I'm Free.

  • KansasColt09

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    Jun 03, 2009 3:26 AM GMT
    I just officially came out to the rest of my immediate family (I came out to my sister four years ago). Wow. It was an experience, full of emotion, pain, relief, but by the Grace of God, no regret. I've never heard my mom wail or sob like that before, but I know now that I'm not disowned...at least.

    I'm "turning away from God", and "throwing my life away". I know none of this is true, but it still was difficult to hear from my parents.

    I thought now, more than ever, is the perfect time with the onset of PRIDE celebrations around the globe to celebrate each other and the one story we all have in common...our self-acceptance story and our coming-out story. Feel free to post, and I love you all:-D
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    Jun 03, 2009 3:33 AM GMT
    Oh, gosh. I came out at 17 in the very middle of a endless plateau of fervid depression and reaping anticipation that I would be ostracized from everything that I knew and love because of my orientation. Thankfully that was my kiddo side talking because my family accepted me with open arms.

    It was rough! Going through high school and all of your classmates already think you're gay, but you still aren't comfortable with yourself to just say it and feel at peace. It's a battle with yourself... always taking into consideration the denial of your existence because you simply choose to be. I'm one of the very lucky people out there that have a good ending to the coming-out experience.

    Hell, my whole family sorta figured by some of the mannerisms I had whenever I was younger and the fact that I just didn't want to date anyone in high school.

    Hahahahahahaha. Those were some hectic days... icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif
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    Jun 03, 2009 3:35 AM GMT
    KansasColt09 saidI just officially came out to the rest of my immediate family (I came out to my sister four years ago). Wow. It was an experience, full of emotion, pain, relief, but by the Grace of God, no regret. I've never heard my mom wail or sob like that before, but I know now that I'm not disowned...at least.

    I'm "turning away from God", and "throwing my life away". I know none of this is true, but it still was difficult to hear from my parents.

    I thought now, more than ever, is the perfect time with the onset of PRIDE celebrations around the globe to celebrate each other and the one story we all have in common...our self-acceptance story and our coming-out story. Feel free to post, and I love you all:-D

    Good for you! Glad to hear you did it.

    Sorry about the sobbing and wailing mother part...bummer, dude.
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    Jun 03, 2009 4:05 AM GMT
    Good for you. Best of luck with being out. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 03, 2009 4:12 AM GMT
    Congrats man! Definitely a big step. They'll get over it icon_lol.gif
  • Delivis

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    Jun 03, 2009 4:31 AM GMT
    Well done.
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    Jun 03, 2009 1:13 PM GMT
    congratulations on your milestone and good luck.
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    Jun 03, 2009 1:17 PM GMT
    Welcome to the League of Extraordinary Homosexuals.
  • Timbales

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    Jun 03, 2009 1:18 PM GMT
    Good for you. I did it on the phone after I'd moved out of the house, just in case.
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    Jun 03, 2009 1:19 PM GMT
    Yay! Congratulations icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jun 03, 2009 1:24 PM GMT
    Congrats, but even with your mothers sobs; you saw love.
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    Jun 03, 2009 1:25 PM GMT
    CONGRATULATIONS!!!
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    Jun 03, 2009 1:28 PM GMT
    Well done, it's never easy, but don't ever assume your parents will ever accept or get over it, it's not a certainty. I know mine haven't and they have known for years, doesn't mean the love me any less though.

    Peace x
  • Medic911

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    Jun 03, 2009 1:38 PM GMT
    Congratulations, brother. Feels good, eh?

    I am saddened for you, though. The things your parents said to you - wow. Not sure I could have handled that.


    My coming out was pretty stress free... my dad pulled me aside one night, said he had known since I was a baby and that he loved me even more because of it. He said it makes me a better person, with a different perception of the world around me and he respects it and understands there will be struggles along the road - and that he will be there for me every step of the way.

    My mom cried, but with happiness. She said "I am so happy that you know who you are, Tay."

