Getting Divorced

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    Nov 15, 2007 1:56 AM GMT
    I got served with my Divorce papers yesterday and it sent me into an emotional tailspin that really took me by surprise. My ex and I are great friends, had a great 14 year marriage and we've been separate for a number of years but it will still feel odd to finally take off the ring in 60 -90 days... I wonder what to do with it?

    Have it remade into a new ring?
  • Timbales

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    Nov 15, 2007 2:21 AM GMT
    I don't know, that's a pretty personal thing. On the one hand, you may want to transform it as a symbol of the changes in your own life. But on the other, you may just want to keep it with the rest of your mementos of the marriage.

    What is she planning to do with hers? Maybe you could both do something together?
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    Nov 15, 2007 2:44 AM GMT
    well she is planning on remarrying but she wants the keep her ringset intact to pass onto our kids. Mine is clearly part of the set so it isn't appropriate (I think) to integrate it into another ring should I remarry (not beyond the realm of possibility)

    I moved it to my right hand when my wife and I separated; took it off entirely when I had a relationship with a guy then put it back on again when I met Caslon to signify I am no longer single and looking.

    I'm torn though between having it reformed and continuing to wear it on my right hand as symbolic of it still being an integral and valued part of my life (that gave me many happy years and two great children), or preserving it as it is only to leave it tucked in some drawer to be forgotten.


  • Timbales

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    Nov 15, 2007 2:47 AM GMT
    Well, maybe you could include yours in the set to pass down to the kids?

    If it were me, I wouldn't continue to wear it or have it made into another ring. I'd either save it as is or have it melted and made into a cuff style bracelet.
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    Nov 15, 2007 3:10 AM GMT
    I like the bracelet idea for me, Timberoo - particularly as the ring has a jade chip embedded into it but there is an appropriateness to giving it to my ex to keep it with the set for the two kids. our rings contain heirloom gold from both sides of the family.

    Any other suggestions?

    No?
    *bangs gavel*
    Make it so.
  • Timbales

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    Nov 15, 2007 3:11 AM GMT
    yes Captain Picard ;)
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    Nov 15, 2007 3:17 AM GMT
    When I got divorced a billion years ago, I asked the same question. My whole family were lying around on the patio in the sun on a beautiful afternoon, and my mother shocked us all by suggesting I have it split down the center and made into tit rings.
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    Nov 15, 2007 3:18 AM GMT
    Oooh GaWD WHAT A VOICE that man has!!!

    His voice and Ron Perlman's in "Beauty and the Beast" just make me melt. ;)
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    Nov 15, 2007 3:19 AM GMT
    TWO rings or TIT rings??? icon_eek.gif

    I like her!!!
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    Nov 15, 2007 3:25 AM GMT
    yes, Firecat, one for each tit icon_smile.gif
  • zakariahzol

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    Nov 15, 2007 11:26 AM GMT
    This is off topic.

    I go thru a green card marriage of convenience (for immigration benefit) with an American girl in 1989. She left me about 6 month after the marriage. I have no idea where she is now except her last address in Arizona. Unless she annul the marriage without my knowledge or she no longer alive, we are still legally husband and wife in the USA (marriage between people of difference religion is null and void in my country).
    Strangely I considered myself married to her and if people ask me my marital status I will said I am separated.

    I dont think I will ever get married again (to a women) during this life time. So it best to leave it the way it is. I dont think me and Mary need to get a divorce.
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    Nov 15, 2007 4:51 PM GMT
    I would keep the ring intact and put it away as a symbol of that part of your life. Then get a new one as a symbol of the new relationship in your life.

    I am getting a really strong feeling here that it is time to go shopping. ... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 27, 2007 9:39 PM GMT
    I moved mine to my right hand for a while, but eventually got tired of worrying about bending it out of shape - I'm not always too easy on my hands and it's very thin platinum. Now I wear it on a necklace, and it only comes off in the shower or at the gym.

    Funny, the ring means even more to me now as a remembrance than it did when I actually was married.
  • SpartanJock

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    Nov 29, 2007 2:37 PM GMT
    IMO, you should keep the ring as it is. It has significance to you and your ex, but your two wonderful children may also find significance in it, as it is now a family heirloom.

    BTW, that's not a very subtle way of proposing to your man! I think he figured it out. icon_biggrin.gif