Older Guys Volunteering Time To Help Younger Guys

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    May 13, 2009 4:13 PM GMT
    About a year ago I joined a group of older men who moderate a support group at the GLBT Center to help/give advice to younger guys.

    It has been a great experience. All sorts of younger guys come in to seek advice about family, relationships,dating, safe sex, HIV, career etc. The variety of life situations for each individual is astounding. (Just like here on RJ) But unlike RJ, no questions are considered dumb. Every person is treated with respect.

    On the flip side, I enjoy helping..PLUS.it exposes me to new ideas and ambitious energy....something i can relate too....I see firsthand what's happening out there with the youngins.

    Does anyone else help out younger gay guys (in a professional, plutonic manner)?
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    May 13, 2009 5:03 PM GMT
    Nope, not aware of any programs like that in the Fort Lauderdale area. And I stay away from young guys in other settings, where I'd be seen as an old creeper. I do work with HIV/AIDS agencies, so I help indirectly, but don't have personal contact with any of their clients.

    I'm going to a fundraising reception for our own GLBT center tonight, will ask around if anyone knows of such a program, or would want to start one.
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    May 13, 2009 5:27 PM GMT
    Yeah, I do/did. During the school year, I go back to the counseling center at my old university to chat with gay and questioning kids at a LGBT support group. It's fun and rewarding. The way I see it, everybody's gotta go through that awkward and/or challenging coming-out and growing-up process; you can't keep kids from having to go through that, but you can show them where they might be a few short years down the road.

    I'm moving away from the area this summer, but I believe youth mentorship is important, and I'd like to find a way to continue volunteering my time in some capacity or another.
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    May 13, 2009 5:44 PM GMT
    There is a group in my area called JASMYN that helps out glbt youths. I pretty much stayed out of it donating money etc. I met a person who is a social worker with the group that mentioned that these kids need older ( I'm in my thirties) models because they need to know we are out there and what we experienced. When they see us on the street it doesnt register with them who we are. She said that despite what the fact that there is so much open media about GLBT, when these kids come out there is no one around for support even in this day and age. She moved me and made me feel guilty with my lack of actual active support. So I took her card and plan on attending whatever panel discussions she has. They also have a 'gay prom" I plan on attending as a chaperone.
  • jrs1

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    May 13, 2009 6:08 PM GMT

    See: Erik Erikson and generativity: http://www.johnkotre.com/generativity.htm

    There are local support groups (e.g., Safe Space, Gay-Straight Alliance, etc.) for students. They're awesome!
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    May 13, 2009 6:38 PM GMT
    I am not currently involved, but I use to be a member of Timeout Youth, an organization for GLBTQ youth 18-23 on their speakers board. I would go around to high schools and colleges and speak about being gay and issues connected to it. And there was a mentoring aspect to it as well to help them come into there own about their sexuality. The group has been around for almost 20 years now. It was a great experience and I would do it again.
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    May 13, 2009 7:08 PM GMT
    In my professional life, I help gay couples stay together, gay singles find love. I also train counselors on how to help gay men recover from substance abuse. I provide free counseling for newly diagnoses men with hiv.
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    May 13, 2009 8:43 PM GMT
    Yep. I volunteer with the Ali Forney Center, a LGBT homeless teen shelter. They offer emergency housing, transitional housing and a wide variety of counseling to get the kids off the streets. Great organization.
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    May 14, 2009 12:21 AM GMT
    I have helped young gay guys informally on the internet, and in my past life on a gay help and information line. Many young gay guys are hungry for advice, and sometimes lack the knowledge necessary to be safe under the sheets.
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    May 14, 2009 1:12 AM GMT



    That's so cool, KissingPro! I was asked to do something like that by the Prov. gov't here, but I was so surprised (and there was something pretty bad happening to us at the time) that I foolishly withdrew and never replied to them.


    Guess I should, eh....


    -Doug
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    May 14, 2009 1:25 AM GMT
    OK, I did raise this issue tonight at a reception for the Founder's Circle of the Gay & Lesbian Community Center of South Florida (GLCCSF). As I thought, there is no such program here.

    I will email KissingPro directly for more information, so I can prepare a proposal for the GLCC Executive Director late next week. He's leaving for a trip and will return next Wednesday.
  • KansasColt09

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    May 14, 2009 1:30 AM GMT
    more and more I've been feeling a need to give back by doing something like that. because I'm upping my roots and heading to St. Louis- do you know of a similar organization I could get in touch with?
  • barriehomeboy

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    May 14, 2009 1:44 AM GMT
    I'd only be there looking for guys who are looking for older guys. I'd have tons of advice, which I would be able to charge for if I set up a website now that I think of it, but my motives would not be wholesome.