New gay guy out - Question TWO - regarding sex.

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    Nov 17, 2007 7:11 PM GMT
    Ok, so on to question two...

    So I've had sex with several guys in the past three months since I came out. Not once have I been able to have an orgasm. I pop a good woodie, but after a bit, when the other guys is totally into it, fast and furious, I lose my hard-on and BINGO, no orgasm.

    Why? What's wrong? Am I not really gay? I don't think that's it -- I get so turned on when we're flirting and I love to touch their naked bodies and play with, well, you know.

    I got two different guys off twice in the same nights that I spent with them. I figure I must be pretty decent at this.

    HELP! I'm really in need of release with a sex partner, not just alone.
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    Nov 17, 2007 7:20 PM GMT
    What specifically are you doing when this happens?
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    Nov 17, 2007 7:36 PM GMT
    Nothing in particular. It's just different with different guys. A blow job doesn't even get me off.

    Maybe I'm just too uptight - you know, worrying about whether I'm attractive or not, worrying about whether I can perform, worrying about what kind of STD I might get from the guy, etc., etc.
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    Nov 17, 2007 8:25 PM GMT
    It is definitely possible to psych yourself out. Try to relax and remember they wouldn't be having sex with you if they didn't think you were attractive. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 18, 2007 12:58 PM GMT
    Too much thinkin' and not enuf blinkin'
    lol...seriously try to sit back and enjoy the ride
    if you think about it too much it turns into a buzz kill
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    Dec 09, 2007 1:53 AM GMT
    my first male experiences were like this. It felt weird and wrong to me. Maybe it was because of my Christian background or something, but I would get physically sick afterwards. I mean for the entire rest of the day! Vomiting, Guilt, Depression, Shame. I dont know whether it was because of sexual activity period, or if it was because of gay sexual activity. I wasnt ever able to finish with the first two guys that I did "stuff" with. When I met the first guy I ever actually really liked and had feelings for, I still got up and went home in the middle of the sex the first time. I of course apoligized and said let's just be friends and all that, but it was still a very terrible thing to do. Thankfully that guy understood and still wanted to be friends, so I gave him another shot and have been with him for about a year now. So all I can say is that coming to terms with being gay can be tremendously stressful and can definately have results that are unpleasant.icon_cry.gif