Terrible News...

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    Jun 07, 2009 10:26 PM GMT
    Without getting into too much detail, a good friend of mine, whom I've known a long time, kinda fell of the face of the Earth back in February. The last time we spoke was Thursday, Feb. 26th. In the brief conversation we had, he said he had to go to Oklahoma for a funeral and he'd be back the following Sunday. Sunday came and went, Monday, Tuesday....days turned into weeks, weeks into months....

    In my mind, the only thing that made since to me is that something terrible must of happened on his way to or from the funeral. Unfortunately, my worst fears came to fruition last night....one of my best friends was hit by a drunk driver one night in Dallas, rending the car unrecognizable, leaving him in a coma for a week, shattering his right leg and him being life flighted to the hospital. He spent over a month in the hospital and is still trying to recover...even 4 months later.

    I feel terrible. I feel helpless like there's nothing I can say or do. I've told him over and over that if there was anything he needed, I'd be there. But it sounds so cliche. I'm just devastated. I feel violated. I feel happy, sad, and enraged all at the same time.

    For all you F______ drunks out there, you should rot in hell. It's innocent one's like my friend who will pay for it the rest of his life. PLEASE, PLEASE kill your self and not my friends and family. Drink responsibly folks. You can't possibly know how it feels until it happens to somebody close to you or in your family.
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    Jun 07, 2009 10:30 PM GMT
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    Jun 07, 2009 10:37 PM GMT
    My cousin and nine of her friends were killed by a drunk driver while they gathered to meet after a highway clean up. I still have problems with that one; however, life must go on and we must continue to have the perseverance and nimble minds that need in order to survive whatever tragedies life throws our way.

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    Jun 07, 2009 10:44 PM GMT
    Well....my gay brother and is friend was killed by a drunk driver...so please do not drink and drive.....
    I feel your pain
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    Jun 07, 2009 10:54 PM GMT
    mistic_man saidWell....my gay brother and is friend was killed by a drunk driver...so please do not drink and drive.....
    I feel your pain


    Ouch! I can't even begin to imagine. My friend wasn't killed and I'm just so jolted by the whole thing. I can't imagine the alternative. So sorry to hear.
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    Jun 07, 2009 11:33 PM GMT
    So sorry about your friend. But the good thing is, he's alive.

    I know all about drunk drivers and believe me, I understand your anger. My father was a horrible alcoholic. He drove drunk all the time. . . often with me in the back seat. There were times when I thought he was going to wreck the car and kill all of us.

    Again, very sorry about your friend. . . and for you. I hope he's getting better.
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    Jun 08, 2009 12:33 AM GMT
    Wow, sorry to hear about the events that have happened. While I've never lost a friend to a drunk driver, I can only imagine.... I hope I never have to experience it.

    I would certainly make your friends' family aware of your concern and caring.
    I would volunteer in some way in which you are comfortable and always make your volunteerism in the name of your friend.... whether he recovers or not.
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    Jun 08, 2009 2:48 AM GMT
    The same thing has touched my family (but before I was born). I lose all respect for someone if they drink and drive.
    I'm really sorry to hear about that.
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    Jun 08, 2009 2:57 AM GMT
    I have seen many bad car wrecks where drink was the cause. I cant began to tell you some of the worst thing I have seen nor will I just know that my brothers and I on that thin blue line are still fighting th good figh to stop drunk driving. My thoughts are with you and your friend
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    Jun 08, 2009 2:59 AM GMT
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    Sorry to hear this news. You should offer to volunteer in some way to his recovery, If the family will permit you.

    it is important to provide support.
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    Jun 08, 2009 3:15 AM GMT
    So sorry Blake, but I am glad your friend is alive and I hope he makes a speedy and complete recovery. Keep us posted on his condition.
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    Jun 08, 2009 3:22 AM GMT

    Sorry for your loss, but the best news is your friend is alive and I trust the bastard who did it is behind bars?
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    Jun 08, 2009 3:44 AM GMT
    I am sorry to hear about your friend. A good family friend was killed at the age of 16 by a drunk driver. It was the asshole's 4th DUI and only got one year jail sentence. The family of the teen had to move out of the area. icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 08, 2009 7:02 AM GMT
    Thanks for the well wishes. I just got off the phone with him and poor thing, he's in so much pain (and horny...hey he still has a since of humor).

    As far as the guy who did it, he's not aware of his condition or what has happened to him. I'd assume he's behind bars (in the execution chamber hopefully). I asked a police officer today what he would be charged with and he said his best guess would be vehicular assault which in Texas carries a severe penalty. I think he said 2 years prision, loss of license, massive fine and several other things.

    Whatever the case, I can only wish him the very best . Thanks for the well wishes for him. He's somebody special and am glad to be his best friend.
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    Jun 08, 2009 7:12 AM GMT
    U guys shouldn't be so bitter or angry bcuz it's a timing issue. My thoughts n prayers go out to all of ur loved ones, but wut can u doicon_question.gif Wuts happened has happened and life goes on and we can't bring them back or make it perfect again. I have lost loved ones too, its very tragic n difficult, trust meicon_exclaim.gif Just know these people are in a better place now, and u will see them again.
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    Jun 08, 2009 7:15 AM GMT
    So sorry to hear about your friend. While I most certainly cannot even begin to comprehend how you're feeling, my guess is that it is best to let those feelings flow, just let them be.

    On the other hand, yes: Drinking and driving = NO NO. This is one of the things I am never ashamed to be adamant about with my friends and acquaintances.
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    Jun 08, 2009 7:21 AM GMT
    masculine31 saidU guys shouldn't be so bitter or angry bcuz it's a timing issue. My thoughts n prayers go out to all of ur loved ones, but wut can u doicon_question.gif Wuts happened has happened and life goes on and we can't bring them back or make it perfect again. I have lost loved ones too, its very tragic n difficult, trust meicon_exclaim.gif Just know these people are in a better place now, and u will see them again.



    You know...I am not angry and I was not bitter. I just suffered grief like never before. My brother was a link to my coming out and ...poof...he was gone. Two weeks prior to his death, I learned he was gay...I was one day off to ask him and tell him...I was too......This is what hurts. I can't share my life with him.....I had no idea my own brother at 19 liked men ...like me. I did meet his lover at the funeral and wow...even his model scout was so up set, it was the most ureal-surreal event I have ever witnessed in my life and I was never the same....

    DO NOT DRINK WHILE UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ANY KIND!!!

    Bother against drunk driving!!
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    Jun 08, 2009 7:22 AM GMT
    that doesn't make the horrific acts caused by these fucktards any more acceptable. the worst part of all is that they usually walk away with few if any injuries due to their lack of tissue tensing at impact.

    most of them have no realization of what they've done, the impact of it never hits home because "they" didn't do it. meaning, they don't have a memory of it due to their drunken stupor.

    it's entirely different to have someone say "you killed someone last night because you were driving drunk" vs. remembering doing it yourself.

    i have no sympathy for driving while intoxicated or under the influence. throw every book there is at them.
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    Jun 08, 2009 1:36 PM GMT



    Hey gayblaketx, two big stabs of sorrow from us about this terrible thing that happened to your friend.

    Hopefully the drunk driver will be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.

    Zero tolerance!


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    Jun 08, 2009 1:51 PM GMT
    Blake,

    My prayers and speedy recovery goes out to your friend.

    Having lived through the truma of being hit by a drunk driver as kid and survived physically. I was 14 years old. Thank god there were on broken bones but the internal injuries were terrible!

    The only way some can drink responsibly is either "DON'T DRINK", get your behind in a cab or designate a driver PERIOD!

    Hang in there!