To All You Hot Guys...and You know who you are...

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    May 23, 2009 3:57 PM GMT

    Or do they really? Or can they honestly be that clueless?

    I'm talking about all those guys who seem to be universally on everyone's Hot List. I imagine their mail boxes must be full all the time with the RJ generated message telling them they have been hot listed...must be nice to be so popular.

    I'm just wondering what these guys really think. Do they look at themselves in the mirror and think "Damn I'm Hot...and I know it! Or do they really think to themselves "I don't get it, I don't really know why others think I'm so hot".

    Since I know I'm not the kind of HOT that I'm asking about, I definitely fall into the latter category, and am always extremely flattered and surprised if a guy adds me to their Hot List. I honestly think I'm just okay looking. I'll have days when I'm content with my appearance and other days when it's like ugh, I don't want to go out at all today!

    It's a funny thing really...our obsession with youth and beauty. Both things which we really don't have any control over. We all can't stop the aging process, and we're born "looking" the way we look. Personally, I think there is an attractiveness in everyone, even if it's not necessarily all that obvious. At least I always try to find this quality in others. No one is "ugly" in my book, but obviously some people are lucky enough be born more "attractive" than others, however you want to measure that, and they generally catch a few more breaks in life in general because of it.

    Do I seem envious? Yeah, definitely a little sometimes. It would be a cool experiment if I could trade bodies with one of you HOTTIES for a day just to know what it would be like…maybe on a more permanent basis even…heheh. This site is a bit of an anomaly though, because most people look "average" whereas most guys on here are into a “gay fitness, health & life”; generally living a healthy lifestyle which promotes exercise, eating well and looking good. And damn there are a lot of you on here…truly an inspiration!

    I do understand that the concept of HOT is in the eye of the beholder, as they say...
  • Medic911

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    May 23, 2009 7:52 PM GMT
    I was just thinking about this the other day!

    I see a lot of attractive men that have no idea that they are good looking. but sometimes, I wonder if it's an attention thing...


    Sometimes, I catch a look at myself in the mirror and think I am decent, but most of the time, I just see a lot of imperfections.

    I guess everyone does that. We all see ourselves differently than the rest of the world.

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    May 23, 2009 8:05 PM GMT
    i dont really think about it too much, i know im hot (thats not a vanity thing its just well fact- obviously im not everyone's idea of a hot guy but im prob most guys) but i def dont spend all day looking in the mirror and im not one of those guys who checks themselves out in windows while walking down the street.
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    May 23, 2009 8:07 PM GMT
    Whenever I'm hotlisted, I can't help but wonder what the person was smoking, haha. That's because I'm nowhere near looking muscled up, which is what most on here look like. I'm just a wee little cyclist/rower.

    But it's always flattering.
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    May 23, 2009 8:13 PM GMT
    Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder. icon_lol.gif
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    May 23, 2009 8:33 PM GMT
    The way I see it - just about any guy can improve on himself. Eat right - get into a good frame of mind - work out - get plenty of exercise, rest, moisturizer, some sun. Take care of grooming - everywhere - and dental hygiene. Almost any guy can look and feel his best. Also - develop a strong sense of confidence and go out into your world with a feeling of being good at what you do - and just generally a well rounded guy. Most of us want to hang out with guys with good attitudes, accomplishments, and who are happy and considerate of those around them. That is what constitutes "HOT" in my book.icon_cool.gif
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    May 23, 2009 8:45 PM GMT
    I'm like Thelstrat. I usually wonder if whoever's hotlisted me is drunk icon_lol.gif
    I don't consider myself good looking, but I think a lot of us are harder on ourselves than other people are about us. Either way, it always puts a smile on my face to be hotlisted icon_smile.gif
  • zakariahzol

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    May 23, 2009 9:04 PM GMT
    Come on. I put you in my hot list if that will make you feel better. Daywalker must be one of the most goodlooking Asian men in Real Jock (as far as I am concern) with beautiful smile and slim waist. I wish I look as good as you.

