New gay guy out - Question THREE - regarding being the new guy out.

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    Nov 17, 2007 7:14 PM GMT
    Here it is...

    I'm really tired of being the new gay guy out. I'm tired of this "14 again" shit.

    How long is it going to take to "grow up" in regards to gay sex so that I can move on with my life?
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    Nov 18, 2007 2:02 AM GMT
    How do mean 'grow up'? Are you looking to settle down or a new sensation or variety. You must determine where you are, so to speak, before you decide where you need to go next. If you feel like a kid in a candy store (regardless of your age or where you are in being out) then enjoy and embrace it.

    If you don't know what you want yet, your not ready to move on. Take your time, there is no fast track through coming out. You'll know when you're ready.

    Of course, I'm making a few presumptions here. So keep that in mind. If you're in a different place, I hope you don't find this an offensive approach. It's just one perspective.
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    Nov 18, 2007 2:10 AM GMT
    I was married for some years and when I came out in my early 30s I went through the classic gay adolescence--circuit parties, promiscuity, etc. In my case it lasted almost exactly a year to the day. Then I realized that being 16 at 34 was a little ridiculous and I regained some perspective.
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    Nov 18, 2007 3:16 AM GMT
    If your tired of "Being the new Gay Guy out" Then why are you posting all these forums.. I am confused? icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 18, 2007 8:30 AM GMT
    Friendlyguy, first, there is just no getting around the fact that I'm newly out. I'm still learning about myself and about being gay. For example, I just learned the term "Mary" tonight.

    I just really dislike having my life and emotions in disarray. I like my life settled and orderly. I dislike going through adolescence a second time -- it feels silly.

    I'm trying to get perspective from guys who have already done this and can give me some reference by which to go, that's all. I don't want to get stuck here.
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    Nov 18, 2007 12:56 PM GMT
    Stop looking at it as being a tourist out on vacation in a foreign country and live your life
    ... you're gay... so what?
    that doesn't mean you need to transform yourself into anything else
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    Nov 19, 2007 3:39 AM GMT
    I agree with GQ.. (Nice new pic BTW)icon_wink.gif
    Who says you have to do anything any different then you have your entire life?
    Everything is the same except what goes on in the bedroom..
    Even then the majority of srt8/married guys I know are getting/giving or wanting some form of anal at home now as well.. LOL!
    Just be yourself.
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    Nov 19, 2007 5:04 AM GMT

    Don't sweat it Sundown, I've been out since 15 and am still wondering what the hell is going on! icon_biggrin.gif

    Like what is this term "Mary" your talking about? Is that like "Nelly" or "Nancy"? ehhe. I seriously don't know either so don't feel bad.

    You are gay but it doesn't mean you have to ascribe to stereotypical gay culture (unless you want to, it's overrated in my opinion). Be yourself and enjoy your newfound liberation.