Old in the "Gay World"?

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    Jun 04, 2009 1:13 AM GMT
    I was chatting with a 27 year old guy today who informed me that (according to him) anything over 27 in the "Gay World" was considered old...

    I'm a fresh 32 yrs old and just started dating guys last year. Late starter, I know...I did the "hook up" thing occasionally since being 20 yrs old but was super DL and paranoid back then...After coming to terms with not wanting to be lonely, I began to open myself up more and realized it wasnt a big deal all those years. Then I started to regret that I hadnt enjoyed my gayness back in my 20's as much as I could have (discreetly)...

    Anyway, my question is...

    What age, for the gay "culture/lifestyle", is considered the start of being OLD?

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    Jun 04, 2009 1:16 AM GMT
    Old is in the eye of the beholder ... It depends on whom you are asking.
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    Jun 04, 2009 1:46 AM GMT
    Us!
    And strangely to some, proud of it.
  • silverfox

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    Jun 04, 2009 2:06 AM GMT
    I am as old as dirt and love it.
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    Jun 04, 2009 2:14 AM GMT



    You're a nice bird to be a feather of, Mr Silverfox!
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Jun 04, 2009 2:32 AM GMT
    Honestly, this site has completely re-shaped my opinion of "old", for the better. There are men on this site who are older than me, who are funnier, more outgoing, and in better shape than I could ever hope to be.

    "Old" really is about attitude. I feel old, or at least middle-aged, 90% of the time.
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    Jun 04, 2009 3:29 AM GMT
    Oh, he's just an ageist. He's probably really 45...I know people online and in person who've been 26-29 for the past 10 years. They think they're fooling people, but it's called denial.
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    Jun 04, 2009 5:30 AM GMT
    Given a lot of the ageist attitudes, I am glad to be 47. I can sit back and laugh at the "youngin's" who call us old and creepy and the same age ones who have fooled themselves into thinking as long as they hang with the younger set, their youth will somehow spill over onto them. It's great to be old! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 04, 2009 5:33 AM GMT
    only the most stereotypical gays rely heavily on age as a marker for potential mate. more the reason to avoid them.
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    Jun 04, 2009 5:53 AM GMT
    aurevoir said
    carabin saidonly the most stereotypical gays rely heavily on age as a marker for potential mate. more the reason to avoid them.


    Why is that? What's wrong with wanting to date someone in your own age bracket?


    nothing really, but it's not the only criterion worth considering.
  • tj78

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    Jun 04, 2009 6:02 AM GMT
    In all honesty I shutter to think of dating anyone 27 or under. Too interested in short term relationships. Too "boy" not enough "man". No Careers per se. No self confidence. Ugh, who needs or wants it? I find men in their 30s to be in better shape, more successful, more masculine, higher sex drives, better lovers. The list is truly endless.

    Who wants to bother with room mates and school? men are where its at.

    27 is the BEGINNING! Welcome to the big leagues, kiddies! haha
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    Jun 04, 2009 6:02 AM GMT
    Ive been thinking about this lately since I'm about to turn 30 in a few months, which actually makes me realize how young I still am. At the same time, I feel like I have a lot of life experience and am fairly wise, which is probably why the majority of my friends are 5,10, 20 years older than me, and the guys I tend to date are older than I. Not that I don't like younger guys and I don't want to sound like I'm more sophisticated than anyone else in my age group, but I hear so many people talk about how, "Im so old!" and they're only say, 42, which to me is still young. So I really think we put ourselves into our own pigeonholes. To reiterate what others have already said in prior posts, you can be say, 42 and decide you're old and and actually become what you think you are. Or you can choose to be full of life and energy and potential until you die.
    I feel better and better the older I get, so I hope the trend continues!
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    Jun 04, 2009 6:07 AM GMT
    aurevoir said
    carabin saidonly the most stereotypical gays rely heavily on age as a marker for potential mate. more the reason to avoid them.


    Why is that? What's wrong with wanting to date someone in your own age bracket?


    Nothing "wrong", but it is a very NARROW view of values and life expereinces....and some "young guys" are still trying to prove something to the world or themselves or someone....older guys either already HAVE proved something to the world or long ago stopped caring what the world thinks and are just being real and can relax and enjoy the ride! Much more fun to relax and enjoy the ride....try an older guy once....icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 04, 2009 6:14 AM GMT
    It's amazing how your perspective changes as you age. Just this April, I turned 30 and let me tell you, even though it's completely arbitrary, I was glad to leave my "20s" behind me. I was actually happy that I was turning 30, and entering a new era in my life.
  • josephmovie

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    Jun 04, 2009 6:25 AM GMT
    Although I don't agree with it, I think most people start to be considered "old" in their late 20s - but that's usually by people in their teens and early 20s.

    I also think that as you reach your late 20s you start to notice a difference between how you think and act and how people in their early 20s think and act. No big deal and perfectly natural.
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    Jun 04, 2009 6:27 AM GMT
    NEVER!!!
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    Jun 04, 2009 6:30 AM GMT
    OLDicon_question.gif some of these younger kats look n act older than most so called OLDER FOLK, so not sure why his friend said daticon_exclaim.gif Ignorance is bliss, i guessicon_lol.gif
  • NursePractiti...

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    Jun 04, 2009 6:37 AM GMT
    I felt old at 40. At 41 I said to heck with that, I'm still alive so I'm guess I'm not old after all. icon_biggrin.gif
  • tj78

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    Jun 04, 2009 6:58 AM GMT
    hockeynick79 saidIt's amazing how your perspective changes as you age. Just this April, I turned 30 and let me tell you, even though it's completely arbitrary, I was glad to leave my "20s" behind me. I was actually happy that I was turning 30, and entering a new era in my life.



    i felt EXACTLY the same way when I turned 30 in December. It was like "phew! Glad I made it out of that mess alive. And NOW life begins!"
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    Jun 04, 2009 7:08 AM GMT
    Pfft, i love the older ones - anyone who thinks 32 is old is VAIN. that's disgusting and thankfully we aren't all that way.
  • iiheartwaves

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    Jun 04, 2009 7:21 AM GMT
    7.
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    Jun 04, 2009 7:24 AM GMT
    i love the age group between 34 and 41..they seem to know allot more and they are usually good in the sack.....im the grave robber i guess as suppose to being a cradle robber.
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    Jun 04, 2009 7:40 AM GMT
    Well in heterosexual years, to days 50 year old are looked at as being 30 something.

    In gay years, all 50 years old should be kept out of the clubs, and bars, and forced to stay at home.

    The sad thing about youth, it "tis wasted on the young.......icon_wink.gif
  • emailaddress

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    Jun 04, 2009 7:51 AM GMT
    matey saidWell in heterosexual years, to days 50 year old are looked at as being 30 something.

    In gay years, all 50 years old should be kept out of the clubs, and bars, and forced to stay at home.

    The sad thing about youth, it "tis wasted on the young.......icon_wink.gif


    i guess 50 is a good age to turn straight then....
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 04, 2009 7:54 AM GMT
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    would you prefer being with a hot 40 yr old or an ugly 24 year old, whose most likely broke as well. lolicon_lol.gif