called out at the gym for staring?

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    May 29, 2009 8:24 PM GMT
    So I just got back from the gym. I kept staring at this really hot guy throughout my workout and he kept looking back. Toward the end of the workout, he gave me a head nod, walked up to me, and was like "You got a problem?" I was like..."What?" He said "You've been staring at me." I gave him my best you're-crazy look and said "I don't know what you're talkin about man."

    Ha. I got busted.

    Anybody else have similar stories?
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    May 29, 2009 8:57 PM GMT
    Ha! I think this was discussed before. But I don't like it when guys stare at me in a non-gay environment.

    I'm not from the hood or anything. But I grew up with the mentality that if a guy was staring at you, it meant he was mad doggin you, and he probably wants to fight for whatever reason.

    So yeah, I don't stare at guys at the gym. I might make a few casual glances, but that's about it. If I really wanted to know what his deal was, I'd ask him for a spot or strike up small talk about workout tips, and go from there.
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    May 29, 2009 8:58 PM GMT
    Rookie.
    Hot guys are like a solar eclipse.
    You're supposed to look at them thru a piece of aluminum foil with a little hole punched in the middle.
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    May 30, 2009 1:59 AM GMT
    Or throuh a pinhole in a piece of cardboard.
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    May 30, 2009 2:01 AM GMT
    Next time use a newspaper with eyeholes cut out.
  • coolarmydude

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    May 30, 2009 2:09 AM GMT
    You should have told him that you admired what he accomplished and that you were trying to see what he was doing that was obviously working.

    And remember the weak points: eyes, nose, jaw, groin.
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    May 30, 2009 2:13 AM GMT
    I got the hint when a guy I had exchanged glances with at the gym, started wearing a t-shirt saying "What are you looking at?"

    Yeah, I look at men at the gym, but I don't think I stare. No-one has ever called me out on it, the way that asshole at evant's gym has, but I have a reply ready for the case someone ever does:

    'doooh, I'm gay, you're hot.
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    May 30, 2009 2:14 AM GMT
    Observing the straight male in his natural environment can be tricky and ofttimes perilous. If Jane Goodall, Diane Fossey and other noted primatologists have taught us anything, it is that direct eye contact can lead to violent confrontation. Such incidents can often be avoided if one pays attention to early warning signs that may include, but are not limited to, howling, chest thumping and poo flinging. If any of these behaviors are observed, immediately break eye contact, lower your head and back slowly away from the subject to a distance where it no longer feels you to be a threat. Further observation must be made on the sly and we suggest the use of an observational blind constructed of palm leaves, reeds, unused swiss balls, modular step platforms and/or gym mats.
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    May 30, 2009 2:20 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidObserving the straight male in his natural environment can be tricky and ofttimes perilous. If Jane Goodall, Diane Fossey and other noted primatologists have taught us anything, it is that direct eye contact can lead to violent confrontation. Such incidents can often be avoided if one pays attention to early warning signs that may include, but are not limited to, howling, chest thumping and poo flinging. If any of these behaviors are observed, immediately break eye contact, lower your head and back slowly away from the subject to a distance where it no longer feels you to be a threat. Further observation must be made on the sly and we suggest the use of an observational blind constructed of palm leaves, reeds, unused swiss balls, modular step platforms and/or gym mats.
    So fucking funny! It is possible to read minds across the Internets?
    It also might be possible to bring the subject in question a gift, perhaps a nice, long, hard banana.
    Another tactic would be to throw the subject off-course as another poster mentioned with a compliment, "I just noticed your form and was trying to learn", "dude, how did you get so big"?
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    May 30, 2009 2:24 AM GMT
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    ......................................................"Dude, were you seriously staring at me?"
    Yeah, it's rude to stare. Especially in a sexual way at someone whos status you do not know. It's even rude to stare if you do know. Just don't stare.
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    May 30, 2009 2:30 AM GMT
    swimbikerun said
    GuerrillaSodomite saidObserving the straight male in his natural environment can be tricky and ofttimes perilous. If Jane Goodall, Diane Fossey and other noted primatologists have taught us anything, it is that direct eye contact can lead to violent confrontation. Such incidents can often be avoided if one pays attention to early warning signs that may include, but are not limited to, howling, chest thumping and poo flinging. If any of these behaviors are observed, immediately break eye contact, lower your head and back slowly away from the subject to a distance where it no longer feels you to be a threat. Further observation must be made on the sly and we suggest the use of an observational blind constructed of palm leaves, reeds, unused swiss balls, modular step platforms and/or gym mats.
    So fucking funny! It is possible to read minds across the Internets?
    It also might be possible to bring the subject in question a gift, perhaps a nice, long, hard banana.
    Another tactic would be to throw the subject off-course as another poster mentioned with a compliment, "I just noticed your form and was trying to learn", "dude, how did you get so big"?


    Positive reinforcement with food is always a sound tactic. Engaging the subject with flattering yet not over the top compliments while pretending to seek its advice may be almost as effective as communal grooming in easing tensions and, to their mind, platonic male bonding.
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    May 30, 2009 2:35 AM GMT
    lol

    That's kind of funny...but why was he such an ass. I was at 24/hour fitness last night (Tempe off Baseline) at 11:00 and you know what......

