Well considering the caliber of sex you are having, can you complain? If you don't want to be treated meaningless, don't have meaningless sex. If you want more, demand more. By the way, an outstretched foot is all it takes to teach a fleeing tric a nasty lesson.
In another thread, I said communication is key in most settings. Many gay men seem to expect their partner/sex partner to know by mind reading what they want.
Communication works with the waitress at your favorite bistro (if you don't tell her no mayo.....), and this works with the grocery store bagger (apparently he needs reminding that the eggs don't go under the 12 pack of ginger-ale). Good communication works in most situations so why would you then consider crawling into bed with somebody (partner or tric), and not give the poor man an idea of what you want?Tell them
and be just as selfish as they are being. Stick to your guns and make yourself clear that you want what you want or they won't get what they want. If during the sex, you're not getting what you want.....you have the right to stop the sex, get dressed and leave or if it's your place, tell him to get the fuck out. If he doesn't listen, call the cops.....oh lord, i'm gonna get you hurt. ...................................................
What you are describing, I avoid by telling the person, "Hey, i'm a sensitive vers, I need you to show a little compassion, need you stayin for a while....basically treat me like a gentleman. What do you know, they do it (on the rare instances I have sex....cause it ain't often
If you are thinking most dishonorables will just lie. Don't underestimate dishonorable men: how can they succesfully avoid a concept they don't fully understand. Ofcourse, sometimes that can just be owed to ignorance. You'll be surprised to ask a man the questions you need too and how forthcoming he'll be, basically telling you "no, I don't care if you get off, i'll leave when i'm done," and then grin expecting you to swoon because he's so sexy you should jump at the chance.