I'm in love with my straight friend! read this :

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    May 22, 2009 12:46 AM GMT
    read this, tonight i said to my str8 friend this by sms :

    ME: i'm confused

    HIM: why?

    ME: i'm in love

    HIM: with who?

    ME: guess

    HIM: i don't know you tell me?

    ME:you

    HIM:but i'm not gay unfortunately .if i were i might b in love with u as well ,i think

    ME:i think you love me too

    HIM:well, yes but not physically ,my friend.I like stupid
    woman

    What you think guys , about it?


    ps read this :

    last friday we talked a lots and very deeply
    and i told him i think i gonna stay all my life alone without bf
    and his answer was :but you got me ,i always be there for you...
    and then i share his bed that night for the first time....
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    May 22, 2009 2:21 AM GMT



    Well, he said this, "but i'm not gay unfortunately .if i were i might b in love with u as well ,i think"
    and then....
    "ME:i think you love me too"

    ...which I probably wouldn't have said. Of course he does love you, as a friend, a bro; platonically. For a straight guy, kissing another guy is likely as exciting as kissing his Dad..


    Go for something with potential - another gay man.


    icon_wink.gif -Doug of meninlove
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    May 22, 2009 3:36 AM GMT
    I thought that was pretty bloody obvious.. you can't read anything more into it

    He's a mate..

    Or was..

    I wouldn't be surprised if you two drift apart
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    May 22, 2009 3:37 AM GMT
    Awkward for the win.
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    May 22, 2009 3:39 AM GMT
    Move on...
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    May 22, 2009 3:42 AM GMT
    ucla_matta saidAwkward for the win.


    second the awkward. it happens, don't dwell on it. move on
  • red_series

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    May 22, 2009 3:56 AM GMT
    Move on: run in the other direction. It's pretty much a given that nothing will ever happen.
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    May 22, 2009 4:05 AM GMT
    Oh for the love of fucking Christ.

    Why would you do that to your friend?
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    May 22, 2009 4:19 AM GMT
    Staright friends are the worst, lol.

    just move on, he can't give you want you want.

    Find a guy who will make YOU HAPPY. icon_wink.gif
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    May 22, 2009 4:23 AM GMT
    I think you should stay friends with him. You never know when he might change his mind. Plus, lots of straight guys are curious.
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    May 22, 2009 4:26 AM GMT
    I think there is not much to be said about this, besides: he's straight. And from that conclusions can be made.

    On the other hand, and I say this as someone prone to fall in love with straight friends, it need not be a drama. Perhaps everyone is different, but in my case I have always managed to transfer my romantic impulses towards straight friends to pure appreciation.

    (Forgive for indulging in talking about my own experience...) Yes, the guys are hot, gorgeous, intelligent, friendly and have beautiful feelings, but it is to my disadvantage to be waiting for something that most likely will never happen and lose the opportunity to include them in my life with a friendship not only grounded in that which originally got us to click with one another, but also soaked in the appreciation that I have for them which usually means they are more at ease sharing with me because there is very little abrasiveness or "edge" between us; which sets the base for honest and trustful exchange. The perspective from which I see them allows me to always see them in a positive light and people do appreciate being appreciated these days and like to reciprocate realistically.

    These days, both of the friends I fell for some years ago are very dear friends of mine, both of them know I used to have a crush on them and interestingly, both of them still take that as a compliment and are comfortable hearing about my gayness-related-stories and even giving me their share of advice (seems like certain issues are universal as far as relationships goes) and sharing about what we do and where we go in general. I do love them both, and they know it. So well, that's how things have been for me and how I managed them.

