Am I gay?

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    Nov 17, 2007 12:57 AM GMT
    Hey guys. After much thought I am ready for my first gay experience. How do I really know if I am gay or not?
  • Squarejaw

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    Nov 17, 2007 1:46 AM GMT
    There's so much I don't understand about your post. Specifically:
    "After much thought"
    "ready"
    "how"
    and "know."

    I'm not sure what you mean by any of those words. (I mean that sincerely, I'm not being snarky)

    Can you explain the thought process you've been through? Because for me, it was just a matter of realizing I wanted to be really, really, really close to handsome, athletic guys. It wasn't a thinking thing at all.
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    Nov 17, 2007 2:27 AM GMT
    Would you prefer to look at the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders or the Dallas Cowboys?

    Which one would excite you sexually if you had a chance to go into their locker room?

    Who would you rather hold in your arms, a man or a woman?

    Its basically as simple as that.

    It is how you are hard wired.

    Know also that being 'gay' is not nescessarily an either or thing for many people - it is a continuum of prerference. Many men can find satisfaction with women, but PREFER to be with other men. Many women can find satisfaction with men, but PREFER to be with other women.

    Good Luck, Best Wishes.


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    Nov 17, 2007 2:30 AM GMT
    ahhhh...

    thats something only you can answer and you know.
    ;)
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    Nov 17, 2007 2:36 AM GMT
    I don't think there is any hard and fast litmus test, fitgay. As they often say, if you think you're gay then you probably are gay.

    I took a quick look at your profile, and it appears that you've been a member of our illustrious little community for some time, now. May I be so bold as to suggest, therefore, that you are really looking for encouragement and support as you begin to fully embrace your sexuality? Although I've known that I was gay for most of my life, I didn't actually come out until the age of 37. Believe me, making that conscious decision would have been a lot easier with a caring mentor to help me avoid the pitfalls.
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    Nov 17, 2007 3:02 AM GMT
    funny that you should mention that fitgay. I was asking the exact same question about a year or so back. I figured I couldnt really pronounce myself gay or straight until I had experienced both sexes. I looked at it like a kid who says "I Hate Broccoli", but has never even eaten it. lol. Well turns out I still am not sure. My scientific results were questionable with the woman, because it was a friend that I didnt have any feelings for in a sexual way. Not sure if it was because she was a life long friend or because she was a woman. The man was a success though, and with that I am satisfied for now with the results of my experiment. icon_smile.gif
  • Timbales

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    Nov 17, 2007 4:15 AM GMT
    Do you find yourself attracted to a specific man or men?

    If you are, then give it a shot.
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    Nov 17, 2007 5:09 AM GMT
    Here's a better way to put it:
    What do you most frequently think of when you beat off?

    Those details will pin it better icon_wink.gif
  • zakariahzol

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    Nov 17, 2007 6:37 AM GMT
    Am I gay? 200%. Itjock get it correct Dallas Cowboy for me, those Cheerleaders get out of my way. Ask youself same question. If the answer same as mine you are GAY for the rest of your life and there nothing you can about it.
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    Nov 17, 2007 9:43 AM GMT
    Who cares?

    Sometimes you feel like dick, sometimes you don't. Jeeze. Stop it with all this I,I,I crap and just go with whatever works.

    There's not a rule here that says you have to be 100% one or the other. Do what you feel like, and it'll fix itself. Just don't be stupid (sex practices, marriages, deceit, discreet, pictureless, anonmymous, and so on).

    Life is to short for all that self-imposed shit.
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    Nov 17, 2007 10:51 AM GMT
    'fitgay'. you've chosen that as a username. not 'fitslightlyconfusedstraightwellpossiblygay'.

    you don't seem to be confused on your hotlist.

    so i suggest you get some chap to put his dick in your mouth and if you think, 'hello, this is rather tasty and would you mind awfully shoving it in further big boy?' then you probably are one of the brethren.

    however, if you're thinking, 'now where did i put my nose clippers and i must remember to walk the dog', i think you might have a problem.
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    Nov 17, 2007 11:08 AM GMT
    Or you could just be a Kinsey 2.icon_surprised.gif

    Your not really obligated to like only cheesecake or ice cream...icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 17, 2007 12:50 PM GMT
    I can't say if you are gay or not, but I am convinced that you want to have sex with a man.
  • GQjock

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    Nov 17, 2007 12:52 PM GMT
    If you look at a hot guy and the thoughts go south?

    You're gay
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    Nov 17, 2007 1:30 PM GMT
    OMG, then i'm totally gay!
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    Nov 17, 2007 1:44 PM GMT
    Well, I"m not gay I'm here for the fitness programmes.
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    Nov 17, 2007 2:01 PM GMT
    I'm not gay but my boyfriend is.

    I don't know if you're gay or not but you sure look gay to me.
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    Nov 17, 2007 2:22 PM GMT
    You are "fitgay" on a "gay fitness site" seeking a "gay experience".
    Check.
    You are "versatile" and there isn't a single chick on your "hot list".
    Check.
    Your profile strongly resembles the majority of other gay men's profiles on RJ.
    Check.
    Your hairstyle is very au courant which means you've obviously been studying gay men for some time now.
    Ch...
    Hmmm, that last item may just be beginner's luck.
  • Zookee

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    Nov 17, 2007 5:29 PM GMT
    I think that "Dood" has hit the nail on the head!

    I think the "who are you thinking og when you jerk off" test is the handiest! ;)
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    Nov 17, 2007 7:28 PM GMT
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    Nov 17, 2007 7:45 PM GMT
    Fitgay, I would be happy to help you find out!

    (LOL - sorry, I couldn't resist) Seriously, for me it was like being underwater for 27 years and needing air. If you need the intimacy of a man like you're a drowning man needing air, you're gay.

    ...Yeah, I think that's an apt description. I'm going to tell you the same thing that was told to me about allowing myself to have gay sex.

    1) Assume every man is HIV+ and be SAFE (you can have safe sex with a positive man and not contract the disease).

    2) You will be 14 years old again. You will want a LOT of sex (probably), and you will have crushes. Don't get discouraged. Make lots of friends that you don't necessarily have sex with.
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    Nov 17, 2007 7:59 PM GMT
    you already named yourself Fitgay .. so yes probabely ..lol

    But what I can't understand.. how you waited all that time to ask yourelf this question??!!
    did you had good relationships with women all that time but now you don't?? icon_confused.gif

    and maybe you are bi ?
  • GQjock

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    Nov 18, 2007 1:01 PM GMT
    Bi....
    What's this mean anyway?
    Sexual preference is just that... sexual preference

    I like ice cream
    ... but I like chocolate more than I do vanilla
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    Nov 19, 2007 3:07 AM GMT
    Gay is as Gay does icon_exclaim.gif
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    Nov 19, 2007 3:25 AM GMT
    We could go on a date and find out?