Do you go out to dinner by yourself?

  • silverfox

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    Jun 04, 2009 11:46 PM GMT
    I am not talking about a quick meal at fast food after a workout. I mean, saying to yourself "I am going to go out because I feel like it, or I don't have anything in the fridge."

    I have no problem having lunch alone, in fact it is usually a good time for me to get some work done. Not a big fan of going out to dinner by myself. I wonder if I am not comfortable with myself? I hope I am!


    What about you?
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    Jun 04, 2009 11:50 PM GMT

    There is this Mexican place about 2 miles from here that I love and when I go there I have to have something saucy and a big blue margeritta so I run there and I run back. It's a nice place to take a date to. The server girls know me when I show up in running shorts and a t-shirt though. They call it "guilt free" dining and it is.
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    Jun 04, 2009 11:52 PM GMT
    I started doing this a long while ago as part of a self help process when I was pretty down. I got the idea from a book called 'Finding The Boyfriend Within' by Brad Gooch. The book is essentially about being that which you want and being comfortable with who you are. So yea, I take myself out to lunch all the time and out to dinner about once a month.


    Silverfox, I think you are cool beans and comfy in your own skin. Otherwise, how could you continue with the guy above you threads when you've gotten so much crap about them (from me too icon_redface.gif from time to time). If I were you, I would go out with myself. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 05, 2009 12:07 AM GMT
    I've never really thought of it until now. But the thought does make me feel a bit uncomfortable. I wonder why?

    I think I've been conditioned to understand that going out for dinner is more of a social gathering, usually involving a cause for celebration - perhaps this is why I find it strange to think of dining alone.

    I should try it sometime, just to see what it is like.
  • Timbales

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    Jun 05, 2009 12:08 AM GMT
    I have when I've been traveling, and I have a couple of times when the bf has been out of town.
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    Jun 05, 2009 12:16 AM GMT
    I wouldn't dine out by myself because I can make a meal quickly at home. It's just more relaxing when I don't have to site in one place, can do other things while having a meal, and not mind my table manners. When traveling on business I have done it but I usually have company or friends with me at dinner.
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    Jun 05, 2009 12:20 AM GMT
    If you gotta eat you gotta eat, seriously going to starve because no ones around to accompany you
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    Jun 05, 2009 12:24 AM GMT
    Heck no...peeps stare too hard, u can't enjoy ur foodicon_eek.gif
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    Jun 05, 2009 12:32 AM GMT
    I've done it when I'm unable or don't have time to get friends together. I have eaten at a counter sometimes - and watched them cook the food - places that are kind of trendy and cool - I actually like sitting up there.
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    Jun 05, 2009 12:34 AM GMT
    I have done it a few times, but I prefer going out to diner with friends, family or a nice date.

    It feels like something is missing when i dine out by myself, makes me depressed sometimes. lol
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    Jun 05, 2009 12:38 AM GMT
    never did that..i think it will look sad...on my part...especially when the waiter or hostess asks.."table for one" --.the only thing i believe to be natural is going to the movies alone.
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    Jun 05, 2009 12:51 AM GMT
    whatever I want to do...eating in a particular restaurant, traveling, having sex, seeing a movie in the theater, etc...I don't deny myself just because there isn't somebody available to share the experience with. I guess I'm pretty secure on my own. Of course, most(but not all) experiences are better with company but I just do what I want whether I have to do it alone or with someone else.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jun 05, 2009 1:02 AM GMT
    The trick to eating out alone is to take something to read. You will appear to be aloof and intellectual and unapproachable and thereby most attractive. If you're really reading, take something that interests you and keep the book tilted to give a real prospect something to stike a conversation about the title. If you're only using it as a prop, take a copy of Moby Dick, and say you thought it was a porn novel (actually that scene at the beginning with the dweeby guy and the huge black guy in the same bed is pretty steamy. What was that all about Herman?) and hope the guy has a sense of humor.
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    Jun 05, 2009 1:04 AM GMT
    I do. Haven't much lately but last year I was doing it a lot. Big whoop. Ya gotta eat.
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    Jun 05, 2009 1:04 AM GMT
    No. I will go to a movie alone or to the art museum alone or go visit Beaux, which is the same as being alone....but not dining out alone.


    ok...waiting to see if i get a reaction from Beaux....3...2...1 .... icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 05, 2009 1:06 AM GMT
    I am sorry not for me or is it???.....I do make a killer salad and I like to share dinner with others. I guess if I was not around anyone I could treat myself to a nice dinner some place.
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    Jun 05, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    All the time...it's always amusing to see people look at me sympathetically while I'm by myself.
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    Jun 05, 2009 1:08 AM GMT
    lugubrious saidAll the time...it's always amusing to see people look at me sympathetically while I'm by myself.

    You need that??? .... icon_eek.gif

    "Give her something that says "America." Give her Texas!" -- Wanda Sykes ... icon_lol.gif
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Jun 05, 2009 1:11 AM GMT
    Yes. I actually just got back from dinner alone, because I really didn't feel like cooking tonight. I don't have to compromise with myself about where I want to go, nor how long I want to be there.

    And, yes, I bring along a book. But I go basically everywhere with a book, so that's not terribly surprising.
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    Jun 05, 2009 1:12 AM GMT
    Oh, God, no. I read or heard somewhere, years ago, that "people who eat alone, die alone." For some reason, that stuck in my head and totally freaks me out. Not that I don't suppose most of us die alone, unless like you're on a plane, or in a commune, but still. Even when traveling solo, I prefer room service or take out.
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    Jun 05, 2009 1:14 AM GMT
    I love it. I am not in the mood to get people together, pay a check and figure what everybody had, add tip, figure out who is jipping everybody, a big ass hassle. Plus, I like getting in and out.

    I also go to the movies by myself. Same reason as explained above. I am a loner, enjoy my solitude, and enjoy my company.

    That is one of the things that I had to work on when I got in a relationship.

    P.D. Erik Taurean, "Finding the Boyfriend Within" should be a required reading for all men. It helped change some things about me after a disastrous break-up.
  • silverfox

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    Jun 05, 2009 1:18 AM GMT
    WillFTL saidOh, God, no. I read or heard somewhere, years ago, that "people who eat alone, die alone."



    OMG somebody quick get me a razor blade to slit my wrists I just challenged myself and ate by myself tonight.....

    And now you tell me this????


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  • calibro

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    Jun 05, 2009 1:22 AM GMT
    I usually find myself doing brunch or lunch by myself
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    Jun 05, 2009 1:24 AM GMT
    theboyfriendwithin.jpg

    If my boyfriend within looked like that, I would...

    either

    1) go in and never come out

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    2) turn myself inside out and have all the boyfriends outside that I could want ... icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 05, 2009 1:25 AM GMT
    I eat alone when I am traveling. Not a big fan of it, but a man has to eat. I usually find a restaurant with a bar. Sitting at the bar alone is easier to me than at a table. Plus you get to talk to the bartender and watch sports on the TV.