Interracial Dating-Is it for you?

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 6:58 AM GMT
    Some guys by default and because of their comfort level, date within their race. Some are just attracted to their own kind. And then there are those that like to be open to a broader spectrum.

    Some years ago, the first guy I dated was white and his friends looked at him like he had two heads when he told them about dating a black guy.

    Question is: Would you be open to interracial dating?

    Ps. I think a guy's HOT LIST is a telltale sign of who catches his attention.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 7:08 AM GMT
    I'm more concerned about other things before skin colour comes into it..

    Like.. are they a good person, are they funny, nice, are they hot, do they make me smile, am I enamored by them, are they respectful to people, do they smile, is there something that makes me go woof..

    Then I might think or, there african/african american/Asian/French/British/Indian, what ever.. but thats more from a cultural stand point then there having different physical features..

    So.. short answer

    Yes I'd be cool with it

    And I wanna take GG out on a date if I'm in the US.. even if he's got someone, purely platonic just so I can spend a few hours chatting to him!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 7:13 AM GMT
    Well, being an Asian-American boy growing up in OC-Southern California, inter-racial dating is not a strange thing to me. (yes, even in the gay community). In my own case, when I first came out (21ish), the first guy I dated was White in SF, then I moved to LA - I dated a couple of Latin/Mexican/South American boys. Then, I started seeing a Chinese/Viet guy and a Mixed Black guy. Then, thing and shit happened I guess, now I'm back in SF seeing a different guy (he's Italian something). icon_biggrin.gif Whatever float your boat, go for it. I've also messed around with a couple of English boys when they were here on Vacation (when I'm single), yes, I'm pretty bad - thinking about my *List. icon_cool.gif I think there are some guys into guys who just look like them (*ahem, abercrombie types), others seek out different guys. It's cool, we don't need to pass judgment since straight people did that enough already. icon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 8:21 AM GMT
    Totally fine with inter-racial dating, prefer to in fact - partly cause where I live I'd better be fine with it cause there would be an extreme lack of opportunity otherwise. My best bud is Arab, got a few very good Asian friends - did I mention my weakness is chocolate icon_smile.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 8:32 AM GMT
    It is sort of automatic with me. Most of the physical features I am attracted to are most often found in guys who don't look like me (see hot list). I also think it would be hypocritical of me to not do so or turn down a date from someone who doesn't look like me. I've been around it all my life. Both of my parents are children of interracially mixed parents. While I can understand not being attracted to certain types, I think being dismissive of an entire ethnic group is pretty heinous since most all ethnic groups come in a variety of shapes, sizes and colors. But each has to live with him or her self and if they can do that, cool for them.

    As I told a former friend of mine who is black and asked me why I couldn't find a decent black guy to day, just because my bf doesn't look like me doesn't mean he isn't me. And just because you look like me, doesn't mean you are. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 9:58 AM GMT
    I don't date other races, I exclusively stick to dating humans icon_lol.gif
  • TallSoCal

    Posts: 321

    May 13, 2009 10:05 AM GMT
    judoguy saidI don't date other races, I exclusively stick to dating humans icon_lol.gif


    Very well said. There is only one race, and that's THE HUMAN RACE!
  • NursePractiti...

    Posts: 232

    May 13, 2009 10:06 AM GMT
    I've dated all kinds of guys from a variety or racial backgrounds. (is that even a proper term?) I am attracted to the person, not ethnicity. Only one person has ever reacted odd to my dating a non Caucasian.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 10:49 AM GMT
    Date whoever you're attracted to and treats you with respect. Race doesn;t fit into that. It's secondary. More like Tertiary
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 10:57 AM GMT
    I've dated other races and never heard anything from my friends. White, black, brown, green, yellow, red, blue all colors. I have like half a dozed mixed couples in my social group at home. Now I did go out w/this guy from Raleigh who is black. Well he told me his black friends back home could never understand his dating white guys. Said he caught alot of flack about the whole thing. Kinda sad.
  • Medic911

    Posts: 152

    May 13, 2009 11:01 AM GMT
    Absolutely!

