Well, I'm definitely not religious, but I don't feel that's the fault of the church in which I was raised. The United Church of Christ is about as liberal as it's possible to be and remain a monotheistic religion--pastors of each gender, married to lay people and with children, openly gay couples in the church and having their unions blessed by the clergy, teaching that evolution was the means of creating the species and the whole Old Testament is parable anyway and therefore not to be taken literally, that the essence of the faith is to live according to the Golden Rule and as long as you've got that then the other details aren't very important, etc. The pastors were even fine with my expressed agnosticism, and never tried to force belief on me, feeling that if it was in my nature to question and doubt, that was fine as long as I was happy with it. For gay people who want to be part of a religious community, I'd recommend giving that denomination a shot. If the individual church I went to is a representative example, they welcome the full spectrum from the first time visitor through the see you once every year or so all the way up to the folks there every single week.
If more religious people were like my former Pastor Kay, I'd be a lot happier with religion in general.