Early? On Time? Late?


  • May 24, 2009 4:17 AM GMT
    Are you always early? Always on time? or Always late?

    I tend to do things like get ready at the last minute but I am always on time.

    I had a friend that was always late for everything... I finally figured it out that she just felt more important than everyone else and what she had going on in her life at that moment was top priority!

    For example: It could be answering that last minute phone call and talking for an hour and not saying sorry I have to let you go cause I have to meet a friend. I could go on with MANY more examples but this is just one.

    I try to be early or on time out of respect for whom I am meeting.
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    May 24, 2009 4:37 AM GMT
    I hate waiting for things, so I try not to be too early. But, I also hate being late. So, it's always a huge conundrum for me. Should I leave with just enough time to be fashionably early and risk being fashionably late? Or, do I plan for the unexpected and end up being wicked early? It's always a stressful situation for me.

    However, many of my friends have commented to me before that I'm the most reliable and on-time friend they have. So, I guess that means overall, I'm on time.

  • May 24, 2009 5:36 AM GMT
    Reliable... is an awesome trait!
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    May 24, 2009 5:41 AM GMT
    I'm always early; work, parties etc. I'm always hammered by the time people make it to the bar, yet I stay there longer than all! Rar!

  • May 24, 2009 5:45 AM GMT
    you are devoted... hehe "I'm always hammered by the time people make it to the bar, yet I stay there longer than all! Rar!" dedicated... and fun...
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    May 24, 2009 7:11 AM GMT
    I am usually within 10 minutes of the time (early) that has been agreed to as far as friends are concerned. Work I am always early in case there are some changes going on, considering something is new everyday where I use to work.
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    May 24, 2009 7:48 AM GMT
    It's better to be early than late. And being on time is just one step away from being late.
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    May 24, 2009 7:56 AM GMT
    I'm almost always late. But it's partly cultural and depends on where I'm going, and to the contrary, it's not because I feel 'important'. If ever, it's a desire to be 'unimportant'.

    We do not have the concept of being 'fashionably late'. Being late is always a bad thing but not something to be browbeaten on either. It has never been used to make 'grand entrances' or whatnot. Nor a play on the power of keeping people waiting.

    It's simply not something important to our culture. Not something we base our impressions of people on, given that hot climates and equal day/night lengths make people less prone to hurry. In the same way the holding doors open for the person behind you or looking at the person you're talking to in the eye are not taught here as good practices for politeness as it is the western societies.

    But we do have the concept of 'filipino time' in which something scheduled always starts a half hour to an hour after the actual schedule. So a meeting scheduled for 7 would begin at 8. It's already so pervasive that everyone always schedules everything an hour early.



  • GQjock

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    May 24, 2009 1:21 PM GMT
    Being the A type personality that I am icon_cool.gif
    I am always early for anything work related and on time for everything else

    Being late to me is a sign of rudeness
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    May 24, 2009 2:22 PM GMT
    We're both highly punctual. All our friends know if a party is for 7, we will ring the doorbell at exactly 7. If we're meeting others at a bar or restaurant, we'll be there at the agreed-upon time, not sooner or later. For business & medical appointments we'll be a few minutes early.

    I consider lateness to be extremely rude & inconsiderate of others. Naturally you overlook the occasional exception for good cause, but the chronic offenders are just lacking in courtesy, exhibiting self-indulgent behavior for which there is no excuse.

    My hubby's former partner was never on time, causing them both to regularly arrive very late. One time a gay host refused to sit them at the dinner table, until the soup course was removed, and they had to wait in the living room by themselves. My partner was furious, and he tells me he never let his former partner run late again, even if he had to push him out the door unshaven & half-dressed.
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    May 24, 2009 9:29 PM GMT
    I show up a few minutes early.
    It's disrespectful to be late, or too early. I always have everything prepared hours in advance, and I leave early and take my time getting there.
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    May 24, 2009 9:53 PM GMT
    One of my pet peeves is folks that are late, and unprepared. Here in Texas, it seems to be the norm.

