Attracted to a guy's smell...Thoughts?

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    May 12, 2009 6:54 AM GMT
    I want to start off by saying I'm fairly new and this is my first post (though I have been reading for a while). Anyway, let me also say that I’m not “out”, so I’ve never done anything with a guy, but I’m quite sure I’m gay.

    I've had several big crushes (one of them was almost disastrous for me...long story), which would all last for around a year but fizzle. But the current one I've had has lasted for around a year, but it's not fizzling (in fact, it's stronger I think).

    I'll refer to this guy as Chris. Anyways, last year, Chris was a freshman in high school while I was a senior. I sort of knew him (meaning I knew his name and knew what he looked like but that was it). Back then, I thought he was extremely cute, but other than that, I didn't really think a whole lot about him. However, this past summer after I had graduated, I spent most of that summer at my cousin's and Chris would come over a lot and played ping-pong. That's when I really spent a lot of time around him. The attraction I felt to him grew and grew, and soon, I was head over heals (my other crushes would pretty much start off strong right away).

    And the attraction I felt towards him seemed more than just physical unlike my others. I felt drawn to him somehow. It was like there was a magnetic force between us whenever I was around him the past summer. My heart would pound everytime we talked. I would get butterflies when I knew he was coming.

    Anyways, after this past summer ended, college began for me and he was back in high school, so I hardly saw him at all after that. Even though I hardly saw him, I still couldn't stop thinking about him (my other crushes I could get over in a few months, but not him).

    So, a few days ago, my cousin called and asked if I wanted to play ping-pong, and he said that Chris was coming too. Of course, I came. When I arrived at my cousin's house, I saw that my cousin had just arrived himself, and we listened to the radio waiting on Chris. Well, my cousin said he had to go inside to take a poop and he would be back out. After a few minutes, Chris pulled up, and I stepped out of my car to talk (I about scared him to death lol). We talked about how this past year was for the both of us and about how our siblings (both of whom are in the 7th grade) are boyfriend and girlfriend. I then told him that he should be back out pretty soon. So, we just stood there for a while after we had run out of things to talk about, which was very nice. At one point, I felt I was in a daze. That magnetic force was the strongest it had ever been. Part of me felt like he was feeling the exact same thing, and it seemed he was looking at me like I was him. I felt myself drawing slightly closer to him. Then, somehow, I managed to wake up from my daze, and I said "Well, I thought my cousin was coming back out. Either he's doing something else or it's a really long poop." He just laughed and I said "Well, you wanna go inside." He's just like "It don't matter", but we did (even though I actually didn't want to). It turns out that my cousin was inside texting his girlfriend!

    So, we played ping-pong for a few hours, which was nice, and after that, Chris had to go. He had been sitting in a chair when he wasn't playing, and when he left, I sat in the chair. I actually did not realize he had been sitting there, and while I was sitting there, I could feel that attraction even though he wasn't there. I sniffed the chair and the feeling I had was extremely strong. Wow! And yes, I'm quite sure I wasn't just smelling some kind of cologne or deodorant. I can't describe how the smell was. It was just his smell

    So, I realize now that his smell turns me on (of course, his looks and personality do too), and I remember reading about how humans emit a smell that attracts others like other animals do (of course, we are animals too). I searched online, and I read about a website that matches you up based on DNA: http://www.scientificmatch.com/. You take a saliva-swab to test your DNA, and then you are matched up with your ideal partner. According to this site, being scientifically matched means that couples have a better chance of loving the smell of their partner and enjoying better sex. I haven't actually used the website, and the site doesn't actually say whether they set up homosexual couples in the same way. Still, I thought it was interesting.

    So, I was just wondering what everyone else's thoughts were on this? I tried to look to see if a similar topic had been discussed, but I didn't see one. Unfortunately, this guy I like has a girlfriend, which I know doesn't necessarily mean he's straight, but he just doesn't show any of the stereotypes that he's gay (and usually, those are the guys I'm attracted to). Still, I can't help but wonder...
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    May 12, 2009 7:28 AM GMT
    It's just a little crush (crush)
    Not like I faint every time we touch
    It's just some little thing (crush)
    Not like everything I do depends on you
    Sha-la-la-la
    Not like I faint every time we touch
    It's just some little thing
    Not like everything I do depends on you
    Sha-la-la-la
    Not like I faint every time we touch
    It's just some little thing
    Not like everything I do
    Depends on you

