .. this person is surely gonna trash this card). Our boss tends to gossip ever so often with people he works with, so I would empathize if they did throw it out first chance they get. Yeah.

    You'd think he'd get something mundane of a card, but either way I look at it, 'Boring' it gets thrown away; and 'Teased' it gets thrown away. Haha!
  • GQjock

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    May 11, 2009 11:00 AM GMT
    I use them for toilet paper ....

    ... but the ones with the sequins? They really hurt icon_wink.gif
  • Webster666

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    May 12, 2009 5:00 AM GMT
    I keep the ones from boy friends (while they're still boy friends). LOL.
    It's amazing to look back at the really nice things they wrote in a card, and to realize that they really did love you.............................once.

    But, the whole greeting card business has gone to hell. Have you tried to find one that's funny ? They stopped making them. Well, what really happened is that the ones that are supposed to be funny are just dumb.