Do you believe in gay farytale love? :S

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    May 19, 2009 11:06 AM GMT
    like the ones you see in the movies? any real life stories? is love hard to find?COLORED TEXT GOES HERERESIZED TEXT GOES HERE
  • dh__

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    May 19, 2009 3:28 PM GMT
    sadly enough yes i do. I think my bf and I sort of started one although we're reaching that after happily ever after section of the book lol.
    but yeah, i believe in fairy tales, no matter what anyone says.
  • Sebastian18

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    May 19, 2009 3:29 PM GMT
    No.
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    May 19, 2009 3:32 PM GMT

    dh_ said, "but yeah, i believe in fairy tales, no matter what anyone says."

    I write them, and you know they say a good writer writes from the perspective of that writer's experiences.

    - Doug of meninlove - unicorns apparently heheh

    PS we now know a few other pairs of unicorns on this site, so take heart.
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    May 19, 2009 3:32 PM GMT
    Well in the words of the Norwegian Eurovision Song Contest winner....



    I'm in love with a fairy tale
    Even though it hurts


  • rockleetpt

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    May 19, 2009 3:55 PM GMT
    I don't think love is hard to find but I do think it's difficult to maintain.

    Fairy tales are social constructs and these are one step below from reality. It's like believing more in the shadows than the people who form their shadows.

    I think fairy tales are good as a fantasy, as a form of escapism from life's challenges, it's not good as a reality depiction nor as a message about love.

    Nothing lasts forever, everything's in motion and flowing, what today's cute guy might have a crush on you, tomorrow he's asking someone else to go out and have fun. Everyone has their past, their story, probably an issue or two (or even ten) to resolve that might hinder their ability to love. Temptation is always lurking when you are in a relationship and if comunication and trust aren't built in the beginning, problems and needless issues will rise.

    Love takes a little bit of luck and some hard work. It's not like in the movies or fairy tales in which there is a bad person (evil king, bad witch) ruining what could be a wonderfull relationship and after overcoming that challenge everything will work out like magic and there will be no more worries. These bad persons might as well be a person you love, like your parents. And these bad persons aren't necessarily evil or bad. And the problems and worries don't stay still, they find a way to creep in your life. Nothing is ever in a state of permanent "happily ever after". There are ups and downs, when you think things couldn't get worse, they do, when you think things couldn't get better, they also do.

    The pessimistic perspective in this post is not to take it literally, I'm not a bitter person who hates how reality works. I accept it's characteristics and play by it's rules. The tone in this post is deliberate to shock you as a warning that if you do believe in fairy tales, please acknowledge the differences between reality and fantasy.

    Please don't sit in your confortable couch watching some vanilla romantic movie and eating chocolate and wish "why isn't my life like this?". You are better than that, put yourself to work. You are a Man, aren't you?
  • zakariahzol

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    May 19, 2009 4:13 PM GMT
    I cant think of any. All the the stuff I read and told about gay love is , it is sinful, against nature, sodom/gomorrah, gay bashing. We desperately need a good role model.
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    May 19, 2009 4:19 PM GMT
    Get Firefox. It has a spell checker.

    It's "fairy" as in Tinkerbell.
  • gjoseph

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    May 19, 2009 4:23 PM GMT
    I do!!! I think a guy will find his prince-charming and would end up being swept off his feet and living happily ever after!!!

    Haha I'm just waiting for that to happen to me =)
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    May 19, 2009 4:35 PM GMT
    I dont see any disney movies with two princes but thats not to say that fairytale love isnt out there.
  • styrgan

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    May 19, 2009 4:38 PM GMT
    Do I believe in "gay" fairy tale love??

    I don't believe in fairy tale love, period.
  • Rookz

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    May 19, 2009 4:41 PM GMT
    Yes, I do believe them for its just make-believe. As much as I believe tabloids.

    Please come back to reality, even straight people don't believe in fairy tale love.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    May 19, 2009 4:45 PM GMT
    I totally believe it can happen, I've experienced it -- in the past 6 months even -- but it definitely takes two participants who are both willing to place enough value on the "romance", and relationship, to work through the rough spots --- because even fairy tales have a few bumps in the road.
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    May 19, 2009 5:19 PM GMT
    Yeah, it happens ... and then it blows up in your face.

    It's like the first time you get really drunk. You don't know that the fun spinning sensation will soon lead to hours of puking and at least a day of feeling like you got drug behind a freight train.

    I seriously blame all those stupid stories, especially Disney, for indoctrinating us into believing that true love will always prevail. True love sucks.

    It rips your heart out, it ruins everything ... but ... it's still worth it. I just wish people would be more honest about it.
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    May 19, 2009 5:25 PM GMT
    Yes, they happen. Life has been good to me, time & again, far better than I deserve. I've had heartbreak and I've had heaven, and I take each in turn. Life wants to be good to us, if only we know how to let it.
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    May 19, 2009 5:33 PM GMT
    Fairy tale love only happens to those who believe that magic is not in fantasy and dreams, but hidden within the everyday miracles of ordinary life. The problem is we tend to overlook them when our eyes are too busy looking for unicorns in the sky.
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    May 19, 2009 5:37 PM GMT
    Never have experienced love... although maybe I just don't know how to distinguish it from affection.
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    May 19, 2009 5:40 PM GMT
    Yes, they happen and you get swept away....and then real life gets in the way...and, if you're really lucky, that fairy tale romance turns into real love that lasts a long time...for example, almost forty years and still counting.

    I liked Rockleetpt's realistic take on the question.
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    May 19, 2009 5:46 PM GMT
    FierceEyes said It's like the first time you get really drunk. You don't know that the fun spinning sensation will soon lead to hours of puking .

    Love has been compared to many things but seldom to vomiting.

    Not to minimize the pains of heartbreak, but anyone's life would be only half lived if he hadn't felt the highs and lows of romantic love.
  • jrs1

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    May 19, 2009 6:13 PM GMT

    Rockleetpt has an interesting perspective.

    However, for some, such as myself, perhaps the work required of two people is the fairytale. For example, I would love (haha) to wake up and work at something stronger than merely attraction but weaker than obsession. I think it would be a fairytale to have an ' imperfect ' man and I walk in the park discussing what we thought of the movie, or laughing together about the extra bit of ice cream I hadn't noticed that was left on the tip of my nose, or simply trying to beauty within the everyday. Again, that's not something as far fetched as you would find in films, but it's what I would consider to be my fairytale.
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    May 19, 2009 6:19 PM GMT
    Used to....not so sure anymore. I would like to though.
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    May 19, 2009 6:46 PM GMT
    I want to. I really really want to.
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    May 19, 2009 6:49 PM GMT
    huh? Well yeah!icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
    No I'm too grounded to reality.icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 19, 2009 7:28 PM GMT
    I think anything is possible in the gay community, but only if you're pretty.

    Maybe it's just because I've grown up in (and never really left) San Diego, but my experience with gays in general is that a vast majority just want sex, and only with guys far more physically attractive than they are. That's not to paint everyone with one brush, but a good portion of the population.

    That sort of thing stands in the way of fairy tale love.
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    May 19, 2009 8:00 PM GMT
    I was going to say "Oh! Yes I do" and then explain, but after reading thorugh the responses I'll just add "And what rockleetpt said". icon_smile.gif

    I really love romance and "fairy tales", but I believe the "tale" is even more beautiful when it unravels through the reality that both persons share and not two separate accounts of expectations, which is often what the fairy tale is.