IvesCardin08 saidThis one is easy for me.
That way IF you are a cheating, lying, manipulative ass.....thank GOD I never let you get any part of me! There is no way in hell I'm going to be another NUMBER on your ever increasing list! I respect myself waaaaaayyyy too much for that! (Another benefit is that I never have to wonder if I caught something from the ho!) If you want me- WORK FOR IT- as will I if I want you. That shows the genuine, real man inside. If we aren't going to last- I'm not going to give you any part of me that is intimate. I understand...to each his own, but in today's world, better safe than sorry.....cause today's sorry isn't just your heart- it might damn well be your life.
Ok- What if the person keeps up the facade for a few dates? There are guys that are really good at doing the hyde thing before they allow jekyll to kick in.
A few dates?....a few dates....??? ...that's not work.......work is a few months/years...sorry but you cant hide who you are forever....Let me put it this way.
1) If you don't care about who you sleep with then you have your answer and you can do as you please when you please.
2) If you care about who you sleep with and are genuinely asking my opinion on how to tell Jekyll from Hyde- this is my way of doing it:
I already know my opinion is not the popular view point. I get that. I'm different. I feel different from everyone all the time for waiting. But that's what makes me ME and I won't comprise me because someone else said whatever they felt was right for them. A FACADE is what I am not and I don't want to be with anyone who is a facade. Me being choosy and careful is NOT easy but it IS good, but what IS good is never easy. I'm not in it for Immediate Satisfaction because Immediate Satisfaction brings no sense of Payoff, Fulfillment, True Enjoyment and Reward...Why else would BlkMuscleGent write "If I have sex when I first meet a guy, the chances of my dating him usually drop to .000000001 %. After all, if he's that easy with me, it would be foolish for me to think he'd proceed differently with the next hot guy he meets.. " to which he latter admits his hypocrisy on his own behalf/behavior. (No offense to him- just making my point-again, to each his own- but that doesn't sound good for/to me- you have to ask yourself if that sounds good for/to you) I'm in it for the Long Haul..through the good and bad...I will definitely see your character in a few first dates. You may ask how can you see his character through an act when you don't know this stranger. Well for one, realize that they are a stranger that you are trying to get to know. You want the best piece of advice ever? LISTEN TO WHAT HE IS SAYING. WHERE IS HE DIRECTING HIS CONVERSATION WITH YOU? WHAT WORDS IS HE USING? WHAT IS HE INTERESTED IN? WHY IS HE TALKING TO YOU? GET THROUGH THE LINES! GET PAST THE JOKES! ASK HIM ABOUT HIM. REMEMBER WHAT HE SAYS. IS HE CONSISTENT? DO YOU SENSE PLAYER BUT DON'T WANT TO ADMIT IT CAUSE HE IS TOO CUTE? Your instinct is more capable than you give it credit! It's there for a reason. Remember where you smell smoke...99.99999% of the time its because there is fire! No one can keep up an act for long...The last guy who did with me lasted 5 months before it all fell apart on him....Man did he ever play the Romeo and Gentlemen...I was rooting for him to be a good guy, I really liked him but there was something that didn't feel right and I couldn't put my finger on it....I smelt the smoke I didn't want to smell....but no matter how hard he played/acted/portrayed himself to be...he couldn't BE someone else 24/7. Why? Cause he was HE and no-one else and it came to light in due time. All I had to do was sit back and watch...a.k.a..... get to know him with my clothes on.
EDIT: You want a certain type of Man? Be that type of Man. Grow into that Character. You will attract that kind of Man by being that kind of Man. Water seeks its own level!