    I normally don't go to that gym...but I wanted to see how it compared to mine in mesa. I have to tell you that most of the dudes seemed to stare me down royal when I walked in. I noticed at least 3 so I don't know what to think.
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    May 30, 2009 2:36 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidearly warning signs that may include, but are not limited to, howling, chest thumping and poo flinging


    I'm pretty sure that in some thread in the past that you listed those same things as your idea of a fun first date.
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    May 30, 2009 2:38 AM GMT
    madtown said
    GuerrillaSodomite saidearly warning signs that may include, but are not limited to, howling, chest thumping and poo flinging


    I'm pretty sure that in some thread in the past that you listed those same things as your idea of a fun first date.


    Prove it!icon_wink.gif
  • sportsjockla

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    May 30, 2009 2:39 AM GMT
    Next time say, "I always watch guys with great bodies to see and learn new workout routines."
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    May 30, 2009 2:41 AM GMT
    mistic_man saidlol

    That's kind of funny...but why was he such an ass. I was at 24/hour fitness last night (Tempe off Baseline) at 11:00 and you know what......

    I normally don't go to that gym...but I wanted to see how it compared to mine in mesa. I have to tell you that most of the dudes seemed to stare me down royal when I walked in. I noticed at least 3 so I don't know what to think.


    Being the ardent nudist that you are, did you remember to actually put your clothes back on before you entered the building? If not, this may account for some of the staring.
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    May 30, 2009 2:47 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite said
    mistic_man saidlol

    That's kind of funny...but why was he such an ass. I was at 24/hour fitness last night (Tempe off Baseline) at 11:00 and you know what......

    I normally don't go to that gym...but I wanted to see how it compared to mine in mesa. I have to tell you that most of the dudes seemed to stare me down royal when I walked in. I noticed at least 3 so I don't know what to think.


    Being the ardent nudist that you are, did you remember to actually put your clothes back on before you entered the building? If not, this may account for some of the staring.


    LOL well now indeed. I did forget to have a Jock on and was maybe floppin around...but I always free ball it. I just worked my ABS and none of my Junk was hanging out...At least not that I was aware....

    But this is not about me...he was the one who got caught and busted...I never have been...LOOOOOLLLL
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    May 30, 2009 2:48 AM GMT
    sportsjockla saidNext time say, "I always watch guys with great bodies to see and learn new workout routines."


    Depends if flirt is safe or not. My safety line is "you look just like my cousin, and it was freaking me out as he´s 7,000 miles away".

    Otherwise "how do you get your chest to look like that?" is probably not bad.
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    May 30, 2009 3:47 AM GMT
    This one of my worries when I first started going to a gym years ago: that I would be "found out" for staring.

    But, all the straight friends to whom I have ever asked the question "What do you think when a guy keeps staring at you in a public place?" have answered "That he is looking for a fight" or something along those lines. They never seem to think the other guy is cheking them out unless there are very obvious signs in which case they have to process first that they guy might be gay. Heterosexism working to our advantage? icon_rolleyes.gif

    But if I ever find myself called out for staring I just learned some interesting phrases from you guys icon_smile.gif.
  • DCguy2001

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    May 30, 2009 3:52 AM GMT
    sportsjockla saidNext time say, "I always watch guys with great bodies to see and learn new workout routines."


    Haha, that sounds like my plan in case anyone ever calls me out, since i do a lot of staring at the gym. I figure I'll say something like, "I'm always trying to learn new workout tips, so I was just looking at what you were doing."
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    May 30, 2009 4:05 AM GMT
    i've learnt to ignore the unwanted stairs and try to moderate my own. when someone made a face about me staring at him once, i just nodded my head, and it didn't go anywhere "bad" after. i catch on pretty fast if my attention is unwanted and move on [to the next victim lol]. funny thing though, more than once the very same people i was staring at would start staring at me also. so, i talked to some of them and made some new friends and a couple of lovers along the way. disclosure: don't go to a "gay" gym.
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    May 30, 2009 4:31 AM GMT
    mistic_man saidlol

    That's kind of funny...but why was he such an ass. I was at 24/hour fitness last night (Tempe off Baseline) at 11:00 and you know what......

    I normally don't go to that gym...but I wanted to see how it compared to mine in mesa. I have to tell you that most of the dudes seemed to stare me down royal when I walked in. I noticed at least 3 so I don't know what to think.


    Yeah I guess LA Fitness is kinda the same way...people are a bit pretentious sometimes...like when guys where their Affliction t-shirts to the gym or sunglasses....haha....

    I don't go to a gay gym...well not very gay....so most people don't stare. Its definitely not a hookup gym.
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    May 30, 2009 4:38 AM GMT
    You should have said he looked like the last guy you topped and you wondered if they were related?
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    May 30, 2009 4:48 AM GMT
    I would've probably told him not to flatter himself. You gotta look somewhere, and and your head was most comfortable in the positions it was in and you can't help it if he was in your field of vision at those specific times. Really it's all about you ya know.icon_cool.gif
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    May 30, 2009 2:04 PM GMT
    I love some of the responses on here. I have always been a little shy about staring at the gym, but you guys gave me some great comebacks!