If you met someone new to your city, how would you welcome them?

  • JockChefJim

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    Jun 07, 2009 8:13 PM GMT
    This is a topic I am personally connected with. New to Austin and have been trying all sorts of new things to meet people. Getting involved with the community with charity organizations, going out and striking up conversations with strangers and spending too much time online. People here have always been friendly and I have even made a couple of friends. However I have yet to be invited into thier circle of friends. It's always one on one meetings. Personally I don't like to ask to be invited when they say they are attending a party, movies, etc. It seems too needy and rude...which after 7 months, I am starting to feel that way. Would any of you be quick to invite a new guy into your circle of friends to help him adjust to a new city?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 07, 2009 8:22 PM GMT
    Well you have some great guys here from Austin.... I would contact each personally and ask them their input.

    I bet Mike (Mickeytopogigio) would have some great advice.!

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  • calibro

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    Jun 07, 2009 10:08 PM GMT
    Austin is a city where you kind have to break into your own social scene. I've always wanted to have an RJ meet up here since there are a ton us; perhaps you have more initiative and would like to set that up? I know I'd attend.
  • JockChefJim

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    Jun 07, 2009 10:19 PM GMT
    calibro saidAustin is a city where you kind have to break into your own social scene. I've always wanted to have an RJ meet up here since there are a ton us; perhaps you have more initiative and would like to set that up? I know I'd attend.


    that's actually an interesting thought. I remember (warning...about to date myself) when chatting online was still realitively new, a bar in KC had monthly AOL m4m room meet ups. Initially they were a huge success..... then someone held up a shinny disco ball and it was all forgotten about. (That or people started to realize that teh people were sending pics of them selves that was 10+ years old.) I wonder if Rusty Spurs be open to that idea. make it a Real Jock/Facebook meet up.
  • calibro

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    Jun 07, 2009 10:34 PM GMT
    JockChefJim said

    that's actually an interesting thought. I remember (warning...about to date myself) when chatting online was still realitively new, a bar in KC had monthly AOL m4m room meet ups. Initially they were a huge success..... then someone held up a shinny disco ball and it was all forgotten about. (That or people started to realize that teh people were sending pics of them selves that was 10+ years old.) I wonder if Rusty Spurs be open to that idea. make it a Real Jock/Facebook meet up.


    I have nothing against Rusty Sprus, but not sure how many guys would want to have a meet up there... but who knows, maybe they do. I think something a little more informal like a dinner where you didn't have to compete with music and two-stepping hotties might make conversation easier. Like Trudy's or something, but that's just my two cents.
  • JockChefJim

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    Jun 07, 2009 10:41 PM GMT
    The music and crowd is why I initially thought of RS. I'm not a fan of trying to talk to new people in crowed bars due to a hearing issue. I tend to go out during slower times....weekdays, etc. Still learning what is available in this city so "2 cents" are always welcomed.

    Also any other suggestions from Non Austin people are welcomed here. I'm still courious if people consider it too needy or rude to invite yourself out with a friend who is going out with friends when you are new to a city.
  • DCEric

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    Jun 07, 2009 10:46 PM GMT
    Better solution: Get involved with a group activity you like (soccer, environmental clean up, etc) that you do not coordinate. Then as things are winding down each week, ask if people want to grab a drink/dinner, etc. This way you aren't being rude or intruding and instead are (kind of) hosting. I've deliberately done this before, it takes a couple of times offering but eventually you get two or three people to go with you. Then the next time four or five, and so on.

    Obviously this is basically what an RJ meet up amounts to.
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    Jun 07, 2009 10:49 PM GMT
    I understand that situation. I moved back to DC year ago after being away for college. Being an openly gay 23year old is a lot different than a 17 year old closeted catholic school boy in this town.

    I joined the DCStrokes gay crew team. Best decision I made this year. I had 20 new friends immediately. I don't go out with them cause I have no money, but the past 4 months has allowed me to connect with a group of people that I have a strong immediate connection with.

    I'm not saying join crew, but you need to find something where you are forced to be with like-minded people for a large amount of time.
  • JockChefJim

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    Jun 07, 2009 11:02 PM GMT
    Again....more good ideas above me. Unfortunately I missed out on this years softball league due to conflicts with work. Hey.....I can't turn down that overtime. I have asked around and the next chance I have will be bowling. Glad everyone I have talked to says you don't have to be good at the game/sport to play on a league.
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    Jun 07, 2009 11:32 PM GMT
    JockChefJim askedIf you met someone new to your city, how would you welcome them?


    Well, if my apron came out of the wash in a reasonable amount of time, I'd hurry over with a delicious orange bundt cake and the latest Teen Beat issue.
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  • DCEric

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    Jun 07, 2009 11:35 PM GMT
    JockChefJim saidAgain....more good ideas above me. Unfortunately I missed out on this years softball league due to conflicts with work. Hey.....I can't turn down that overtime. I have asked around and the next chance I have will be bowling. Glad everyone I have talked to says you don't have to be good at the game/sport to play on a league.


    ...and if you find a league like that quit. Its not fun when people get like that. We aren't pro-athletes.
  • JockChefJim

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    Jun 08, 2009 12:09 AM GMT
    McGay said
    JockChefJim askedIf you met someone new to your city, how would you welcome them?


    Well, if my apron came out of the wash in a reasonable amount of time, I'd hurry over with a delicious orange bundt cake and the latest Teen Beat issue.
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    Love a good bundt cake.
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    Jun 08, 2009 12:12 AM GMT
    I'd give him a big hug and hope the Freakies don't find him. icon_cool.gif
  • JockChefJim

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    Jun 08, 2009 12:15 AM GMT
    Soulasphyxia saidI'd give him a big hug and hope the Freakies don't find him. icon_cool.gif


    Unfortunately that's unavoidable. Knew that too. it must be all those years I worked in Psych.......they REALLY are attracted to me. LOL.

    But hugs are always good.
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    Jun 08, 2009 12:18 AM GMT
    JockChefJim said
    Soulasphyxia saidI'd give him a big hug and hope the Freakies don't find him. icon_cool.gif


    Unfortunately that's unavoidable. Knew that too. it must be all those years I worked in Psych.......they REALLY are attracted to me. LOL.

    But hugs are always good.
    Well, of course! icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jun 08, 2009 12:35 AM GMT
    I'm so sorry. This happens to me all the time. I meant cunt bake, not bundt cake. I don't have a picture. icon_twisted.gif
  • JockChefJim

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    Jun 08, 2009 1:30 AM GMT
    McGay saidI'm so sorry. This happens to me all the time. I meant cunt bake, not bundt cake. I don't have a picture. icon_twisted.gif


    OK....as a gay chef, I am telling you.....NEVER make that again. The only cakes that should smell like fish are crab cakes. icon_eek.gif