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    May 18, 2009 5:04 AM GMT
    If you're a smoker, I hope you'll ponder what happened to me today.

    I went to call my mom back in Nebraska as I do most days. My dad answered the phone which he usually doesn't. He told me my mom didn't have the breath to talk on the phone. It's the first time in my 48 years that I haven't been able to talk to mom when I called.

    All my mom's close friends died from lung cancer. My mom quit smoking much back around 1982, but, snuck a couple cigs a day until about 1995, or so. Mom has emphysema and has been on an oxygen machine for over a year now.

    If you're a young person, think about my mom watching her friends die from lung cancer. It's not a pretty sight. Now, my mom is sick from smoking, even though she pretty much quit nearly 27 years ago. She's outlived her friends, because she quit sooner. She's been spared the cancer. Unfortunately, she doesn't have the breath to speak to her children, or to her grand children tonight.

    There is nothing sexy about smoking. It makes you stink. It robs you of vitality and breath and will cause you to die before your time.

    Think about your loved ones, and those that love you, and care for you, before you light that cig. Nobody is immune from the effects of smoking. Used as directed smoking will kill you.

    Don't do to yourself what my mom did. It's not pretty.

    I'm hoping Mom doesn't suffer much as the end nears for her.

    I can't imagine the feeling of dread and fear of suffocating to death.
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    May 18, 2009 6:24 AM GMT
    You have my agreement and empathy.
    I watched 2 of my grand fathers and one of my grand mothers smoke themselves into their graves. My paternal grandfather died of cancer of the larynx that spread to his stomach and then his brain and pancreas. He was a Heavy smoker even while he was undregoing chemo and radiation. His single change in acknowleding his problem was to smoke cigars instead of cigarettes....and he died with a lit cigar in his Tracheotomy tube. He couldn't speak any longer, as his vocal chords had to be removed. He went from diagnosed to dead in 9 months. He was 68 and I was 13.
    My paterenal grandmother was a heavy cigarette smoker, She died of a heart attack with a lit cigarette in her hand a day after she came home from one of her numerous skin cancer surgeries. She was 72 and I was 22.
    The worst and hardest for me personally was my maternal grandfather. He was a lifelong heavy smoker. He rolled his own cigarettes. He was hooked and he hated it. He tried several times to quit, and nothing worked or helped. He was diagnosed with emphysema, and congestive heart failure/enlarged heart. It was a quick decline from "up and active" to breathless to bedriddden to coma to death. In less than 6 months he was gone. My family and I did home health care for him. we arranged our schedules so that someone was with him 24/7 and so it didn't all fall on my grandmother. We had a nurse come in 3x a week. We had a hospital bed and potty, oxygen, various breathing assistance machines and treatments, low sodium diets, etc....What an increadable and heartbreaking experience. It was terrifying to see him laying in bed, with his lips turning blue and gasping for every breath, everyday. He spoke very little as it was like he was running a long race and was just sqeezing in words between gasps. It was torture to watch and I could almost appreaciate the feeling of suffocation, from my own experiences with ashtma attacks. Nothing compares to the sheer terror of suffocation, especially watching it happen to someone you love and have no way of helping...grandpa died the day after Christmas 1978, He was 70 and I was 18. My grandpa knew what happened and he hated smoking. He was very careful and considerate of others about smoking outside of the house and away from others, especially the kids. Yet he was powerless to stop himself from smoking. He was a great man and one of the strongest and most determined men I ever knew and yet he couldn't beat this addiction.I loved him for all that he was and did for me, while my own parents were engaged in a long and vicious divorce. He was my second and at times my primary dad.....and I watched him slip away over christmas night and the next morning he was gone. The pain is still palpable for me 31 years later.....I don't smoke and will not associate with smokers. It is an absolute deal breaker for me...Please think twice before you light up. Life is too short and so tentative to begin with, don't rob yourself or others that love and need you with this habit.
    Chucky I do indeed know your pain and I can only offer my best wishes for no suffereing. It is not easy and it will hurt. icon_cry.gif
    Take Care.
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    May 18, 2009 2:16 PM GMT
    Sorry to both of you guys for your losses - and sadness. This great advice should be taken by any young (or middle aged) person. I don't have anything to add - except if you want to be healthy and feel great as you age, don't put anything bad into your body. Treat your body as though it is valuable - because you get only one.
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    May 18, 2009 4:42 PM GMT
    U need to stop typing, and go check on ur mothericon_exclaim.gif This will be da only one u will have in this lifetime.icon_wink.gif
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    May 18, 2009 4:47 PM GMT
    There's not a thing I can do. The damage was done years ago. There's nothing to check on. She's sick; she's dying. Pretty cut and dried.

    It's important not to act emotionally rather than logically. There's nothing to be gained by being emotional.

    It serves as a lesson for those who chose to poison themselves with smoking. That's my point in telling the story.
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    May 18, 2009 5:04 PM GMT
    I feel the pain with you. My father smoked. No matter what I told him; he would never stop. He died of complications from smoking and was still smoking on the morning of his death.
    I was surprised to learn that LGBT adults smoke more than the general adult population... 36% to 25%...Diseases related to tobacco use kill more gays and lesbians than AIDS, alcohol, car accidents, murder and street drugs combined. We're talking about more than 30,000 gays and lesbians a year, according to the American Cancer Society and this is probably a conservative figure. One New England study found that more than 70 percent of HIV-positive adults are smokers. Smoking accelerates the progression of AIDSicon_eek.gif
  • Mikeylikesit

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    May 18, 2009 5:14 PM GMT
    I say lets keep it in Perspective....If your mother quick smoking 27years ago, Highly unlikey that was the cause of the cancer now. Eventually everyone will die from cancer or some sort, because we are living longer and age will catch up to you eventaully. Facts of life. Death and taxes....Ugh!!!

    I assume she most be in her 70's. Certainly a ripe old age.....=)

    Just my two cents......icon_lol.gif
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    May 18, 2009 5:33 PM GMT
    She doesn't have cancer, as I stated. She has COPD as a direct result of the smoking, no if, no ands, about it. It doesn't happen without the smoking.
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    May 18, 2009 5:45 PM GMT
    I know if dat was my moms...i dropping everything to go and be with her.icon_neutral.gif
  • roadbikeRob

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    May 18, 2009 10:42 PM GMT
    This is just more valid, real life proof that smoking is a poisonous, filthy habit that is best avoided. I have also lost a few relatives to cancer and other smoking related illnesses.
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    May 18, 2009 10:58 PM GMT
    Weve been through this many time on this sight. The problem is the ones who need to get the message dont so you end up preaching to the choir. My best to you and your family Chucky.