Snowlost_Rex saidOh man. I think one of my biggest pet peeves -ever- is when someone calls me "Boy," or "Son."
I'm 21 years old, and I'm a male, but to me, being called those is like me calling anyone who's older than me "Gramps," or "Peon."
I just think the terms are derogatory, over-used, and way too subservient. No one's got any kind of power over me, unless I give it freely, and those terms, first off, really only apply to 7 year old kids.
Any thoughts or things you absolutely hate being called?
Even though you're ten years younger than I am, I wouldn't call you "son" or "boy". But I might call
you next time I'm in COS and ask if you want to hike up the Barr Trail or go kick a ball around the fields at Bear Creek Park.
Generally I'm not bothered by most nicknames and casual references, but it sounds like the way you feel towards "son" is how I feel towards "hottie". Frankly, I find the word a little insulting when used directly. I have come to associate the word with its overusage by people who have nothing more interesting to do other than sort everyone they see into categories of sexual attraction. And it seems like the guys they describe as the hottest hotties are just guys who are adept at wearing the veneer of whatever "look" is currently considered the peak of gay attractiveness. I had a guy at a leather/bear bar a couple years back come right up to me and say, "What's a smooth young hottie like you doing here tonight?" And I could read in his face that that was his internal keyword for the little role I would have to play in relating to him. I kinda smiled demurely and engaged him in polite conversation until his eyeballs led him away towards another "hottie", but I really wanted to say something like, "Well, I'm here because I can only get off if you cover yourself in half-licked Oreo cookies and sing 'America The Beautiful' with a mouthful of marshmallows while I recite the first 256 digits of Pi and bombard you with nerf darts in a room all filled with chinese lamps", just to see if I would still fit into the little Hottie box afterward.