    With kind permission of Jennifer Paige
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    May 12, 2009 7:39 AM GMT
    yes I know exactly what you are talking about, you are young, horny, and there is such a thing called pheromones, go with it, be safe and have funicon_wink.gif
  • KansasColt09

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    May 12, 2009 7:45 AM GMT
    human nature....I still remember the way the guy that I lost it to smelled....combination of sweat and muscle...damn, just the thought of that smell or if I smell something like it still makes me ready for actionicon_twisted.gif
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    May 12, 2009 7:53 AM GMT
    KansasColt09 saidhuman nature....I still remember the way the guy that I lost it to smelled....combination of sweat and muscle...damn, just the thought of that smell or if I smell something like it still makes me ready for actionicon_twisted.gif



    hot....

  • GIVEME10

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    May 12, 2009 8:19 AM GMT
    You're not imagining things. I've gone through that same thing. I met a guy that was perfect in everyway for me except he was already spoken for. The first night we made love was incredable; it was as though we were perfectly matched physically and his scent was actually intoxicating. After I got home, I called him and told him that I could still smell him and that the taste of him was at moment overwhelming me! I was back in his bed within thirty minutes - Inhaling, tasting, sweating. Damn, I miss him!icon_wink.gif[size=5]
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    May 12, 2009 8:22 AM GMT
    I've been with 2 guys that did it for me like that. It is intoxicating and it is a beautiful thing. I hope it happens again. Nothing like that level of connection.
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    May 12, 2009 2:18 PM GMT
    I agree that man musk smell really makes me salute and it is way better smelling than anything that comes out of a bottle.icon_twisted.gif
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    May 12, 2009 2:48 PM GMT
    Scent...........powerful, primal and very important.
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    May 12, 2009 2:51 PM GMT
    There was a study done a few years ago where women were asked to gauge a man's attractiveness solely by the smell of his gym clothes after a workout. Turns out each women picked smells that correlated to different properties regarding immune system and genetic variation of the gene pool. It's hypothesized that you're attracted to other via smell who would produce genetically mixed offspring in order to combine both gene pools.
  • hoo4u

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    May 12, 2009 3:05 PM GMT
    As Lynyrd Synyrd opined, "Ooh ooooh that smell. Can't you smell that smell?"

    It's hard wired in our DNA. Enjoy the ride. Hope he likes your scent as well.icon_biggrin.gif

    Oh and that is really great soft core porn surrounding that question.

    My OH my!
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    May 12, 2009 3:07 PM GMT
    Thing is, in my case, when HIS pheromones/scent/smell came into the equation... that's when it got scary/ really really real... I was in love and because it was the first time, I didn't know what this new emotion I was experiencing was or how to handle it. I know exactly what you are talking about. Except it was in my bed and all over my covers and pillows. It was a 4 year deal and love is when you want it to go away but after a long time it still won't and EVERYTHING reminds you of that one guy. Be careful to call it anything more than "young-love" which is a heavy crush. You know you are gay which is a huge step because you can admit to yourself who you really are. That is a big deal in itself and one you should be proud of. However, with him, it sounds like he is straight from what you describe and probably cannot give you what you need or desire. Be careful with your heart, its the hardest thing to mend once its broken. I truly think you are best to let this one go (from what I read and from what I've experienced) and realize it was a learning process that has made you more aware. All the best joshwall60.
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    May 12, 2009 3:18 PM GMT
    If this kat has a girlfriend, back off broicon_exclaim.gif keep it simple.
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    May 12, 2009 3:26 PM GMT
    Scent is way more powerful than most people realize. If you already have a crush on someone, its one of the primary ways you remember things/people, so every time you smell him it will force a mental image of him. They say that scent is the strongest memory cue you have - even smelling something that smells the same as something did 40 years ago can trigger the memory.

    They have recently discovered that Humans do actually have pheromone receptors, for a very long time it was believed that we don't... but we do.

    So add those to the scent memory cues of a guy u got a crush on and you've got love!
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    May 12, 2009 3:51 PM GMT
    I had just come out in 1995, and my gay mentor took me to my first crowded gay bar. It was The Cuff in Seattle, if any of you know it, but the smaller version back then.

    The place was packed, and I started to get a bit light-headed, my heart pounding. But I was euphoric, too, like a kid in a candy store, not the least bit intimidated or scared.