    Traffic in DFW is very variant. It can take 30 minutes to go 12 miles, or it can take 1:45 to go that same 12 miles. The civil engineering in DFW is beyond bad. E.g. I-35E does NOT have a frontage road in Dallas in many spots. It goes beyond stupid.

    I've walked out on folks that have held me up by being late 45 minutes.

    I've even had folks arrive 1.5 hours late. In my book, that's well beyond rude.

    I don't wait that long for folks any more. If they don't call, text, or email me that they're running behind, I leave and make them reschedule, and, if it was a client, I'll bill them a trip charge, too.
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    May 24, 2009 10:10 PM GMT
    Well I have to say that when it comes to work, I'm always a few minutes early.

    When it comes to friends, I'm on time.

    When it comes to good friends, I'm always late.

    I would be late for eveything but I try to control myself. It's a throw back to my childhood and my mother's behaviour, since she'd always be incredibly early for everything. For example she always dropped me off half an hour before school started, or we'd arrive 6-8 hours before our flight.

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    May 24, 2009 10:11 PM GMT
    Always early, I hate being late
  • jerseyguy

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    May 24, 2009 10:12 PM GMT
    i'm always early for things.
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    May 24, 2009 10:30 PM GMT
    Depends on the event in question, how I'm traveling to its location, if I am traveling with my family.

    My family is late, as a general rule. There's always some poor estimation of how much time it takes to get ready or last-minute chores to be dealt with. It's a family trait that runs through some of the extended family as well. There's also a sense of "waiting = waste of time."

    I work toward being on time or even a little early if the situation permits (such as being early to a meeting in a public setting). However, the extent to which I'll focus on being on time depends on the formality of the event, who's hosting it, and whether I am making something to bring to it (such as food).

    I am sporadically learning to enjoy being early though and to relax in that spare time.
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    May 24, 2009 10:45 PM GMT
    Thank you for starting this thread. I was just revisiting earlier threads today and came across http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/31144/, and wanted to addend it; however, I'll have to do that later, or we'll be late to a dinner party.
  • calibro

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    May 24, 2009 11:11 PM GMT
    Early. Even showing up five minutes late is considered egregious in my book
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    May 24, 2009 11:39 PM GMT
    I almost always arrive 10 to 5 minutes early (If necessary I allot even more extra time, better inevitably early than surprinsingly late) but usually don't actually show up at their door/desk until the exact time; I think too early is also slightly rude and here in central Mexico, exactly on time is slightly early anyway. Besides there is a certain pleasure in being there exactly, exactly when you told them you'll be there.

    I usually apply that standard across the board. But if I were to be late, I would always call on not just send a text message. On the other hand, I mostly overlook friend's lateness, but expect better in business/college.
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    May 24, 2009 11:43 PM GMT
    I'm always early.

    Early is on time.
    On time is late.
    Late, don't bother showing up.
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    May 24, 2009 11:50 PM GMT
    I tend to be borderline late (aka on time) the majority of the time. When I'm on-time I usually feel like I'm late and when I'm early I usually feel like I'm way too early. Just can't seem to win!

    But I definitely let people know when I'm running late out of respect for their time. Being late and being rude don't always have to go hand-in-hand.
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    May 25, 2009 3:27 AM GMT
    I tend to always be 3 mins early to everything- don't always plan it out that way but always works out that way.
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    May 25, 2009 3:36 AM GMT
    I seem to have an uncanny ability to be right on time for everything, even if I think I am running behind.
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    May 25, 2009 4:14 AM GMT
    Business: always ready early so I can arrive 3-5 minutes early.
    Social: usually on time, i.e. -5 to +5 minutes.

    Being late is rude. And taking a call after we've started a conversation is inexcusable.
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    May 25, 2009 5:46 AM GMT
    Definitely EARLY!

    I don't mind waiting a few minutes and always acknowledge I'm a little early, so I don't stress anyone out.

    Late people back things up for everyone else. I will not accept an appointment that is more than 5 minutes late. A phone call is required otherwise.

    Consideration is a must.