Life On Line...Is it Just 4...

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    Jun 16, 2009 7:13 AM GMT
    Single people or is it okay 4 couples toicon_question.gif

    I get a lot of offers from couples on line, who are lookin 4 a 3rdicon_eek.gif I am not into it, so i am asking is it koo 4 couples to be on line lookin 4 sex from someone other than their partnericon_question.gif
    Or vice versa: Is it ok for single people to pursue someone else's soulmateicon_eek.gif
    I see a lot of complaining on here about this, but never see anyone dig into it, i need to know wut inquiring minds thinkicon_exclaim.gif
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    Jun 16, 2009 11:28 AM GMT
    I think couples looking for a third is just fine if that's their thing, and to best avoid drama it's best to be the guest star of the three some and not one of the main characters.

    individuals that are part of a couple looking for something on the side is wrong, even if they tell you that " it's an open relationship" .. typically it's only open in that ones mind.
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    Jun 16, 2009 2:38 PM GMT
    I agree with u on da individualistic thing, however, if u r in a relationship, should u be on a website dat clearly encourages sexual behavioricon_eek.gif or even worse most of da people enrolled on these websites, are single and looking for their happiness.
  • calibro

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    Jun 16, 2009 2:44 PM GMT
    There are a lot of awesome couples on here who are not looking for a third and simply come out to chat. I mean, this place would not be the same without Doug or Bill from MenInLove.

    I do think it's wrong for a single person to go after a partnered person, but that is both the fault of the single person and the one cheating if anything occurs.

    We all define our love in our own way and we're all entitled to do what makes up happy. That includes how we spend our time on the internet and for what purposes we use it for. You don't have to respond to someone if they're not your cup of tea.
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    Jun 16, 2009 2:56 PM GMT

    icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif .....gosh calibro...!
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    Jun 16, 2009 3:07 PM GMT



    masculine31, you deserve an explanation so here goes..

    We had distanced ourselves from the gay community...a tragic incident made us realize that community is important.

    We have a very deep and profound love for each other (Bill and I) and decided that this happiness must be of some use other than for just each other.

    This site has brought us back into the swing of things gay, and has allowed us the opportunity to give a little heartfelt assistance to anyone that has use for it. After all, we're old enough to be most guys parents or grand parents, so rather enjoy being those Uncles (or Fairy God-Fathers... just think - they exist! lol) that people can lean on now and then.

    Do we hit on guys? No, what for? lol
    Do we get a little flirty and saucy with guys on the forums? Well, a little bit, in humour - it's a bit foreign to us and we're learning that it can be a lot of light-hearted fun.

    You'll notice we have one profile for us both - this is part proclamation of our status and a statement about how we are with each other.

    Do we get hit on? Sure, but so what? We both appreciate the compliment, and educate any who do make a virtual come-on in the kindest of ways. There's a huge amount of lonely out there, and enough mean rejection to kill a planet load of people.
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    Jun 16, 2009 3:10 PM GMT
    calibro saidThere are a lot of awesome couples on here who are not looking for a third and simply come out to chat. I mean, this place would not be the same without Doug or Bill from MenInLove.

    I do think it's wrong for a single person to go after a partnered person, but that is both the fault of the single person and the one cheating if anything occurs.

    We all define our love in our own way and we're all entitled to do what makes up happy. That includes how we spend our time on the internet and for what purposes we use it for. You don't have to respond to someone if they're not your cup of tea.


    So were u saying its okay for a people in relationship to go after single peopleicon_question.gif
  • Timbales

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    Jun 16, 2009 3:11 PM GMT
    Not every person here is looking for sex.
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    Jun 16, 2009 3:14 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidNot every person here is looking for sex.


    I am not referring to just this website, but all websites. I am sure u surf more than one.icon_lol.gif
  • Timbales

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    Jun 16, 2009 3:21 PM GMT
    masculine31 said
    Timberoo saidNot every person here is looking for sex.


    I am not referring to just this website, but all websites. I am sure u surf more than one.icon_lol.gif


    none of the straight guys on my comics forum want to have sex with me either ;)
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    Jun 16, 2009 3:23 PM GMT
    icon_eek.gif If they're str8, i'm not surprisedicon_lol.gif
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    Jun 16, 2009 3:27 PM GMT
    It's only ok when the people in the relationship define it as ok as well as for the single guy!
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    Jun 16, 2009 3:44 PM GMT
    meninlove said


    masculine31, you deserve an explanation so here goes..

    We had distanced ourselves from the gay community...a tragic incident made us realize that community is important.

    We have a very deep and profound love for each other (Bill and I) and decided that this happiness must be of some use other than for just each other.

    This site has brought us back into the swing of things gay, and has allowed us the opportunity to give a little heartfelt assistance to anyone that has use for it. After all, we're old enough to be most guys parents or grand parents, so rather enjoy being those Uncles (or Fairy God-Fathers... just think - they exist! lol) that people can lean on now and then.

    Do we hit on guys? No, what for? lol
    Do we get a little flirty and saucy with guys on the forums? Well, a little bit, in humour - it's a bit foreign to us and we're learning that it can be a lot of light-hearted fun.

    You'll notice we have one profile for us both - this is part proclamation of our status and a statement about how we are with each other.

    Do we get hit on? Sure, but so what? We both appreciate the compliment, and educate any who do make a virtual come-on in the kindest of ways. There's a huge amount of lonely out there, and enough mean rejection to kill a planet load of people.


    Ur fine bro...lmao no explanation needed 4 me...i'm pretty intelligent hereicon_exclaim.gif I get other stuff, these peeps know who they are. I get nice couples too. I am more concerned about da sexual side of these greetings tho icon_eek.gif
    I can tell real quik which couples are koo and which ones are on line with other motives.
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    Jun 16, 2009 4:01 PM GMT
    No judgement here. It's yo thang, do what you wanna do. To me it is not really an all or nothing moral judgement, simply because it is consensual. This still does not mean that I personally agree with doing it.


    The only "multiple" I have done was a 5-way, once, and it was not for me.
    I prefer one on one. I tend to hate multi-tasking anyway, because it dilutes everything you do. More is not better, at least in my opinion.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qGEubdH8m0s





  • calibro

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    Jun 16, 2009 11:05 PM GMT
    masculine31 said

    So were u saying its okay for a people in relationship to go after single peopleicon_question.gif


    Only if the people in the relationship agree together that it is OK for that person to do that. If they don't have that understanding, that's cheating and it's wrong.
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    Jun 16, 2009 11:08 PM GMT
    calibro said
    masculine31 said

    So were u saying its okay for a people in relationship to go after single peopleicon_question.gif


    Only if the people in the relationship agree together that it is OK for that person to do that. If they don't have that understanding, that's cheating and it's wrong.


    Ding! Ding! Ding!

    We have a winner!

    I agree with Calibro
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    Jun 16, 2009 11:21 PM GMT
    calibro said
    masculine31 said

    So were u saying its okay for a people in relationship to go after single peopleicon_question.gif


    Only if the people in the relationship agree together that it is OK for that person to do that. If they don't have that understanding, that's cheating and it's wrong.


    Why is okay for couples to pursue it *(with each others ok)* and not a single personicon_question.gif dats not fair broicon_lol.gif so about if da single person gets permission from one of the people in da relationship...lol come onicon_twisted.gif