    And I remember thinking to myself: "These guys smell GOOD!" But not just because some were wearing various scents, since usually colognes and after-shaves annoy me, and which I don't use myself. No, I had a sense I was smelling something, but without knowing what.

    It was something else that I sensed, but couldn't understand or recognize, just some vague impression I had. But it happened again in other crowded gay places I'd visit, when guys were getting hot & sweaty, that didn't happen in quieter and less packed gay lounges and settings.

    Years later I read about the effects of pheromones on humans, and I'm convinced that's what was happening to me. I also recall some Swedish studies that suggest pheromone attraction is based on sexual orientation, not on gender alone.

    So that gay people of the same-sex will be drawn to each other by a subconscious scent, just as straight men & women are drawn to the opposite-sex. Which has led to the conclusion that orientation is likely inherent, not learned, since one cannot chose to have a subconscious reaction to a smell we cannot directly recognize.
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    May 12, 2009 3:58 PM GMT
    Nothing hotter than a musky crotch and pits.

    I said musky, not stinky. icon_confused.gif Some men don't remember the difference.
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    May 12, 2009 4:06 PM GMT
    calibro saidThere was a study done a few years ago where women were asked to gauge a man's attractiveness solely by the smell of his gym clothes after a workout. Turns out each women picked smells that correlated to different properties regarding immune system and genetic variation of the gene pool. It's hypothesized that you're attracted to other via smell who would produce genetically mixed offspring in order to combine both gene pools.



    That's exactly what I was going to say (but less well-phrased that you managed)! Such cool stuff...



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    May 12, 2009 4:26 PM GMT
    Not only is scent a powerful gauge of attraction for people, but for those in relationships, the scent of your partner can be a comforting thing. I have a few of my bf's shirts and when he is gone over the summers, I can smell his scent on them when I put them on, and when I'm missing him really bad, it gives me a lot of comfort.
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    May 12, 2009 4:41 PM GMT
    The last guy i was with said more than once that i smelled like a "man" . So I guess he was diggin it too.
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    May 12, 2009 4:45 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidNot only is scent a powerful gauge of attraction for people, but for those in relationships, the scent of your partner can be a comforting thing. I have a few of my bf's shirts and when he is gone over the summers, I can smell his scent on them when I put them on, and when I'm missing him really bad, it gives me a lot of comfort.


    i can relate to that. totally agree!!!
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    May 12, 2009 5:09 PM GMT
    Hey Gents, remember at the end ot the movie, Brokeback Mountain?, where he visits his boyfriends parents after his murder? Well, his boyfriends mother takes him to his room and leaves him there alone. He removes his lovers shirt from the closet; clutches it to his face, inhales deeply and breaks down in tears and sobes uncontrollably. That scene gets to me everytime man..... everytime. Tito, I need a tissue. Just imagine, the love of your life taken away from you and all you've got left of him is an old shirt with his scent.
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    May 13, 2009 1:38 AM GMT



    Sorry, I just couldn't resist!
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    May 13, 2009 1:48 AM GMT
    I'll be honest, I ended up meeting a guy because i loved his cologne. He was in the club and came up to talk to me, and wasn't exactly my type, but was charming, sweet, and smelt amazing. He smelt soo good that everytime someone is wearing the same cologne i literally stop and look for who it is. Its an Yves St. Laurent blue cologne, just like heaven ! icon_cool.gif
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    May 13, 2009 2:03 AM GMT
    If I don't like the way a guy smells, it's hard to get excited.
    In fact, if a guy's smell repels me, it's hard to imagine wanting more from the interaction.

    Meanwhile, if I really, really like a guy, come to think of it, I love the way they smell.
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    May 13, 2009 3:49 AM GMT
    I wrote above that I might be reacting to male pheromones when in crowded places containing many men. I never felt that strong a sensation with a single man. But one claimed he did with me.

    He knew me for 2 years, and we lived together for 1. What he said he liked about me was that the only scent I gave off was fresh-washed & natural, that I never had a dirty odor, nor perfumed.

    It's true I certainly showered at least once a day, and used unscented shampoo, soap & deodorant, because I dislike using scents. And I only wear my clothes once before they go into the laundry hamper, with the exception of jeans and cargo shorts. But even they only get 2 or 3 days wear at most, provided I haven't perspired in them.

    So I guess I always did smell freshly scrubbed to him, and that's what this guy liked. But I have no idea if my lacking any artificial scent made it easier for him to sense my natural pheromones.