All young men in North Carolina's Triangle area...

  • hartfan

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    May 25, 2009 8:55 PM GMT
    If you're looking to meet other gay/bi men but dislike the bar/club scene or find it inadequate, or if you're looking for a safe space to seek advice and support, check out the M Club. It has helped me out a lot and I have made many real, good friends.

    The M Club
    Myspace page: www.myspace.com/m_club_nc
    Facebook group: www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=63946337208

    The M Club is an organization in the Triangle area that primarily targets gay/bisexual men ages 18-29, but we welcome and support any age/gender at our meetings and events. We encourage making new friends, relaxing, continuing our own education about life, doing new things, treating each other with respect and keeping a mindset that you are who you are. We don't exclude or discriminate and welcome diverse perspectives, experiences, and people. We have athletes, computer guys, musicians, students, professionals, gym bunnies, the works.

    We are always looking for and accepting new members! We currently have about 20 active members. There are NO membership fees, NO initiation, NO minimum requirement of meetings/events to attend, etc. Just show up at any of our meetings (at least twice a month).

    The M Club organizes movie nights, game nights, parties, camping trips, sporting events, cookouts, workshops, special speakers, retreats, dances, community service, and many more. We always have a lot of fun together, no matter the occasion. Our events are drug and alcohol-free to reduce drama and dispel some of the negative stereotypes of the GLBT community. We aim to provide fun social, educational, and volunteering events to help make a positive difference in the community.

    The M Club is an off shoot of The Mu Crew (www.themucrew.com), who was founded by Andrew Hyde (whom you may know as a former Amazing Race contestant in season 3). The Mu Crew has been hugely successful in the Dayton, Ohio area with over 60 active members, becoming the premier gay organization there and behind all the most exciting things in the gay community in Ohio. The Mu Crew has impacted the lives of many young gay men and women, helping them have more fun, lead more fulfilling lives, make lots of friends, and make a difference.

    If you want to learn more about the M Club, join the mailing list or come to the next event, email club founder Alex W. at m_club_nc@yahoo.com. Hope to hear from some of you!
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    May 25, 2009 10:41 PM GMT
    Great idea Jeff. Sounds like a great group. We had something similar here called Amity Allies at one point years ago....Kudos!!
  • hartfan

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    May 25, 2009 11:05 PM GMT
    ErikTaurean saidGreat idea Jeff. Sounds like a great group. We had something similar here called Amity Allies at one point years ago....Kudos!!


    Thanks Erik, I didn't start it, but I'm helping to try to grow it. Do you know if Amity Allies is still going strong and would I be able to get in touch with anyone from there?
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    May 26, 2009 1:25 AM GMT
    No, sadly, it doesn't exist anymore. After some careful thought, the core group and the guy that created Amity Allies decided to disband it after being in existence for 4 years because of the ridiculous fighting going on between gay men and women. Some of the women wanted to create a sub group for women only and some of the guys got pissy about it and the group while growing began to splinter and lose the reason it was created.
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    May 26, 2009 2:47 AM GMT
    This sounds pretty cool. Too bad I live in ATL!
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    May 26, 2009 5:44 AM GMT
    Sounds awesome...
  • hartfan

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    May 26, 2009 6:50 AM GMT
    ErikTaurean saidNo, sadly, it doesn't exist anymore. After some careful thought, the core group and the guy that created Amity Allies decided to disband it after being in existence for 4 years because of the ridiculous fighting going on between gay men and women. Some of the women wanted to create a sub group for women only and some of the guys got pissy about it and the group while growing began to splinter and lose the reason it was created.


    That is very sad to hear, Erik. It's a good thing to keep in mind while we're trying to build our group. Would you happen to have the contact of the guy who created it, or maybe anyone from the core group? It'd be great if we can talk to them and learn from their experiences. Thanks.
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    May 26, 2009 6:51 AM GMT
    Let me check...Once I find the info, I will email it you. Glad to do it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 26, 2009 2:50 PM GMT
    If you want to have an outdoor focus on this group then you should network with a couple other groups. There is a Yahoo mountain group that organizes events in the southeast. Look for WildernessNetworkOfTheMountains under yahoo groups. I've never been to there event and I expect that it is a much older crowd. But I'm sure they would be delighted with a group of young men joining them.

    There is also gayoutdoors.org. There you can put together an event planner and invite a lot of the members. I also feel you should try to network with similar groups in other NC cities. The problem for gay men in NC is that none of the cities here are large enough to have a gay neighborhood. The gay bars quickly become tired and old. But there are significant communities in the Triangle, Triad, Charlotte and even Asheville (maybe Boone) and Wilmington. The state is more populated than New Jersey so imagine how large the gay population must be.

    To do this correctly you should have a combination of outdoor activities along with the occasional social event set in a gay pub. That would give the gay pub owners some business but more importantly it would be a good venue to recruit more people to join the group. Make sure someone is there to help the newcomers mingle with the group. A lot of people might like the idea online but be too intimidated to show up to an even by themselves. Going to one of your social events would give them an opportunity to meet some of the people in a relaxed environment.

    Good luck!

  • hartfan

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    May 27, 2009 3:56 AM GMT
    friendormate saidIf you want to have an outdoor focus on this group then you should network with a couple other groups. There is a Yahoo mountain group that organizes events in the southeast. Look for WildernessNetworkOfTheMountains under yahoo groups. I've never been to there event and I expect that it is a much older crowd. But I'm sure they would be delighted with a group of young men joining them.

    There is also gayoutdoors.org. There you can put together an event planner and invite a lot of the members. I also feel you should try to network with similar groups in other NC cities. The problem for gay men in NC is that none of the cities here are large enough to have a gay neighborhood. The gay bars quickly become tired and old. But there are significant communities in the Triangle, Triad, Charlotte and even Asheville (maybe Boone) and Wilmington. The state is more populated than New Jersey so imagine how large the gay population must be.

    To do this correctly you should have a combination of outdoor activities along with the occasional social event set in a gay pub. That would give the gay pub owners some business but more importantly it would be a good venue to recruit more people to join the group. Make sure someone is there to help the newcomers mingle with the group. A lot of people might like the idea online but be too intimidated to show up to an even by themselves. Going to one of your social events would give them an opportunity to meet some of the people in a relaxed environment.

    Good luck!



    We have actually tried recruiting at a few of the bars but we haven't been successful. While you bring up a good point about how some people may be shy, we're trying to create a different environment than the bars, so at least for the main activity we're keeping it alcohol free, though we have gone to the bars after a few events. Also, many people who are shy do not like the environment of the bars. Our events are mostly meant to be social so if someone does show up, we try our best to integrate them into the group. (We have faced problems about recruiting at some bars that weren't cooperative.)

    I think right now our priority is to grow it in the Triangle area. We have had a few from the Triad who say they're interested. In the future I'm sure we'll find a way to link up with other similar organizations.

    Thanks for the suggestions!