Texting during dates

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    Jun 08, 2009 8:18 PM GMT
    I know this has been probably been touched on in another topic but had to VENT...

    What's up with texting repeatedly during a date? Especially if its like the first, second or third date? That "getting to know you" slash "first impression" period...

    I notice this with mostly guys who are 27 years old and younger...

    I get my fair share of text messages, but when on a date I get guilty when I even acknowledge that I heard the phone go off...

    Maybe it's just me, I spend so much time on the internet and messaging for work that when I actually spend time with people in the physical world I focus all my attention on that, ESPECIALLY IF ITS A DATE...

    A friend suggested that I text the other person during the date to ask "WTF is up with all the texting?"...LOL

    Initially I thought I was a boring date, but they'd always say they had a blast and would text me later asking when we could meet up again...sigh...
  • Timbales

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    Jun 08, 2009 8:22 PM GMT
    The phone should be turned off unless you are expecting an important call.
  • Delivis

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    Jun 08, 2009 8:25 PM GMT
    Unless his wife is pregnant or he is a drug dealer, it is just plain wrong.
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    Jun 08, 2009 8:35 PM GMT
    lack of respect is what it is.

    I could undestand maybe once w/ a some statement of why...such has, family emergency, pet issue, etc.

    Now my husband of 12 years, we have both txt while doing stuff together, but it is rare.
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    Jun 08, 2009 9:02 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidThe phone should be turned off unless you are expecting an important call.

    Agreed. If some very important message is expected, one could say that and ask for his indulgence if it should come in, either a voice or text message. Otherwise, a ringing phone should be silenced and let a message be stored, when you see it's nothing urgent. It will keep.

    If you're trying to make a good impression with a date, the focus should be HIM, not your (smart)phone. Good manners in the 21st Century are still good manners. And if anything, when you glance at your ringing cell phone, then silence it, saying "Sorry for the interruption, they can just leave a message" he'll likely be more impressed that you care that much about him, as you should.
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    Jun 08, 2009 9:34 PM GMT
    It is just rude. It would be the last date. Not just because of the rudeness, but also because it reflects on the breeding and maturity of the person. Dump him now.
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    Jun 08, 2009 9:36 PM GMT
    It is plain disrespectful and shows a lack of interest. Rude, rude!
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    Jun 08, 2009 9:43 PM GMT
    It's rude. And if you are expecting one that is important just excuse yourself and check it in the rest-room.


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    Jun 08, 2009 9:58 PM GMT
    He would have a hard time making me feel any LESS important. Dump himicon_exclaim.gif
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    Jun 08, 2009 10:04 PM GMT
    I would excuse myself and go to the bar
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    Jun 08, 2009 10:15 PM GMT
    That's just plain HORRIBLE!!!!
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    Jun 08, 2009 10:16 PM GMT
    RUDE AS HELL!!! EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED THAT IS SOOOO MESSED UP...
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    Jun 08, 2009 10:18 PM GMT
    If you go out with a guy again that pulls that, just excuse yourself to the rest room and leave the restaurant.. I don't think that would be considered much more rude than texting or taking phone calls on a date.

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    Jun 08, 2009 10:23 PM GMT
    I guy did that to me and I texted him saying. "WHAT THE FUCK IS YOUR PROBLEM YOU ARE ON A DATE OR YOU WERE....GOOD BYE"!
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    Jun 08, 2009 10:29 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidThe phone should be turned off unless you are expecting an important call.


    Very true! There was one time I certainly was expecting an important call (my car was in the shop for a transmission issue, and I needed to know the financial impact), but I made this aware to the person I was with so she wouldn't think I was being some rude ass.

    Whether you're in the company of a friend (especially one you haven't seen in a long time) or on a date, why bother texting or speaking on the phone in front of that person? Be dignified and polite!
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    Jun 08, 2009 10:33 PM GMT
    Its really disrespectful, and rude...and it really just shows how much the person is really into you. ON TOP OF THAT, you never know who they are texting...Another guy? perhaps...

    I was on this date a couple of months ago, and we where sitting down at a starbucks. My phone rang a couple of times...i didn't pick up...i apologized for the disruption. Later, on...still in starbucks trying to get intimate and next thing you know, he cuts me off and responds to texts and has the nerve to answer his calls and fully ignored me for a good 15mins!!!!!!.

