How to concentrate on his instruction not on his body....

  • zakariahzol

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    Jun 16, 2009 9:42 AM GMT
    I think as a gay men, this is a problem with a lot of us. I am taking some Muay Thai class. A new instructor come over yesterday, he is the same fighter I saw on matches (and winning it) just the night before.

    This guy is so good looking, with slim, six pack and firm body. Tanned like bronze skin. Beautiful beautiful smile. So wonderfully polite. He ended up training me for a couple of minute. I find out that his physical perfection are so disturbing to my concentration. I could have fall in love with him just by looking at him. I got really piss off when he is showing some girl how to do do some punch and kick. I cant help imagining the possiblity of some romantic time with him someday

    I know this is stupid , childish and ridiculous. But how do you handle such a stuation. How to concentrate on what he teach me not on his physical appearance.
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    Jun 16, 2009 10:07 AM GMT
    Take a different class if it becomes too bothersome.
  • Bunjamon

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    Jun 16, 2009 12:48 PM GMT
    Yeah, if you can't control your mind enough to look past his looks, you should change instructors.
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    Jun 16, 2009 3:55 PM GMT
    Oh, no no no no! Stay in the class and enjoy. Of course you'll become jealous when he helps someone else. It'll drive you over the edge, and you'll kidnap him and keep him in your cellar chained to a post.
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    Jun 16, 2009 4:01 PM GMT
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    Jun 16, 2009 4:02 PM GMT
    Bud, you should be used to this as a gay man...we only get 1 out of every 10 (on average, if that figure is correct) good looking guys. Take it simply as motivation to continue the class, how do you think im making myself get outta bed and go to the gym today?
    Heres an idea if all else fails, make believe he has a really itchy STD.
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    Jun 16, 2009 4:04 PM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidOh, no no no no! Stay in the class and enjoy. Of course you'll become jealous when he helps someone else. It'll drive you over the edge, and you'll kidnap him and keep him in your cellar chained to a post.


    That's ALL I'm sayin.......
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    Jun 16, 2009 4:07 PM GMT
    You're infatuated. Of course he's going to help other students, that's his job. If you don't think you can develop enough respect for his knowledge, and how it can benefit you in your practice then it's probably best to find another class like others have suggested. He's not there to be your toy, or your fantasy, he's there to teach a class which you are a part of. However, you are not the whole.
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    Jun 16, 2009 5:45 PM GMT
    Once you get kicked in the head a couple times for being distracted, you will be alright.
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    Jun 16, 2009 5:54 PM GMT
    whosyourpaddy saidBud, you should be used to this as a gay man...we only get 1 out of every 10 (on average, if that figure is correct) good looking guys. Take it simply as motivation to continue the class, how do you think im making myself get outta bed and go to the gym today?
    Heres an idea if all else fails, make believe he has a really itchy STD.


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  • 2theTEE

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    Jun 16, 2009 5:59 PM GMT
    Discipline your mind and you'll be 1/2 way to completion.

    *bangs gong*
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    Jun 17, 2009 1:06 AM GMT
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    Jun 17, 2009 1:12 AM GMT
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    Jun 17, 2009 1:22 AM GMT



    WolfRain said
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    Jun 17, 2009 2:13 AM GMT
    Please, please, please be respectful (especially since you don't know if he is gay or not). Just don't fall into the "gay stereotype" where gay men can only think of sex and can't have a normal relationship with attractive guys. I hate the disgusting sleezeball meatheads who come to the gyms to gawk at the women trying to work out....please don't be the gay equivalent.


    I actually know a couple of trainers at my gym who are considering to refuse potential clients the suspect as gay. Not because of the fact that they are gay, but the fact that most of their gay clients from the past have been inappropriate. It's very disrespectful to the trainers if your sole reason for working out with them is for flirting reasons (whether you are a gay guy or a straight women). Just something to think about.
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    Jun 17, 2009 2:15 AM GMT
    If you can't control your mind enough to take instruction, you do not belong there.
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    Jun 17, 2009 2:19 AM GMT
    whosyourpaddy saidBud, you should be used to this as a gay man...we only get 1 out of every 10 (on average, if that figure is correct) good looking guys. Take it simply as motivation to continue the class, how do you think im making myself get outta bed and go to the gym today?
    Heres an idea if all else fails, make believe he has a really itchy STD.


    Its STI now... havent visited your local health unit lately?
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    Jun 17, 2009 5:49 AM GMT
    SavvyGentleman said...sleezeball meatheads who come to the gyms to gawk at the women trying to work out....please don't be the gay equivalent.


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    Jun 17, 2009 5:55 AM GMT
    Start thinking of him as a mentor or a friend rather than a potential shag....that might help.
  • zakariahzol

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    Jun 17, 2009 2:16 PM GMT
    Thats right guys. I usually dont behave like this (I am 44 after all), but I do find him attractive as every red blooded gay men will be. He is very respectful to me, treat me proffesionally and ensuring I learn as much as I can. I should have better control of myself. I am sure I get over my little lusty infactuation.
  • GQjock

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    Jun 22, 2009 2:56 PM GMT
    If you can channel that infatuation for this guy into making you work out more intensely go for it ... and shake it for all it's worth

    But if you find that you're getting more and more distracted and it's affecting the work out
    do yourself a favor and find another class
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    Jun 22, 2009 3:30 PM GMT
    The trainer I used last autumn is a 70 year old woman.

    Sexual thoughts never distracted me from the mission we shared : using proper form.
  • coolarmydude

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    Jun 22, 2009 3:38 PM GMT
    I should have answered this already. Jerk off before class. And be sure to clean up!
  • jrs1

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    Jun 23, 2009 10:49 PM GMT

    possession-obsession. no good. kindly take a pic and move on. haha.
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    Jun 24, 2009 1:51 AM GMT
    I think it depends on your level of outness/openness and how well you can channel your feelings/lust in a different direction. My trainer is young and cute and his picture is in Webster's under the word "Straight." His sexuality was never in question to me.

    I found him quite attractive at first, but I came out to him right after we started working together and it hasn't been a problem keeping things right where they need to be - he's there to help me improve my fitness, and I am there to work hard to make it happen.

    Any other thoughts or indulgences would be pathetic and a colossal waste of time.

    I'm glad I stuck with it because he's really helped me improve my fitness level and eating habits. He's also a really cool guy who's been helpful to me way beyond what any of the other trainers at my gym do for their clients.