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    Jun 02, 2009 3:01 AM GMT
    I can't believe I actually told my mom tonight, after we had a long conversation about a few issues and stuff.

    I mentioned to her that I get a little lonely and even though I am busy with things and have a great family and all, it would be nice to have some Romance in my life. She then began to say how there are some awesome "Single" web sites like that eharmony and if I went to one I might find he girl of my dreams. Well, I said to my mom....Mom, I am simply not attracted to women like that anymore. There was a bit of quiet and then she proceeded to say...Oh Johnny I know you can find the right girl.........I know you like women and find them attractive...I said "NOT ANY MORE"!!

    This was the first time I came forth and finally admitted/hinted to her that I am GAY. The only reason she thinks I am attracted to women, because of my last marriage that was only a failure.

    Oh, you just need to find the right girl she said. Someone who is compatible....Well, I think now she knows there will be no more women for me. At least none that I can see right now. The door is not closed all the way yet. I am glad I told her more about me so she would, at the very least...get off my back about finding another GIRL to get married to!....LOL

    Any thoughts??
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    Jun 02, 2009 3:17 AM GMT
    Congratulations! Usually mothers figure out their sons are gay fairly easily. Maybe she knew but just doesn't want to accept it. Anyhow it's a big step for you, and at least you won't be getting any more questions about girls!
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    Jun 02, 2009 3:22 AM GMT
    Lol my mom said she was dissapointed because there would be some girl missing out on me and that another "undeserving man" would get me instead. She was kidding of course but holy shit I am such a mama's boyicon_eek.gif
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    Jun 02, 2009 5:43 AM GMT
    Yea, I am proud of you....



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    Jun 02, 2009 5:47 AM GMT
    i think we should have congratulatory sex
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    Jun 02, 2009 6:39 AM GMT
    April 09 was the month I came out to my parents.

    I thought I'd remember the day forever.

    But I was mistaken.

    I'm not even sure if it was in April...or May...


    Edit:
    Gosh man, this is what they mean by conversational narcissism.

    Congratulations.

    Brave work.

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    Jun 02, 2009 6:46 AM GMT
    well its the right time of year for coming out to someone ... Pride!
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    Jun 02, 2009 6:49 AM GMT
    Way to go, man icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 02, 2009 6:54 AM GMT
    Hey man way to say what you needed to say...its a tough road and one that I am dealing with myself. Good luck man!
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    Jun 02, 2009 7:00 AM GMT
    congratulations dude!!!

    proud of you, and how appropriate it's Pride month.

    hugs to you, and keep us posted, ya?
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    Jun 02, 2009 9:51 AM GMT
    Whoohoo! Congrats! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 02, 2009 12:11 PM GMT
    Well....now I kinda feel bad. I mean I think I upset my mom...It was always so hard to share this with her. I mean parents have such big expectations for their kids you know....I hope she can be proud of me.

    Thanks for the nice comments and I guess it is HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!
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    Jun 02, 2009 1:09 PM GMT
    chaos444 saidi think we should have congratulatory sex


    LOL
    Isn't that the traditional "coming out" gift??
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    Jun 02, 2009 1:12 PM GMT
    Good for you. Her reaction is understandable, but hopefully she'll come around and just be happy for you when you find love.
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    Jun 02, 2009 1:18 PM GMT

    Hey Mistic, your Mom has a lot to be proud of without it all hinging on who you fall in love with.

    How about a card and a big bouquet? Perhaps in the card something like,

    "Mom, you raised me right and did a good job of it, because you raised a son that still knows he can confide in his Mom and trusts her.

    I love you Mom!"

    ...just an idea.


    -Doug of meninlove
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    Jun 02, 2009 1:24 PM GMT
    mistic_man saidAny thoughts??

    My mother was similar. She kept after me to date women, and I finally tried when I was 26. icon_eek.gif

    I later learned my parents always knew I was gay, but consistent with their generational beliefs (born in 1911 & 1917) they also thought I could be "cured" by means of a straight marriage. It didn't happen.

    Like you, marriage for me was a disaster. That's the unspoken tragedy of these anti-gay zealots who think we can be turned around by a woman (or by a man in the case of a lesbian). All it does is ruin 2 lives, including an innocent straight wife or husband who deserve a straight spouse. Plus the potential disruption & trauma to the lives of any children they have.
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    Jun 02, 2009 1:38 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Hey Mistic, your Mom has a lot to be proud of without it all hinging on who you fall in love with.

    How about a card and a big bouquet? Perhaps in the card something like,

    "Mom, you raised me right and did a good job of it, because you raised a son that still knows he can confide in his Mom and trusts her.

    I love you Mom!"

    ...just an idea.

    -Doug of meninlove

    More valuable wisdom from the guys in Vancouver. And perhaps mothers need to be reassured that their children are contented, down whatever path they choose.

    Fathers tend to be preoccupied with their sons having children, and perpetuating the family name, but mothers focus more on whether their children are happy. If we tell them we are content with our lives, perhaps they will be, too.
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    Jun 02, 2009 4:55 PM GMT
    BodyWork4 said
    chaos444 saidi think we should have congratulatory sex


    LOL
    Isn't that the traditional "coming out" gift??


    i believe it is