How do I motivate myself?

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    Jun 04, 2009 2:49 AM GMT
    If you know how please tell me. I used to be a meth addict and quit five years ago and I have not stopped gaining weight. The last time I stepped on a scale I was 311lbs. I am currently unemployed, so the gym is out of the question, and diet food is hard to buy.
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    Jun 04, 2009 3:08 AM GMT
    Look at your pics.
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    Jun 04, 2009 7:23 AM GMT
    Caslon11000 saidLook at your pics.


    I do everyday
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    Jun 04, 2009 7:58 AM GMT
    i bought a pair of 2xist underwear.....i knew i wouldn't look like the model wearing them that i saw on the package..so i started working out.....like crazy and i went on a diet...a month later....i was starting to look like the model on the box.. another month past.. i fit in it.. and my V returned under my abs and i felt pleased that i continue to work out.. I revealed the still work in progress to a friend of mines..and he was amazed at how much my body changed. Just find or set a reasonable or realistic goal and set your mind to it. I have pics by the way of me in the underwear but they are in private lol. Here are pics of the undies.....and yes you can look like these guys if you work hard.

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    Jun 04, 2009 10:46 AM GMT
    Mirrors!

    have plenty of mirrors in your crib, it is a proven self esteem builder.

    think of the old SNL skit, Stuart Smalley bit on affirmation.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RvgMIerTXl4
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    Jun 04, 2009 1:18 PM GMT
    For me its clothes, there are lots of clothes I want to wear that if you are not in the right shape , then it doesnt work. So underwear, the latest cool looking shirt etc. I usually post pics of ads from their companies of reminders to get off my sorry butt and get some exercise.

  • jrs1

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    Jun 04, 2009 1:36 PM GMT

    yup, clothes can be one of the biggest motivators for me. I want them to fit a certain way, but also the feeling you may get after eating something nutritious for yourself can be one of the greatest feelings of euphoria. therefore, I eat what I eat in anticipation of inciting that response. =]

    oh ... and ... um ... looking at these:

    Channing:
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    Kerry:
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  • Tyinstl

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    Jun 05, 2009 7:56 AM GMT
    Watch porn.

    Wear tight-fitting clothing.

    Basically, anything that will make you feel inadequate.
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    Jun 05, 2009 8:38 AM GMT
    tereseus1 saidi bought a pair of 2xist underwear.....i knew i wouldn't look like the model wearing them that i saw on the package..so i started working out.....like crazy and i went on a diet...a month later....i was starting to look like the model on the box.. another month past.. i fit in it.. and my V returned under my abs and i felt pleased that i continue to work out.. I revealed the still work in progress to a friend of mines..and he was amazed at how much my body changed. Just find or set a reasonable or realistic goal and set your mind to it. I have pics by the way of me in the underwear but they are in private lol. Here are pics of the undies.....and yes you can look like these guys if you work hard.

    hotguys.jpg


    Thanks thats a great way to look at it
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    Jun 05, 2009 12:44 PM GMT

    Stay in Realjock.


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    Jun 05, 2009 1:11 PM GMT
    sounds cheesy.. i dont know.. but just lay down... and think of all of your achievments... make your self feel good.. take yourself shopping... dress nice...
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    Jun 09, 2009 4:48 AM GMT
    thats cool
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    Jun 09, 2009 6:47 AM GMT
    Walk.

    Smell the summer / spring day. Feel your heart beating. Savior the feeling of being alive. Know that things worth having and worth doing often take time, patience, persistence, planning and focus, and sometimes meet with obstacles and temporary failures. Know that things won't always be as they are now. Remember what you WERE.

    (When I train for a contest, it takes 20 WEEKS to get ready.)

    Repeat.

    If you're having an especially bad day, ride the bus. Compared to those folks, you have the world by the gonads.

    Crawl, walk, run. One foot in front of the other. Small goals, a bit at a time.

    When I learned to skate, I fell, many, many, many, times. I got bruised. I got bruised some more. I ached. I got frustrated. I downright got pissed. Then, I learned how to skate like the wind, and backwards, too...then, I was playing hockey and loving it. Life is like that. Sometimes you get a bit dinged, but, hockey rocks, and so do cool trophies.

    This sounds cheesy, but, here's the deal.

    Your old life is done with. It's over. That's the cool thing about it.

    Now, you have your new life. It's just starting.

    It won't be without challenges, nor will it be without rewards.

    Keep banging away. Things change. Nothing is permanent except the IRS, and student loans. Everything else changes.
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    Jun 09, 2009 6:49 AM GMT
    chuckystud saidWalk.

    Smell the summer / spring day. Feel your heart beating. Savior the feeling of being alive. Know that things worth having and worth doing often take time, patience, persistence, planning and focus, are sometimes meet with obstacles and temporary failures. Know that things won't always be as they are now. Remember what you WERE.

    (When I train for a contest, it takes 20 WEEKS to get ready.)

    Repeat.

    If you're having an especially bad day, right the bus. Compared to those folks, you have the world by the gonads.

    Crawl, walk, run. One foot in front of the other. Small goals, a bit at a time.


    thanks
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 09, 2009 7:02 AM GMT
    You can do it!! It helps if you have someone to work out with, even if it's at home. As long as it's just one person, I laugh at guys at the gym that bring 3 and 4 friends- all talk no working out??

