Reading The Signs....

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    May 24, 2009 2:53 PM GMT
    How do you let a dude know you're interestedicon_question.gif, and how do you know when he's interested backicon_question.gif If your eyes keep meeting from across the room, is it safe to assume he's interested and you should make the next moveicon_question.gif When you change your appearance, does it mean anything if a dude says "you look good" as opposed to "that looks good" when he notices? What if his hand seems to linger in a handshakeicon_question.gif

    So tell me Fellas how do you let a dude know you're interested, what signs do you give off and what signs do you read in himicon_question.gif
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    May 24, 2009 3:12 PM GMT
    If a guy looks at you once, no big deal. However if you find he keeps checking you out, then I would definitely assume he's interested. Then its up to either you or him to make the first move, maybe smile at him? Also, I find it easy to tell someone is interested by reading their facial expressions, and the eyes are always a dead give away icon_lol.gif

    If a guy pays you any compliment on your physical appearance, I would assume he's saying "I find you attractive", but of course doing it in a polite and respectable way.
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    May 24, 2009 3:49 PM GMT
    Good observation bro...i notice i get a lot of eyes on me, i didn't understand it at 1st, now dat i'm older, i am catching on to it. I'm still nervous about da approach tho...i neep help in this categoryicon_eek.gif
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    May 24, 2009 4:48 PM GMT
    Me too! There's always the "what if" factor, unless your in a gay bar. But even if your not, just saying "what’s up" wont hurt. Then gauge his reaction to determine whether or not he is in fact "gay" and interested in you.

    Remember, how do you think straight guys become friends?? At some point they approached each other and introduced themselves...... so..... it's perfectly normal and polite to just say hi!!

  • GQjock

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    May 24, 2009 11:04 PM GMT
    Smile a lot .....
    When ever he comes around make it a point to at least say hello
    If he's interested he'll handle the rest
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    May 24, 2009 11:12 PM GMT
    I acknowledge I am looking at them with the two finger salute off the forehead.
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    May 24, 2009 11:47 PM GMT
    Mmmmm... I'm soooo bad at reading (and giving) the signs... icon_redface.gif

    *Sits down and hopes to get ideas and insights from you guys*
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    May 25, 2009 12:03 AM GMT
    Wow, great topic because I wanted to start this but didn't know how to get it across properly.

    Last night I was at a wedding. The bartender was very attractive and I noticed him right away. I won't stare because that is creepy and I wouldn't want that directed at me either.

    Well as the night progressed, I'd try to find him to get a peek. He was really really cute and in great shape. Each time I would look for him, more than 60% of the time I found him looking at me. Later in the night, I wasn't waiting long at the bar for a drink and yet someone ordered a drink from behind me. This guy apologized and I said that it was no problem, and let him continue to order. The bartender looked at me and said "what can I get you?" I told him and he made the drinks for me and the man behind me. He handed the first drink to me and his eyes kinda lingered at me and he was smiling. Sorta that "you can tell the truth in the eyes" deal. icon_biggrin.gif

    I was really happy about how he treated me and went back to my friends on the dance floor. I whispered in my best-friends ear that the bartender she had the hots for all night probably wasn't on her team. She leaned into my ear and said "the thing you don't know is that he already took my number". icon_sad.gif

    It wasn't until latter did I think that she said "took" not "asked for". But the fact remains- she made a connection with him and I didn't. Who knows..maybe he was looking at her the whole night. The world is STRAIGHT! I am not. I guess I am horrible at reading the signs....i dunno...I swear he kept making eye-contact with me all night...so wait....HOW DO U READ SIGNS AGAIN? I wish I had help...I feel so embarrassed. icon_redface.gif
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    May 25, 2009 12:44 AM GMT
    I do know 1st hand some kats luv to play gamesicon_eek.gif it can be a major turn-off to da tenth powericon_neutral.gif I would like more of other peoples input tho.icon_wink.gif
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    May 25, 2009 7:58 AM GMT
    masculine31 saidHow do you let a dude know you're interestedicon_question.gif, and how do you know when he's interested backicon_question.gif If your eyes keep meeting from across the room, is it safe to assume he's interested and you should make the next moveicon_question.gif When you change your appearance, does it mean anything if a dude says "you look good" as opposed to "that looks good" when he notices? What if his hand seems to linger in a handshakeicon_question.gif

    So tell me Fellas how do you let a dude know you're interested, what signs do you give off and what signs do you read in himicon_question.gif


    i'd say eye contact is the key. If you look at him long enough and smile, and he looks at you smiling back. There is something there (of course, provided that you both think the other one is hot). Just go up, say hi, shake hand, hug, break the ice, talk and see how gay/butch he is. Chances are he won't bite you provided that you're a nice guy. icon_wink.gif
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    May 25, 2009 8:34 AM GMT
    i'm so oblivious when i'm with my friends that i never notice ppl, but i will talk to just about anyone if they come up to me lol

    so i assume if they just randomly approached me, that they're interested
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    May 25, 2009 10:11 AM GMT
    masculine31 saidI do know 1st hand some kats luv to play gamesicon_eek.gif it can be a major turn-off to da tenth powericon_neutral.gif I would like more of other peoples input tho.icon_wink.gif


    So if he starts playing games then .... you know it's time to put your energy somewhere else
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    May 25, 2009 10:43 AM GMT
    I am so bad at reading signs.. I have never learned to give out signs, so I guess I never learnt to be able to read signs.

    My friends have made it a point to help help me out and tell me when I have missed something or when something is going on. This happens quite a lot!