What's more important, face or body?

  • Kirkdrum

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    Nov 12, 2007 8:54 PM GMT
    Obviously a combo of great face and great body is the ideal, but ultimately, what's more important, a handsome face w/ a so-so body, or a flawless body w/ a so-so face?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 12, 2007 9:06 PM GMT
    The deal breaker would be the personality of the guy and whether I like and respect him. Without it, it would be "none of the above".
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    Nov 12, 2007 9:10 PM GMT
    I think the butt far outweighs either's importance.
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    Nov 12, 2007 9:12 PM GMT
    personality.......a must, and a great face and body wouldn't hurt icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 12, 2007 9:26 PM GMT
    Well, I guess if I had to choose one or the other, I'd go w/ face. I have gone out w/ guys who were in fact, overweight (by at least 50 lbs) and I didn't care, plus he had the prettiest eyes - I forgot all about the belly icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 12, 2007 9:46 PM GMT
    Youe question is over-simplistic.

    There are just a bunch of factors.
    Cultural background
    Cultural interests. (Music, arts, drag races, etc.)
    Personal mannerisms / behavior.
    Outlook on life.
    Masculinity.
    Athleticism / athletic interests
    Verbosity.
    Intellect.
    Fitness level.
    Self-confidence.
    Political views.
    Public decorum.
    Native language.
    Culinary interests.

    It's not as simple as appearance.

    Every day, I'm inundated by folks wanting to "meet" me, because they're coming to town, or because they think I'm hot. Let's get real, they think of me as an object. That's the I,I,I, me, me, me, of Gay America. When I reject them, I get called everything from a bitter queen to a racist to arrogant to any number of far-reaching insults. This from folks I've never met. They get all angry that because they feel a sexual attraction to me that I'm just not interested in their hairy fat ass out of shape discreet them. They lash out at my lash of interest which speaks volumes about their own low esteem, but, that's a whole 'nuther discussion.

    It's important one not be all accepting. When I pick someone as a friend, a sex partner, a business partner, I THINK first. Much of Gay America seems to have forgotten that.

    The two biggest weighting factors I use are if that person is going to be real, and are they fun. Followed by, am I turned on by them.

    If someone begs me for sex, as is often the case on a typical weekend, but, they won't give me a name, or a phone number, I sure am not going to let them into my home, much less in my ass. That's just stupid. Unfortunately, that's what DOES go on in gay culture. I had one guy this weekend, who begged, over and over. Hot guy, nice shape, seemed nice, but, was "discreet" and extremely paranoid. I told him you can't be near me if I don't know who you are, period. Sorry. He got all bent, and begged some morn. He turned me on, physically, but, his lack of integrity turned me off in a major way. People of dishonesty, low esteem, and lowest integrity, I would say, aside from tobacco, are the hugest turnoffs. I won't look twice at a tobacco user. It stinks.

    Look at a bathhouse. The flying example of complete selfishness and reckless abandon with regard to sex. A pretty sad statement on gay culture, really.

    To ask the question face or body, well, that's just a bit shallow. Not that the question doesn't have some merit, but, I think a more well adjusted person looks at way more than that in doing their discovery and evaluation, and ultimately, their judgment in whether or not to be with a person.

    Of course, we see folks with bad judgment every day: the guys with HEP, HIV, that have been ripped off or hurt, etc. There's no point in being careless, though.
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    Nov 12, 2007 10:03 PM GMT
    Well at least you can do something about the body. I don't know any good exercises to improve the face.
  • jarhead5536

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    Nov 12, 2007 10:12 PM GMT
    Short answer: THE BODY. There's much, much more to a man and his relationship potential for me, but that's what catches my eye initially. If I loved someone, I would grow to love his face no matter how plain he might be.

    BTW, my husband is matinee-idol handsome, with the body to match. Lucky me...icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 12, 2007 10:24 PM GMT
    Faces catch me off the bat.icon_wink.gif
  • SoDakGuy

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    Nov 12, 2007 10:30 PM GMT
    I feel shallow, but body. icon_sad.gif

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    Nov 12, 2007 10:44 PM GMT
    I would have to say body aswell. I don't want to have sex with someone with a fat stomach on top of me.icon_wink.gif
    Besides a guy who takes care of his body is beautiful for doing so. He can always were glasses. lol
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    Nov 12, 2007 11:44 PM GMT
    face wins hands down

    agree with mindgarden
  • Kevin82

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    Nov 12, 2007 11:51 PM GMT
    I like a nice body. When you grow old everyone get's ugly anyway..hehe
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    Nov 12, 2007 11:59 PM GMT
    Definitely the face first for me. Deep soulful or bright cheerful eyes and a killer smile that lights up a room are big turn ons for me. Throw in some boyish good looks and charm and I'm all ears to listen to what you have to say. Then if the conversation is stimulating and we hit it off, then we can see where things go from there.

    Chucky, you should write a book about what it's like to have people BEGGING you to have sex with them EVERY weekend. You must have enough material for several miniseries and movies of the week by now........................
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    Nov 13, 2007 12:14 AM GMT
    the choices are overly simplistic. But given just these choices, I say: a handsome face w/ a so-so body

    As was observed above, you can do something about the body later. ... icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 13, 2007 12:25 AM GMT
    Body. Simple.
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    Nov 13, 2007 12:39 AM GMT
    Face, but that's because I can see a personality through a face, but can't through a body. Even someone who is not classically handsome can be real stunning with a good attitude and smile.
  • GQjock

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    Nov 13, 2007 12:45 AM GMT
    A handsome face always is the first thing that grabs my attention
    ... a hot body is just the icing on the .... well, you know
  • Timbales

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    Nov 13, 2007 12:52 AM GMT
    The wrapping isn't worth anything if contents aren't worth it. First glance, the face for me. I'm a sucker for dark brown eyes.
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    Nov 13, 2007 12:59 AM GMT
    dark brown eyes? huh!
  • Timbales

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    Nov 13, 2007 1:55 AM GMT
    yeah, my honey's got deep brown eyes
  • liftordie

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    Nov 13, 2007 2:13 AM GMT
    a nice combination of the both is ideal. just like my guy has!! but if they have no personality, sense of humor, or compassion then all deals are OFF !!!!!!!
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    Nov 13, 2007 3:50 AM GMT
    eh maybe more face I think even thought I think its more over all picture with a kick ass personallity that matters and no he does not need to be a greek god.
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    Nov 13, 2007 5:30 AM GMT
    Hmm, well a nice body and hot face means nothing unless he has a pulse.
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    Nov 13, 2007 7:22 AM GMT
    the body--unless the face is the face of a troll.