    I gave him this Serious CUT-EYE!!!!! i was stunned, got up and said" take the f-in calls!"...got up and left.

    CMON! its common sense, if your on a date...don't text/ pick up your phone...UNLESS ITS A EMERGENCY! What is the first thought to pop in your head if the guy that your on a date, starts texting and calling his "friends?"
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    Jun 08, 2009 10:33 PM GMT
    I don't text on dates, but I DO check email frequently and only read if it's work. I always apologize the first time and explain that b/c of my job i have to be in contact and get emails 24hours a day and some require immediate response. I haven't had any issue thus far

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    Jun 09, 2009 12:15 AM GMT
    It might be rude for old people such as myself, but texting is different for the whipper snappers.

    Texting is not rude for them. They'll call in late to work by text, or call in sick, or quit their jobs, send a text for their Mum's birthday. Some people have never known what life was like before mobile phones.

    I don't think it's rude or an attack on you, and neither do they. It's a generational difference, and different is ok in my book. If it worries you, ask them to stop. Rude people won't stop - that's your chance to make a judgement call.
  • EricLA

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    Jun 09, 2009 12:42 AM GMT
    It's the texting during sex that I can't stand.

















    (Yes, I'm kidding.)
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    Jun 09, 2009 1:10 AM GMT

    Ok, calm down, strict dates. What is so HORRIBLE, rude, or unforgivable about texting during a date? It could be anyone: a boss, a sister, a nosy friend, a child, a brother, a father....and the list could go on forever. A guy should worry if on the first date, you are already telling/expecting, inferring him to do certain things. A date with you should show him that you could be a flexible and unintrusive addition to his life, not a ball & chain already!
    A person should pick his battles carefully and frankly, I find annoyance over him texting when you don't know who he's texting is, juvenille, officious, drama seeking, and a complete turn off. I date sometime and never fails, a sister or parent calls (it's like they waited to call), but I don't get mad. I kinda find it a positive that a guy has a healthy connection to his friends and family. This isn't a big deal, drop it! This is an ego issue..."How dare he text when he is out on a date with, mwa??"....seriously honey, there are like 20 guys in the place just like you. icon_lol.gif

  • Timbales

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    Jun 09, 2009 1:12 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    Ok, calm down, strict dates. What is so HORRIBLE, rude, or unforgivable about texting during a date? It could be anyone: a boss, a sister, a nosy friend, a child, a brother, a father....and the list could go on forever. A guy should worry if on the first date, you are already telling/expecting, inferring him to do certain things. A date with you should show him that you could be a flexible and unintrusive addition to his life, not a ball & chain already!
    A person should pick his battles carefully and frankly, I find annoyance over him texting when you don't know who he's texting is, juvenille, officious, drama seeking, and a complete turn off. I date sometime and never fails, a sister or parent calls (it's like they waited to call), but I don't get mad. I kinda find it a positive that a guy has a healthy connection to his friends and family. This isn't a big deal, drop it! This is an ego issue..."How dare he text when he is out on a date with, mwa??"....seriously honey, there are like 20 guys in the place just like you. icon_lol.gif



    It's rude and says "you're not worth my attention".

    How would you feel if someone got out a book and started reading during your date?
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    Jun 09, 2009 1:15 AM GMT

    Really, it says, "I have a life eventhough I'm on a date with god."

    Although, if I were on a date with you, I doubt I could get my fingers to stop shaking long enough to text anyone. Actually, I doubt I could hold my fork either. I'd be so nervous. icon_redface.gif



  • Timbales

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    Jun 09, 2009 1:19 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    Really, it says, "I have a life eventhough I'm on a date with god."

    Although, if I were on a date with you, I doubt I could get my fingers to stop shaking long enough to text anyone. Actually, I doubt I could hold my fork either. I'd be so nervous. icon_redface.gif





    lol

    If I was on a date and my date was texting and taking calls, I'd say "You know, you seem really busy so I'll just leave and let you get to it."
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    Jun 09, 2009 1:30 AM GMT
    If the guy is not totally ignoring you and taking a few texts, it shouldn't be a problem. I have a lot of friends who only text and it happens at the worst moments, LOL
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    Jun 09, 2009 1:35 AM GMT
    TEXTING DURING A DATE?

    Wrong. Rude. Tacky.

    If you must text, how important could it be? A text is not an EMERGENCY phone call.