    I am in my forties, no longer a sweet your thing, desperately try to lose weight and even I get one or two odd people hot listing me. It no big deal really. You dont need to be envious or anything because you got all the quality and you yourself are really attractive (probably I should be envious of you). Do worry about it , men
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    May 23, 2009 9:06 PM GMT
    I am not that VAIN.

    I like to keep fit for the health of it and if it makes me look better fuck yeah.....LOL

    Now, do I get turned on by myself...well....only if my partner is having a wild fucking hot time. Sure why not.

    At my local pool...I get a few looks. So what.

    In my hot rods....yeah

    On the run way...ummmm I dunno.....

    I say do the best with what you got and you will feel ALIVE!

    Happy Life to all~


    Oh...I am flattered that I get an average of maybe 3 hot listing me a day and I try to do at least one to someone I know~

    You can have many things that I find hot...like a MIND...or things you like to do ....and......
  • jgymnast733

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    May 23, 2009 9:15 PM GMT
    Yeah, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but so is uglyicon_exclaim.gif
    You know what looks good ,,The problem i have is with guys who think their hotter than they actually are..Makes me want to tap them on the shoulder and say, Your not all THAT dear,,sit down...........
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    May 23, 2009 9:20 PM GMT
    jgymnast733 saidYeah, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but so is uglyicon_exclaim.gif
    You know what looks good ,,The problem i have is with guys who think their hotter than they actually are..Makes me want to tap them on the shoulder and say, Your not all THAT dear,,sit down...........


    LOL...SIT down..I liked that one...funny one~

    I guess we could ask the same question.....


    TO ALL YOU UGLY GUYS...and you know who you are.....??

    Now, that we got ugly out in the open..Are we being rude or offensive???

    Sit yo ugly ass DOWN!! LOLLlll
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    May 23, 2009 10:05 PM GMT
    *looks around no one is seeing and sits down*

    BTW I don't smoke and I would totally hotlist you TheIStrat icon_smile.gif but I'm too shy icon_redface.gif
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    May 23, 2009 10:11 PM GMT
    I'm sorry, but despite Windows Media (owner of Advocate and Out, etc.) attempts to tell us what's hot, most of our mileage varies. I myself appreciate lots of different types and it comes down to a lot of variables (proportions, coloring - I prefer pale skin/dark hair/fair eyes, voice, personal style, hygiene, body art, and I could go on).

    I can't tell you how many times someone seemed hot from a distance (even a close distance), and then their personality wrecked any amorous feelings I had. And the opposite also happens.

    I gotta say I'm not big on a dance floor full of cookie cutter bodies, haircuts and outfits. It reminds me of either Stepford Wives or Hitler Youth.
  • gsh1964

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    May 23, 2009 10:34 PM GMT
    First off, I don't consider myself "hot" in the typical way.
    But there are a few people who have met me, do.

    I got the most amazing compliment last night.
    I had a 20 something guy ask me how old I was, I told him 45.
    As I walked away I heard him say to his friend,
    "Man! I hope when I'm 45, I'm that hot."

    There's something about being confident in yourself,
    being nice,
    treating others kindly,
    smiling
    winking
    looking others in the eye when you speak to them,
    having a happy laugh
    and giving people a moment of your time

    I truly believe, that's what makes me hot.
  • Rookz

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    May 23, 2009 10:40 PM GMT
    The person may appear hot on the outside, but ugly to the bone is unattractive. Bad attitudes are always repulsive no matter the appearance of the person.
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    May 23, 2009 10:46 PM GMT
    I would agree with you. And you're totally hot. I recently had an intern at work have a crush on me. he was about 13 years younger than me. I was very flattered and it definitely pricked up my ego. icon_lol.gif
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    May 23, 2009 10:48 PM GMT
    musclejock18 saidi know im hot (thats not a vanity thing its just well fact- obviously im not everyone's idea of a hot guy but im prob most guys)

    And that is exactly what makes you not hot.
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    May 23, 2009 10:48 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidWhenever I'm hotlisted, I can't help but wonder what the person was smoking, haha. That's because I'm nowhere near looking muscled up, which is what most on here look like. I'm just a wee little cyclist/rower.

    But it's always flattering.

