So....there is this guy I like...

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    Jun 14, 2009 4:36 AM GMT
    ...but I'm not sure if he is gay. For track practice, we have conditioning every morning for an hour, then an actual practice later at night, so we see each other a lot. We are the only track athletes in our grade, and we have a little in common. The thing is, he is really shy, and I really want to get to know him, but how do I do that so it doesn't come off as flirting or just plain creepy, considering we don't talk a lot.

    We do, we have casual conversations, but nothing really in-depth. So, should I go for it? Or just leave it alone....because I am pretty sure he is straight (but there is always that chance that he isn't!)

    Thanks!
  • toybrian

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    Jun 14, 2009 12:47 PM GMT
    I would leave it alone for now till you talk now and get a better feel of the guy...At least for now you get a buddy out of it around your age...If it happens then it happens but do not rush it too fast...
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    Jun 14, 2009 1:59 PM GMT
    kbajtos said...but I'm not sure if he is gay. For track practice, we have conditioning every morning for an hour, then an actual practice later at night, so we see each other a lot. We are the only track athletes in our grade, and we have a little in common. The thing is, he is really shy, and I really want to get to know him, but how do I do that so it doesn't come off as flirting or just plain creepy, considering we don't talk a lot.

    We do, we have casual conversations, but nothing really in-depth. So, should I go for it? Or just leave it alone....because I am pretty sure he is straight (but there is always that chance that he isn't!)

    Thanks!


    This always happened to me in Highschool! (argg curses!)
    From experience Don't ask him if he is gay (thats a no no lol)
    Because You will have some guys that will just freak out and cause a scene. " what what! why do you think I'm gay?!!?! dude stay away from me you Fag!?!?!" because if he isn't gay he can kinda guess where your going to with the answer. There are some though, That won't cause a scene and wont know where your going with the question but its 50/50. Theres no harm in having a friend though unless your in love with them.
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    Jun 14, 2009 3:36 PM GMT
    Make a close friend out of him. Then worry about it. Worst case scenario: you have a close friend.
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    Jun 14, 2009 3:41 PM GMT
    DCEric saidMake a close friend out of him. Then worry about it. Worst case scenario: you have a close friend.


    I probably should have made it more clear that this was my intention haha. Thanks a lot guys!!!
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    Jun 14, 2009 3:52 PM GMT
    kbajtos said
    DCEric saidMake a close friend out of him. Then worry about it. Worst case scenario: you have a close friend.


    I probably should have made it more clear that this was my intention haha. Thanks a lot guys!!!


    I figured, but hey, it always helps to here someone agree with you.
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    Jun 14, 2009 3:56 PM GMT
    I think what has already been said is very helpful advice and I agree fully.

    One question, and I think I know the answer to this - how out are you at school and in your life (if at all)? If there's a chance he could find out through the grapevine, it might change your approach somewhat.

    If he finds out by someone else telling him, that could also set you up for some drama if you are investing a lot of time in the friendship. Might be better to be open about your own sexuality now and deal with it, instead of him being surprised down the line by someone else.

    Good luck!
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    Jun 14, 2009 4:21 PM GMT
    Momentum_Play saidI think what has already been said is very helpful advice and I agree fully.

    One question, and I think I know the answer to this - how out are you at school and in your life (if at all)? If there's a chance he could find out through the grapevine, it might change your approach somewhat.

    If he finds out by someone else telling him, that could also set you up for some drama if you are investing a lot of time in the friendship. Might be better to be open about your own sexuality now and deal with it, instead of him being surprised down the line by someone else.

    Good luck!


    yeah the grapevine thing can work but also theres that chance. like me(I always have bad luck lol) I thought this girl was my friend and she asked me who I liked(Big no no) there was nothing but drama my Fr year in high school.


    Shoot! Why Don't I just fly down to where you live and do the investigation for you lol jkicon_wink.gif
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    Jun 14, 2009 5:11 PM GMT
    Unless ur a stalker, i'd just leave it at friends bro, NOT EVERYONE GAYicon_eek.gif could be a major turn-officon_exclaim.gif Most likely he knows u r, but is being nice. Stay friends, dont mess it up.