Advise, what should I do?

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    Jun 16, 2009 6:09 AM GMT
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    Jun 16, 2009 6:11 AM GMT
    I think what you and him have - is probably a crush. Personally, I don't mess around with guys who are in a relationship. If he's seeking out other guys who are single, you might have to wonder - what is going on in their relationship? Hm, I think you should be careful to not get hurt if anything happens. icon_cool.gif Just be cool, chill, date around and don't get all psycho stalker with him when he's still obviously attached.
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    Jun 16, 2009 6:46 AM GMT
    Be a grown up, and avoid hurting yourself and others: move on.
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    Jun 16, 2009 9:22 AM GMT
    Been there done that, trust me it's not pretty. Feelings get hurt and can ruin his and your relationship....just walk away from
    it. And find someone who is single.
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    Jun 16, 2009 10:00 AM GMT
    Oh boy.

    You said you are having some "interesting yet stupid thoughts." I'll agree with the latter half of that comment. Yes, stupid sums it up nicely.

    Do yourself a favor and stop playing in fantasy land.
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    Jun 16, 2009 12:19 PM GMT
    You can't win in this situation. If he flirts with you but stays with his bf, you get your feelings hurt. If he prefers you and breaks up with his bf, you get a relationship with someone who is willing to see other guys behind your back and dump you as soon as he finds someone he likes better.
  • coolarmydude

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    Jun 16, 2009 12:22 PM GMT
    Step away from the mirage.
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    Jun 16, 2009 12:54 PM GMT
    Don't waste your time with a man already in a relationship.

    He's not available, period, end-of-story.

    Even if he wants to marry you today, he needs time to end his current relationship, break up, have some time to himself for closure to make sure his emotions are healed, etc.

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    Jun 16, 2009 12:56 PM GMT
    I agree step away. If he really is into and wants to date you then he 1st needs to break up with his current partner and move out. A
  • Matia79

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    Jun 16, 2009 1:26 PM GMT
    I've been in this situation and it really does suck for you.

    I have to agree with all the above statements. You have to respect this guy's boundaries . . . and those of his bf. It leaves you out in the lurch but ask yourself this - if he cheated on his boyfriend, in the long run would you really be able to trust that he wouldn't do the same to you?

    Don't get involved in something that will only end up hurting you in the long run. My advice is to cut ties and move on.
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    Jun 16, 2009 8:55 PM GMT
    Pray for guidance from the lord.
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    Jun 16, 2009 8:56 PM GMT
    McGay saidPray for guidance from the lord.


    Don't do that. sorry.
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    Jun 16, 2009 8:57 PM GMT
    Then, send me $5.00 by midnight tonight. Operators are standing by.
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    Jun 17, 2009 1:35 PM GMT
    The grass is greener thing perhaps?
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    Jun 17, 2009 1:52 PM GMT
    Hey tvl1987,


    This is just Doug this time. I volunteer for palliative care. It's very intense.

    That a patient made such a deep impression on you is more than wonderful. That you were able to make his last days this-side golden is priceless, bright and burning like the sun.

    Remember though, that this new friend now is only a physical resemblance, triggering some very deep feelings of connectedness with another.

    Doppelgangers are only that.

    This can't be easy, so hugs -Doug
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    Jul 07, 2009 12:07 AM GMT
    TexDef07 saidYou can't win in this situation. If he flirts with you but stays with his bf, you get your feelings hurt. If he prefers you and breaks up with his bf, you get a relationship with someone who is willing to see other guys behind your back and dump you as soon as he finds someone he likes better.


    nicely said