ErikTaurean saidThere is a lack of respect for couples, where in the clubs together or not. I have seen some of my friends who are in a relationship get the "So, he doesn't have to know" answer to them letting the guys know they are not available. Some, not all, but some guys are just rude that way.
I would say this to you. You should increase the size of your circle. You would have pals that go to the club, pals that want to go out for coffee and chat, pals that are movie goers and pals that say come on over and watch a flick or play some games. I think folks that are coupled should remember that just because you are part of a couple doesn't mean you stop doing or being who you were before you became a couple, within limits of course. Check out groups through the gay community center or web. I joined a gay tennis group. one of the best things I have done for myself in the past year.
Some good points. One is not necessarily "anti-social" just because you become selective about where you socialize without your BF. I've also been handed that "he doesn't have to know" line that Erik mentioned, which only stiffens my resolve (and nothing else) to say "No!" The very reminder that I would indeed be cheating behind his back is enough for me not to cheat.
And as Erik also notes, there's more to do than just the bar scene. Save for when the 2 of you can go together, and do other things by yourself. Or arrange to go to the bar when you can meet up with your other friends, which is what I sometimes do when my hubby's not along, or what he'll do when I'm not going for whatever reason.
But I don't think you're being anti-social because of this. It's pretty common behavior among couples I know. Aside from the "awkwardness" issue of going alone, couples often tend to lose interest in their former single routine, once they're in a LTR.
We don't have the euphemism in English of "settling down" for nothing, that we can use to describe what happens when 2 people get together. Settling down is one of the reasons we go into an LTR, to get out of that singles bar scene rat race.