Tigre87 saidToday we live in world that is very "open" about sexuality. Is there guys somewhere that wait for the right person and think about future? Today most guys dont care about future and for example have speed dates or something... Is very rare find someone that is really looking more that a "friendship" and someone that is not the kind of "easy going"... No one is perfect but if most people are always "easy going" well in reality we dont are diferent of animals, that just look for mate etc... dont?
You describe 2 different things, and yet one leads to the other.
It once was said in English that a young man had to "sow his wild oats" before he married and settled down. This was an acknowledgment of what people saw as a natural part of human male growth and the process of maturing. A young man wants to have his fun, before that time passes on its own, and he begins to value stability over simple sex.
Right now you, and the other gay men of similar age you see around you, want simple sex. That is normal, as things should be. Just be careful & safe.
The day will come when you will want a different thing, will want to settle down with one man. You will know when that day happens. It was like the time you began to put away your childhood toys, and turned your attention to the things of the adult world.
And that process never ends. Even now, at 60, I continue to enter new phases of my life. What I want and do today is not the same as when I was 40, nor when I was 20.
I think it's OK to be a gay man in his early 20s meeting lots of other gay men on an open & casual basis. This is how you will come across a more lasting relationship when you are ready for that next phase in your life.
Don't rush things and worry about it too much. Take everything in its turn. Right now you are young and starting out. Have fun, enjoy, learn about life & love. I envy you very much.