    And that is exactly what makes you hot.
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    May 23, 2009 10:52 PM GMT
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    musclejock18 saidi know im hot (thats not a vanity thing its just well fact- obviously im not everyone's idea of a hot guy but im prob most guys)

    And that is exactly what makes you not hot.


    No.... Boasting of how many guys he´s shagged in his profile and then saying in a thread that he only barebacks (or something similar.. I honestly forget exactly what to do with barebacking it was, but it made me take him off my hotlist) is what makes him not hot, despite the body, which is fantastic.


    I´m not hot but I´m friends with a few people on here who really are. Some are astonishingly unconfident in their looks and general sexiness, despite the huge numbers of hotlistings they get. Some are more realistic. The really arrogant ones don´t stay on my hotlist. Hotness is not just looks.

    One guy keeps getting his profile deleted when he replies to hotlisting. you can only send 20 messages in 9 minutes and he likes to send a thank you to people. you can imagine how many emails he got. (YOU know who you are hahaha)
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    May 23, 2009 11:16 PM GMT
    Just as a side note. I noticed a very disturbing pattern in my life. I'm always the FRIEND of the hot guy. I don't know why... college, after college, etc... It's like when they need to take off their cape and talk, there I am. The one thing I've noticed though is that beneath the "hotness" is this insecurity and constant need for validation. Being the friend is actually exhausting!
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    May 23, 2009 11:18 PM GMT
    reedw saidI'm like Thelstrat. I usually wonder if whoever's hotlisted me is drunk icon_lol.gif
    I don't consider myself good looking,

    Aw, I have always thought you were ever so handsome.
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    May 23, 2009 11:21 PM GMT
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    reedw saidI'm like Thelstrat. I usually wonder if whoever's hotlisted me is drunk icon_lol.gif
    I don't consider myself good looking,

    Aw, I have always thought you were ever so handsome.


    Now you mention it, he is pretty cute icon_wink.gif
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    May 23, 2009 11:21 PM GMT
    xrichx saidBeauty is in the eye of the beer holder. icon_lol.gif

    LMAO icon_lol.gif

    Meanwhile, hot is definitely in the eye of the beholder. Surely there is plenty of 'mutuality' in the idea, but it seems this post--and this site--limits the idea to appearance. Personally, I think talent can be SERIOUSLY hot, and we all know handsome men who have nothing else going on beyond their superficial 'beauty.' Yeah, I desire a man with a well-muscled physique as much as the next guy, but physical balance is only one facet of 'hot' and not necessarily the most interesting one. icon_razz.gif
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    May 23, 2009 11:22 PM GMT
    I fall into the category of the "dont really understand why others think I'm hot" don't get me wrong I don't think I'm ugly, anymore I guess, there are days though where I'm more confident in my appearance than others. And I've definitely spent many years thinking I was repugnant, now I'm more or less indifferent about my looks, not bad but nothing special. Sometimes when guys say I'm hot or make a fuss over me being good looking I seriously have no idea what they're talking about. I don't think I'm ugly but I really just don't think I'm anything special. So when I get hit on or people compliment me or what have you I am always very shocked and sincerely and genuinely grateful.

    But in the same respect my grade nine religion teacher once told me "nobody cares half as much about what you like as you do" that's kind of always stuck with me.

    And I like to believe that if you're a good person and treat people with respect, smile, and are generally a good happy person people will be attracted to you. I've tried to adopt that and be a good person in my everyday life. I know my looks aren't very good so I try to be a good person and show people its not all about looks. I really find that attractive in guys, even if they're not the typical hot guy or what have you I really find it sexy if he's a good person with a big heart and a kind personality and treats everyone with respect. I hope that I portray that to others with my actions.
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    May 23, 2009 11:32 PM GMT
    As the friend of the "hot" guy, it's nice to read all the responses about smiling, being a good person, blah, blah, blah.

    But as the friend of the hot guy who can walk into a bar, club, grocery store, diner, or post office and come out with a date for next week, I have to say superficial hotness rules the world.

    Does anyone else find it ironic that were discussing hotness on a website dedicated to fitness and posting pictures of ourselves in various states of undress? I find it a bit cheeky.