    I'm attracted to anyone with a good heart and a great smile (abs and pecs help, too). But I'm totally attracted to Blacks, Whites, Asians, Indians (both dots and feathers), and of course... the Latinos *wink*.


    Love is love, attraction is attraction... and somewhere, somehow, those 2 meet in a wild and fun combination known as "passion".


    Bring it on, ethnic diversity.

    yum
  • stevendust

    Posts: 398

    May 13, 2009 11:02 AM GMT
    I was raised around Mexicans, and was practically part of the family, so I think it made pretty good sense that my first boyfriend was Mexican. I've dated a couple since. I think it's just something that I already have down so why try to learn a whole new dynamic? If that even makes sense...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 11:05 AM GMT
    im all for it..but this happened with both my exes, their family, close friends weren't too thrilled and it ended up making me feel like a pet project for the guy...to see if he could really date outside of his ethnic group... Its hard to believe that people aren't open minded in these times but hey....their lost.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 11:20 AM GMT
    I guess I'm the old curmudgeon. I have friends from all backgrounds....but I'm only interested in dating other white guys. The rest, I don't seem to be attracted to physically...

    Eh, just the way it is for me.
  • Medic911

    Posts: 152

    May 13, 2009 11:34 AM GMT
    ncsucarjock88 saidI guess I'm the old curmudgeon.


    Why would you ever use that word?

    Ever?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 11:37 AM GMT
    I prefer dating white guys personally. icon_smile.gif Guess to some extent opposites do attract.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 11:37 AM GMT
    I don't care about the race. There are cute/hot guys all over the world. As long as he is smart, thoughtful, has a good heart, handsome, and makes me laugh icon_smile.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 11:41 AM GMT
    Im sorry, I would never consider being in an interracial relationship....But my boyfriend is in one. icon_cool.gif

    Date who ever makes you happy!!!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 12:08 PM GMT
    I am in one and am totally enjoying who he is and am not concerned with the color of his skin or anything that goes with that. It has been a great experience and I really do not see a negative. We are in love, have an extraordinary amount respect towards each other, and are continuing to learn many things about each other.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 12:10 PM GMT
    the big question is why is dating another race called interracial, wouldnt it make sense to be called outterracial?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 1:06 PM GMT
    oh absolutely! bring em on! me likeyicon_exclaim.gif

    just the simple contrast in skin tones is soooooo erotic - it helps to make the sex mind blowing! out of this world as a matter of fact!!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 1:10 PM GMT
    tereseus1 saidim all for it..but this happened with both my exes, their family, close friends weren't too thrilled and it ended up making me feel like a pet project for the guy...to see if he could really date outside of his ethnic group... Its hard to believe that people aren't open minded in these times but hey....their lost.



    i've been in several and never experienced that. sorry to hear you did. people can be idiots. hope this has not discouraged you
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 1:25 PM GMT
    I date anyone that I am attracted to, I dont really care what color or race they are. Ive dated all kinds of guys...I do have to say though I am quite partial to black guys. Something about their beautiful brown skin, musculature and shape totally turns me on.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 1:28 PM GMT
    Interracial dating? I'm not sure how that would pan-out with my bi weekly Klan luncheons.

    The pot luck we sponsor with the Nazi youth may not be too keen on it either.

    But, it IS 2009...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 13, 2009 1:28 PM GMT
    Why limit yourself? I've learned a lot from the guys I've dated. I've also gotten grief from some people but they don't remain friends or acquaintances if they give me grief. My parents have always been supportive of anyone I've dated, which is wonderful.

    One of the things I've experienced from dating Black, latino, and asian men is seeing racism from their perspective. I've seen both covert racism and the more subtle, hidden racism. I've also watched my friends and partners struggle with the decision to confront someone or not about racist comments - both intentional and unintentional. They have to pick their battles almost every day.

    I've also learned a lot about my white friends by the way they react to the people I'm dating.