Write your own obituary

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    Jun 03, 2009 7:23 PM GMT
    It does seem macabre but there are many sites now where you can write your own obituary - some of these sites walk you through the process and help you decide the most important things you want to be said about your life, what you've done with it, and maybe in the future something you can add on to or if nothing else, fine tune it so that it's exactly how you want it. I see the obits in the local papers here and they obviously look like they were written by a distant family member who knew nothing about the relative.

    I don't want to immediatley sound super negative but a lot of us are alone and will probably die alone, meaning that the person who writes our obituary will be someone who knows very little about our lives. Knowing that I'm not going to be having kids or a partner in my lifetime, I want to have this thing written and ready to go by the time something happens or if I am too sick to write it well. I don't know what made me think of this, I found the site and thought this would be a good idea for a lot of us because as I see it, very few things about our lives have been 'traditional', why should this be one of them? I don't plan to have the typical funeral or any of that.
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    Jun 03, 2009 7:58 PM GMT
    DuluthMN saidI don't want to immediatley sound super negative but a lot of us are alone and will probably die alone, meaning that the person who writes our obituary will be someone who knows very little about our lives. Knowing that I'm not going to be having kids or a partner in my lifetime, I want to have this thing written and ready to go by the time something happens or if I am too sick to write it well.


    Instead of writing your own obituary, why not log off, get out there, and live life?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 03, 2009 8:00 PM GMT
    Obituary?

    If people would only do retirement and estate planning...

    I wonder what percentage of men here have actually done a will, a trust or some other means on conveying their estate to a partner or friend?
  • silverfox

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    Jun 03, 2009 8:06 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidObituary?

    If people would only do retirement and estate planning...

    I wonder what percentage of men here have actually done a will, a trust or some other means on conveying their estate to a partner or friend?



    Agreed. In a way writing your own obit is a hell of a lot more self centered than doing a will or trust....isn't it?
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    Jun 03, 2009 8:08 PM GMT
    OP, the obituary idea may not be a bad idea, but I get a depressing tone in your post, about never finding a partner etc. Is this a mood swing? If it is try to snap out of it. Your profile seems a lot more upbeat than that. You're a good looking guy and have a level of fitness that some of us would kill for. Be confident! Your time will come.
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    Jun 03, 2009 8:10 PM GMT
    Living Will

    Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care w/DNR.

    As far as the Obit, I have people to do that for me.
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    Jun 03, 2009 8:29 PM GMT
    "He died."
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    Jun 03, 2009 8:33 PM GMT
    "I Told You I Was Sick!"
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    Jun 03, 2009 8:42 PM GMT
    jprichva said
    DuluthMN said
    I don't want to immediatley sound super negative but a lot of us are alone and will probably die alone, meaning that the person who writes our obituary will be someone who knows very little about our lives

    I think you need to talk to a professional about your depression.

    I agree. The OP's posts always focus on the bleak and negative to an alarming degree. It's lucky that he has this outlet to vent but he should get compassionate, supportive comments instead of sarcastic ones.
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    Jun 03, 2009 9:11 PM GMT
    aurevoir saidMaybe him living his life is what led him to the conclusion that it's necessary for him to write the obituary.


    No shit. Then I suggest he log off, get out there, and live life....

    Let me nth Jprichva's sage advice of getting some counseling.
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    Jun 03, 2009 9:13 PM GMT
    DuluthMN saidIt does seem macabre but there are many sites now where you can write your own obituary - some of these sites walk you through the process and help you decide the most important things you want to be said about your life, what you've done with it, and maybe in the future something you can add on to or if nothing else, fine tune it so that it's exactly how you want it. I see the obits in the local papers here and they obviously look like they were written by a distant family member who knew nothing about the relative.

    I don't want to immediatley sound super negative but a lot of us are alone and will probably die alone, meaning that the person who writes our obituary will be someone who knows very little about our lives. Knowing that I'm not going to be having kids or a partner in my lifetime, I want to have this thing written and ready to go by the time something happens or if I am too sick to write it well. I don't know what made me think of this, I found the site and thought this would be a good idea for a lot of us because as I see it, very few things about our lives have been 'traditional', why should this be one of them? I don't plan to have the typical funeral or any of that.


    You're not even 40!!! What's your problem????
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    Jun 03, 2009 9:15 PM GMT
    aurevoir said
    silverfox1 said
    HndsmKansan saidObituary?

    If people would only do retirement and estate planning...

    I wonder what percentage of men here have actually done a will, a trust or some other means on conveying their estate to a partner or friend?



    Agreed. In a way writing your own obit is a hell of a lot more self centered than doing a will or trust....isn't it?