    At my dad's (re)wedding, my grandma pulled me aside and said she knew and that she would always love me. She said she was excited to be able to shop with me and check out guys together. Haa ha!

    From then on, my family never treated me any differently, it was a relief. The only change was that the door had to remain open when guys stayed the night... damn.

    Any boyfriend is more than welcome, and is made to feel like a member of the family.

    I guess not many people have the same kind of story that I do, and that's a shame. This whole world should be like my family... it's the 21st century.



    Good luck, and congrats... today should be a relief <3
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    Jun 03, 2009 1:53 PM GMT
    dont let them tell you that your turning away fro god i am a very faithful catholic and when i was having trouble excepting my self i turned to the father of my church. He gaveme words of encouragement and words that have helped me feel better about who i am, know i havent come to the bridge where i tell my family but i think that if any body knows its my mom she always know when and what i am hiding she just waits for me to say something on my time. she has always been my rock for every things.
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    Jun 03, 2009 2:00 PM GMT
    Good for you!
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    Jun 03, 2009 2:03 PM GMT
    Congratulations dude!
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    Jun 03, 2009 2:18 PM GMT
    regardless of how many coming out stories i stumble across, i am always deeply amazed and humbled at that individual's achievement. my sexuality has been my greatest conflict for many, many years. i came out at 20, but i wasn't comfortable with it until about 27 or so. i had struggled with a great many conflicting values, being raised roman-catholic, and depression and suicidal thoughts were companions more often than not.

    then i learned that unconsciously assumed beliefs about myself and the world ARE mutable, if you develop the awareness to do so, and everything changed.

    "fast" forward a decade and those thoughts and feelings i had experienced then, no longer apply today. sure, they served as the crucible to smelt away the unnecessary in my life, and painful as hell; but today, the best way i can state it is that i am very comfortable in my own skin (although i do miss my hair from time to time, but whatever...), and i'm pretty much a goofball and happy most of the time. when i'm not, i realize that i choose to do so...ah, but this is another topic for another thread.

    you have taken a very important first step, and realize that as you do so, you have now implicitly created a bit more space for those around you to do the same, whether it be with sexual identity or some other facet of their being that they currently deny and suppress.

    every voice adds to the chorus. every ripple adds to the wave. thank you for your achievement and strive on! work out your own salvation and evolution with diligence! i love you too kinsman!

    yay you!icon_biggrin.gif


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    Jun 03, 2009 2:19 PM GMT
    Hi...Congrats to you.....I did the same and I know my mom is still upset..oh well. She must of had a clue...no?
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    Jun 03, 2009 2:21 PM GMT
    hurray

    *Raises shot glass
  • calibro

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    Jun 03, 2009 2:34 PM GMT
    very proud bro
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    Jun 03, 2009 2:35 PM GMT
    Wow, congratulations! Some parents get over initial rejection., but remember it is a wrench and a shock for them, too. Even if the subconsciusly "knew", they did not have to face it. They need time to revise their dreams and hopes for you. My partner's mother initially was upset, but she and I have been great friends now for almost 30 years. From your profile you seem like a grounded solid person, so you will be OK, and they will too. Best of luck in all things!
  • Sayrnas

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    Jun 03, 2009 2:55 PM GMT
    Yay! Thumbs Up truck!! ^_^=b
  • TexanMan82

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    Jun 03, 2009 3:28 PM GMT
    Congrats. Hopefully I'll have my own "I'm Free" tale to tell once I tell my family within the next few months.
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    Jun 03, 2009 4:04 PM GMT
    CONGRATS !!

    I know it was hard to see your Mom like that and to hear
    what your family said, " turning away from God, etc."
    Just being yourself will reassure them that you are still
    the same son/brother they knew before. I don't know you,
    but I'm sure that your a good and loving person and regardless
    of who you worship and love.... no higher power would punish you for that.
    It's all about love !

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