    You get to decide how you go about this. Perhaps a bit of withdrawal from too much interaction from a while, perhaps the opossite. Perhaps you want to cool down things, perhaps you think you can re-channel your feelings, etc. You know how you feel and what's best in your case of straight-man-(those bastards!)-loving syndrome. Good luck icon_smile.gif
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    May 22, 2009 4:29 AM GMT
    I GONNA STAY FRIEND WITH HIM IF HE WANT
    BUT I FEEL LIKE HE GONNA RUN AWAYicon_cry.gif
    I SHOULDN't LET HIM KNOW .....
    NOW I LOSE A FRIEND MAYBEicon_cry.gif
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    May 22, 2009 4:36 AM GMT
    HEY
    THANKS GUYS FOR YOUR ANSWER
    BUT I'M NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM BECAUSE HE IS STR8

    JUST FOR WHO HE IS......
    NOT ABOUT THE STR8 THINGS LOL!
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    May 22, 2009 4:43 AM GMT
    he loves you, but not in an intimate way. you have to accept his words for what they are, unless he makes a move, which he won't because he's straight. that's just my advice, having had straight guy friends tell me the same thing over and over.
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    May 22, 2009 4:46 AM GMT
    Yeah I'm pretty sure this happens to a lot of people at least once. Happened to me- told him I was gay, he was fine with it but I could never hang around with him anymore it was too wierd. It sucks but it's just part of life.
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    May 22, 2009 4:46 AM GMT
    Yeah, you love him for who he is. That is what love is. But he won't love you back.
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    May 22, 2009 4:57 AM GMT
    one thing
    last friday we talked a lots
    and i told him i think i gonna stay all my life alone without bf
    and his answer was :but you got me ,i always be there for you...
    and then i share his bed that night for the first time....
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    May 22, 2009 5:17 AM GMT
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    May 22, 2009 2:03 PM GMT
    rockerr saidone thing
    last friday we talked a lots
    and i told him i think i gonna stay all my life alone without bf
    and his answer was :but you got me ,i always be there for you...
    and then i share his bed that night for the first time....

    HAHA why do these discussions always sound like soap operas. Wish my experience was that exciting. This was my conversation.
    Me:
    "I don't like girls- know what I mean?"
    Him:
    "That's cool I won't think of you any differently."
    Me:
    "Thank you"

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    May 22, 2009 2:05 PM GMT
    You're doing a swell job of meeting your recruitment numbers. Kudos!
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    May 22, 2009 2:15 PM GMT
    Seriously, what were you thinking? You know he's str8t and you drop this bomb onn him. Seems kind of selfish if you ask me. Your confession has changed everything...prolly. You have found out that confession is not always good for the soul.

    I hope you two can navigate past this and still be friends. Good Luck!
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    May 22, 2009 2:43 PM GMT
    In college I once came out to a H20-polo teammate. I was so intensely into him - and let him know it. He was so frickin' hot - and straight as a string. How insipid I was at 20 - I thought I was hot enough to turn him. Big mistake. He hardly ever spoke to me again. Blunt confession is not always the way to go. Tact and discretion are better than brutal honesty sometimes. Lesson learned.icon_redface.gif
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    May 22, 2009 2:44 PM GMT
    Now really rockerr, you try my patience -


    NOW you tell us, "one thing
    last friday we talked a lots
    and i told him i think i gonna stay all my life alone without bf
    and his answer was :but you got me ,i always be there for you...
    and then i share his bed that night for the first time...."


    Next we're going to hear about what you two did in bed?

    You really should have mentioned this little 'last friday' tidbit on your initial post.

    So now the guy's BI and not straight?

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    -Doug
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    May 22, 2009 3:10 PM GMT
    I could feel the awkwardness as I read the OP.
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    May 22, 2009 3:14 PM GMT
    Give him time. This exact same situation happened to me. A disconnected year after my straight friend became aware of my feelings toward him; HE started asking me a lot of questions about Bisexuality and how would i feel if he was bisexual. By this time, however, my feelings for him were tamed. We moved in together as roommates. I never saw much of him because i had a very active social life at that time. He started developing 'odd' habits. Working out and taking steroids, things outside his nature. Soon he became volatile. He made his own gay friends and would bare some animosity toward me because i didn't give him much attention. He would even give me a ride to the club shirtless - insinuating 'look at what your missing out on at home.' LOL I left it the way it was. I loved him and he cared about me, but in the end we remained acquaintances.