    It's not anymore self-centered than living your life at a gym, posting an assortment of scantily clad pictures of yourself on a gay fitness site, and fishing for compliments or to make it onto someone's hotlist every chance you get.


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    Contrary to what you think, I doubt many of us fish for compliments or jump with glee whenever some stranger hotlists us. Also, most of us don't live in gyms.
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    Jun 03, 2009 9:20 PM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    jprichva said
    DuluthMN said
    I don't want to immediatley sound super negative but a lot of us are alone and will probably die alone, meaning that the person who writes our obituary will be someone who knows very little about our lives

    I think you need to talk to a professional about your depression.

    I agree. The OP's posts always focus on the bleak and negative to an alarming degree. It's lucky that he has this outlet to vent but he should get compassionate, supportive comments instead of sarcastic ones.


    I also think the OP's profile is off-putting. He doesn't sound open or welcoming It's too detailed, too restrictive--there's simply too much stuff in there! Perhaps pruning it--leaving just the basics and a quirk or two--might help with online connections.

    Just my 2 cents.

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    Jun 03, 2009 11:03 PM GMT
    This is a common exercise in therapy, I believe. I've done it once, and it's a great exercise if you're at a crossroads of some sort, even if you don't share it for practical purposes.
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    Jun 03, 2009 11:17 PM GMT
    Pft, that's not a sign of depression.
    It's what my managers would call "proactive"..."taking initiative".
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    Mine: "First toil; then the grave. Ugh."

    Edit: just joking about that last part. (I plan to be cremated)
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    Jun 03, 2009 11:25 PM GMT
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    Caslon11000 said, "Na na na na
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  • silverfox

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    Jun 04, 2009 2:03 AM GMT
    aurevoir said
    silverfox1 said
    HndsmKansan saidObituary?

    If people would only do retirement and estate planning...

    I wonder what percentage of men here have actually done a will, a trust or some other means on conveying their estate to a partner or friend?



    Agreed. In a way writing your own obit is a hell of a lot more self centered than doing a will or trust....isn't it?


    It's not anymore self-centered than living your life at a gym, posting an assortment of scantily clad pictures of yourself on a gay fitness site, and fishing for compliments or to make it onto someone's hotlist every chance you get.


    Sticks and stones may break my bones.....
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    Jun 04, 2009 2:38 AM GMT
    He believed in life after love.icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 04, 2009 4:02 AM GMT
    Your condescending comments are just what we needed though.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 04, 2009 12:03 PM GMT
    aurevoir said


    It's not anymore self-centered than living your life at a gym, posting an assortment of scantily clad pictures of yourself on a gay fitness site, and fishing for compliments or to make it onto someone's hotlist every chance you get.


    A stupid remark in light of an important topic. No response is really necessary here...


    I think preparations for the future are important no matter whether its an obit, a will, trust, financial preparations for the future or other planning. Too many are caught up in living life for the moment.
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    Jun 04, 2009 12:11 PM GMT
    Really, OP, go and get counseling. They can help you.
  • silverfox

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    Jun 04, 2009 12:16 PM GMT
    aurevoir said
    BlkMuscleGent said
    aurevoir said
    silverfox1 said
    HndsmKansan saidObituary?



    So answer me this: Why do you feel the need to post such pictures when a simple face shot would do?


    Hello? What are we talking about here? Obituaries? I can see how this can turn into a conversation about preparedness for leaving this earth, the impact and "what it says about you" by writing your own obit instead of having it written for you.

    Why, faceless, picture-less person, are you attempting to shift this into a discussion about the merits of face shots, vs. body shots on RealJock?

    Maybe start a new thread on that topic and your questions will be answered.

    But, in my humble opinion, this topic is a good one and I am enjoying the different relevant views on this subject.

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    Jun 04, 2009 1:31 PM GMT


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    Jun 04, 2009 1:35 PM GMT
    aurevoir said
    silverfox1 said
    HndsmKansan saidObituary?

    If people would only do retirement and estate planning...

    I wonder what percentage of men here have actually done a will, a trust or some other means on conveying their estate to a partner or friend?



    Agreed. In a way writing your own obit is a hell of a lot more self centered than doing a will or trust....isn't it?


    It's not anymore self-centered than living your life at a gym, posting an assortment of scantily clad pictures of yourself on a gay fitness site, and fishing for compliments or to make it onto someone's hotlist every chance you get.


    If this isn't the epitome of a troll I don't know what one is. Nothing more than a faceless, sparsely filled-out profile. And "he" indicts the majority of members on this site. Seems momma raised a coward.