    It's alot about portion control and eating the right foods, doesn't have to be expensive. Glad you kicked such a bad habit-replace it with staying active and eventually joining a gym.

    Keep us posted!!

    mike3 n vinny
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    Jun 09, 2009 7:09 AM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidYou can do it!! It helps if you have someone to work out with, even if it's at home. As long as it's just one person, I laugh at guys at the gym that bring 3 and 4 friends- all talk no working out??

    It's alot about portion control and eating the right foods, doesn't have to be expensive. Glad you kicked such a bad habit-replace it with staying active and eventually joining a gym.

    Keep us posted!!

    mike3 n vinny


    you guys are so sweet
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    Jun 09, 2009 7:40 AM GMT
    Does anyone know if gyms will sponsor unemployed guys? I am looking to exercise at a gym, but I have no money
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    Jun 10, 2009 5:03 PM GMT
    The YMCA offers discounted gym memberships for people who cannot afford to pay. Check it out.
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    Jun 10, 2009 5:08 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidThe YMCA offers discounted gym memberships for people who cannot afford to pay. Check it out.


    It might even be free.
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    Jun 10, 2009 5:17 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidWalk.

    Smell the summer / spring day. Feel your heart beating. Savior the feeling of being alive. Know that things worth having and worth doing often take time, patience, persistence, planning and focus, and sometimes meet with obstacles and temporary failures. Know that things won't always be as they are now. Remember what you WERE.


    Crawl, walk, run. One foot in front of the other. Small goals, a bit at a time.

    When I learned to skate, I fell, many, many, many, times. I got bruised. I got bruised some more. I ached. I got frustrated. I downright got pissed. Then, I learned how to skate like the wind, and backwards, too...then, I was playing hockey and loving it. Life is like that. Sometimes you get a bit dinged, but, hockey rocks, and so do cool trophies.



    Your old life is done with. It's over. That's the cool thing about it.

    Now, you have your new life. It's just starting.

    It won't be without challenges, nor will it be without rewards.

    .


    wow Chucky, beautiful advice.
    I went through these same steps my first marathon. I started out running a mile, then two and so on.
    It was hard as hell and I had a number of injuries but I kept telling myself how lucky I was to have a body that works well and to be able to make the choice to get better and faster.
    If you want something bad enough, there will be no stopping you.
    It's a revelation to do something you never thought possible just to realize the only thing ever stopping you was yourself.
    Keep posting and let us know what you come up with.
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    Jun 10, 2009 6:00 PM GMT
    Figure out what your driving force is. Are you a competitor, or are you losing the weight for other people. It is much easier to be motivated if you have a cause in mind such as becoming a vegetarian, finishing a 5k, getting in shape to play a sport or something to that degree. It can be very discouraging if you're doing it for others, and you're not getting what you expect out of it. Successful weight loss, isn't going to happen in the form of binge dieting and exercise. It's a lifestyle and a mind reset, re-evaluating your relationship with food, and coming to peace with your body. That's something that has to come from within. No one here can tell you how to flip the switch for the desire and the motivation because it's something that's unique to that individual person.

    My switch was flipped after I had moved into an apartment with my then young dog who had been outside for just about all of her life. I'd let her in, and housebroken her, but my roommate didn't believe in dogs in the house so she stayed out most of the time. She needed 2 long walks of at least 45 minutes to an hour in order not to tear up the apartment or bark incessantly. Eventually I was finding myself walking up to 8 miles in a day, and I joined the nearby gym, and began doing full body workouts. Around college graduation, stress, guilt, and anxiety about having all this attention showered on me, and my not having the courage to come clean about my sexuality got to me, and on one of those walks I broke out into a hard run which I maintained for between 15-20 minutes, and I haven't stopped since. I ran through my addiction to alcohol, and eventually that switch was flipped as well. I just couldn't take the drinking anymore. Races saved me early in my sobriety, and it was really amazing how quickly my times jumped down. Since then I've bested my high school PRs, joined a softball league and hit my first home run a few months ago (it was only a league scrimmage, but still it was against a full team...and it was something I never believed I could do). It's kind of a trip doing things you never thought you could do because when we're in ruts we simply don't believe we deserve the capabilities, gifts and accomplishments that others take for granted. I've learned that there's one guarantee in life, and that is you will never accomplish anything if you don't try. Today i wake up every day making 4 choices...I will exercise, I will listen to my body as I exercise, I will not overeat, and I will not drink. They're easy subconscious choices now, which are just a part of my everyday routine just like brushing my teeth. Was it that way in the beginning? No. Am I perfect? Nope! Would I go back to the way I was before? Absolutely not!!!!
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    Jun 11, 2009 1:17 AM GMT
    There is so much truth in what Runninchlt has said. "Fitness" and "health" is a journey. It's not a perfect straight line, but it's about the zig-zagging you do when you're learning new habits and letting go of habits that don't work for you.

    For me, it's been a 15-year process and I am still learning.

    Good luck Adam, and keep us posted on your progress. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 11, 2009 1:45 AM GMT
    Push ups,sit ups and walking are free,and modifying your diet to be low fat and low calorie wont cost you anything either.I had a friend who was low on cash and he used to work out with five gallon buckets half full of water,he would lift them up from his sides as high as he could and hold them for as long as he could.His body was perfect.He had no gym membership.