How to get over someone...

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    Jun 11, 2009 1:47 AM GMT
    I always feel like this is an extremely stupid question to ask, but a friend of mine is getting on my nerves because he's constantly asking how to get over the guy he he had a crush on. Turns out he didn't want a relationship or whatever, and things between them fell apart. So, how do you get over someone you have a crush on that you know isn't worth your time?
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    Jun 11, 2009 1:51 AM GMT
    Take your friend out and get him laid.

    I may sound like I am just being silly, or dismissing his feelings. But the best way to get over someone is to get under someone. It is time for him to get infatuated with someone else.
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    Jun 11, 2009 3:05 AM GMT
    Build a bridge and walk right over them.
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  • dh__

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    Jun 11, 2009 3:12 AM GMT
    keep yourself busy. friends, family, projects. keep yourself busy and slowly you'll learn to get over it. but it's like a deep cut. it will stop hurting after awhile. and then there will be a scar that you will look back on and say, damn that hurt. but slowly you will forget it is even there, and sometimes you'll look at it and just push it from your mind. but the point is, just keep busy until it heals. good luck
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    Jun 11, 2009 3:14 AM GMT
    dh__ saidkeep yourself busy. friends, family, projects. keep yourself busy and slowly you'll learn to get over it. but it's like a deep cut. it will stop hurting after awhile. and then there will be a scar that you will look back on and say, damn that hurt. but slowly you will forget it is even there, and sometimes you'll look at it and just push it from your mind. but the point is, just keep busy until it heals. good luck



    I'm trying to do this right at this very moment with my best friend who basically decided I was ruining his life by caring too much.
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    Jun 11, 2009 3:20 AM GMT
    surferdude1101 said


    I'm trying to do this right at this very moment with my best friend who basically decided I was ruining his life by caring too much.


    yeah. the closer it is the deeper the cut. but it's the same thing. It will hurt like hell for awhile, then it heals and the thought of it still makes you wince, you touch it and you tear up. and it'll be there till finally you barely see it and can go along without looking.
    good luck man, it's never easy. but trust me the busier you keep yourself, the less you feel like the world is ending, and the more you can surround yourself with things that help remind you who you are
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    Jun 11, 2009 5:16 AM GMT
    A major thing is time. But, even that alone isn't enough to make you get over someone.

    He really needs to totally remove that person from his life, whether that means - no longer spending time with or around them, deleting him on Facebook or AIM, removing his phone number. Anything that will remind him of the person, which can be extremely difficult since it's like a drug. Then, the person will fade away slowly, but surely over time, until one day you realize you're over them.
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    Jun 11, 2009 6:36 AM GMT
    a gallon of rocky road ice cream while watching the notebook icon_cry.gif or milk
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    Jun 11, 2009 6:43 AM GMT
    i am trying all those things, but it sucks because thoughts about him still come up at the most random, quiet, private, unexpected moments. and then that hurt resurfaces and i feel as if i am back at square one. i feel like i am being punished for something, for caring so much about someone and then getting blown off. and we were only friends. good friends, i thought.

    i have tried listing all his negatives, which only was 3 things, but they pale in comparison to how great he made me feel when we were together. and i tell myself "he does not like me, he does not feel the same way, so i have to get over him" over and over. it helps some. but like i said, the hurt invades my private moments when i least expect it, and makes it that much worse.

    so if any one has any other suggestions on how i can get over him, i would appreciate more tips.

    cheers
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    Jun 11, 2009 6:47 AM GMT
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    Jun 11, 2009 7:06 AM GMT
    Yep. A boner induced by some other guy erases your memory quicker then any other method.
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    Jun 11, 2009 7:11 AM GMT
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    Jun 11, 2009 8:16 AM GMT
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  • zakariahzol

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    Jun 11, 2009 12:14 PM GMT
    Blue ,

    That dont work for me. My bf cheat on me, dump me for another guys and leave me broken hearted. I delete everything about him from my life, no call, no short messages, fuck other men...no memory what so ever.

    It been 3 years. The other day he call me...I can feel my feet getting weak, my heart beating like crazy and I eagerly ask me to come over eventhough just for a no string attach sex. He said he new bf my know and decline. I can feel my heart broken to pieces all over again.
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    Jun 11, 2009 1:12 PM GMT

    you could always remember that you were a person before them and you will continue to be one without them. =]
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    Jun 11, 2009 1:14 PM GMT
    jrs10k6 said
    you could always remember that you were a person before them and you will continue to be one without them. =]


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    Jun 11, 2009 1:15 PM GMT
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    peregreen saidi am trying all those things, but it sucks because thoughts about him still come up at the most random, quiet, private, unexpected moments. and then that hurt resurfaces and i feel as if i am back at square one. i feel like i am being punished for something, for caring so much about someone and then getting blown off. and we were only friends. good friends, i thought.

    i have tried listing all his negatives, which only was 3 things, but they pale in comparison to how great he made me feel when we were together. and i tell myself "he does not like me, he does not feel the same way, so i have to get over him" over and over. it helps some. but like i said, the hurt invades my private moments when i least expect it, and makes it that much worse.



    SO TRUE....

    I Been here...still kinda am...I tried all the suggestions and just when I think I'm good...He Texts Me!...Or I hear a song we used to like...etc, etc, etc...

    Sex with another guy doesn't work because it's empty sex...Doesn't have the same emotional resonance...Anyway, Life Goes On.....
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    Jun 11, 2009 3:17 PM GMT
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    I was head over heels for someone once and it went sour. I couldn't stand the time it took to get over them and the mistakes I was making at work because I couldn't get him out of my head so I boxed up ALL the emotion I felt for them and all the good time, bad time memories and sealed them forever.!!!!!
    Only to one day have everything break at once and kill everyone around me.
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    Jun 11, 2009 3:43 PM GMT
    Time is the only true healer of heartache, but having a good roll in the sack with another hot mate does wonders as a pain reliever. Hot New Sex = Forget Old Ex
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    Jun 11, 2009 3:46 PM GMT
    It's a process of time and the individually internally no longer dwelling on it any more. If not, it'll never go away!!!
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    Jun 12, 2009 9:03 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidTake your friend out and get him laid.

    I may sound like I am just being silly, or dismissing his feelings. But the best way to get over someone is to get under someone. It is time for him to get infatuated with someone else.


    Yeah agreed with this statement! there are other fishes in the sea! other hot guys to do! move on, get laid, sleep/fool around until you feel better and settled with your inner emotions. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 12, 2009 10:35 AM GMT
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    Jun 12, 2009 10:36 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidTake your friend out and get him laid.


    Or you could do him yourself. It's quicker than looking for a warm, live body from scratch.
  • GQjock

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    Jun 12, 2009 11:02 AM GMT
    Getting over someone can be tough sometimes esp if it ends suddenly or you didn't want it to end
    If you wanna be a good friend just keep your friend's mind off of the break up
    Take him out for a get away week end
    or for a mountain bike ride
    getting him drunk or out to a club will just get him depressed thinking about being with his ex