Are you gonna cum?

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    Jun 17, 2009 4:41 AM GMT
    This guy I'm seeing has really been bugging the shit out of me lately. We will be in the middle of having sex and he asks me, "are you gonna cum?" Normally this isn't a big deal, but when I'm nowhere close to cumming, its really annoying. I usually get asked about 3 or 4 times a session. I know he asks because he likes to see me shoot and doesn't want to miss it, but when I'm going to cum, ill tell you so quit asking me! Does this happen to anyone else, hope I'm not overreacting?
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 17, 2009 6:56 AM GMT
    Next time you cum- give him no warning and shoot it in his face- I'm sure he'll see it then-since he's hung up on missing your cum shot!!!icon_idea.gif
  • secretlygay11

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    Jun 17, 2009 5:35 PM GMT
    I can understand why that would be annoying, I ask when it is taking a long time, but 3 or 4 times is a little much.
  • Koaa2

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    Jun 17, 2009 9:38 PM GMT
    I think you should tell him that you will let him know when it is going to happen and not to ask anymore. If he can't trust you to do that, time to look elsewhere.
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    Jun 18, 2009 1:03 AM GMT
    I think if someone stopped and asked me that question, I'd say "get the fuck out, I think we're done here."

    If what someone is doing is not going to do it for me, I will have taken matters into my own hands (literally) long before they could ask that question. Still pretty rude. It's as if they're saying "how long is this going to take? I've got four more blowjobs to do tonight!"

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    Jun 18, 2009 2:52 AM GMT
    spacinjasin saidThis guy I'm seeing has really been bugging the shit out of me lately. We will be in the middle of having sex and he asks me, "are you gonna cum?" Normally this isn't a big deal, but when I'm nowhere close to cumming, its really annoying. I usually get asked about 3 or 4 times a session. I know he asks because he likes to see me shoot and doesn't want to miss it, but when I'm going to cum, ill tell you so quit asking me! Does this happen to anyone else, hope I'm not overreacting?


    Well usually guys will moan or groan to make it known when they're cumming, not many guys ask me that during sex since I cum kind of fast! I think it's understood if you moan loudly or purr/sigh to let him know for sure. icon_redface.gificon_wink.gif
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    Jun 18, 2009 3:05 AM GMT
    Based on my experiences, either I knew when the guy was going to based on body language / moaning / him telling me. Never have I had to continually ask the guy. Doing so would make it sound like something I'm not enjoying, but instead more or less a chore like washing dishes.

    Of course some guys take longer than others to finish. Perhaps he is just not that into it? Maybe you should just tell him to try one or two times not asking you at all and see if that works. Surprise him while he is looking vs having him come to expect it.
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    Jun 21, 2009 5:41 AM GMT
    What would Heloise say?
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    Jun 21, 2009 6:43 AM GMT
    Still pretty rude. It's as if they're saying "how long is this going to take? I've got four more blowjobs to do tonight

    LOL

    Yikes! I would soon have performance anxiety if I dated someone who kept asking me that.
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    Jun 21, 2009 11:21 AM GMT
    You don't ask someone if he is going to cum. You make him cum. Simple. icon_idea.gif
  • GQjock

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    Jun 22, 2009 10:56 AM GMT
    You don't ask someone if he is going to cum. You make him cum. Simple.

    Yup it's in the actions and not the words
    But you need to tell this dude ... bud, if you wanna know when I'm gobnna cum I'll let you know the next time icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 22, 2009 2:20 PM GMT
    does he not enjoy sex?
    why is he in such a hurry for it be over?
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    Jun 22, 2009 4:40 PM GMT

    Put something in his mouth. icon_twisted.gif

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    Jun 22, 2009 7:12 PM GMT
    I usually equate that with....Are you enjoying it, am I doing it right?

    The answer is, Are you gonna make me, or if you keep doing that hell yeah
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    Jun 22, 2009 10:30 PM GMT
    He could be asking for any number of reasons. He could want to fast forward to the money shot, or he could be asking so he keeps pace with you, or so he doesn't make you shoot too fast because he wants this to last all night long.

    Did you guys just start sleeping with each other? It is easy to read someone you have fucked dozens of times, but maybe he hasn't yet picked up on your body language.

    Here is an idea. If it bothers you so much why not just ask him to stop? Find out why he is asking and reassure him that you will let him know when you are about to shoot if need be.
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    Jun 26, 2009 3:52 AM GMT
    I get asked...i'm used to it...but then, it usually takes me quite some time to cum and i understand it can get painful/uncomforable for a bottom after a while so i just tell him to let me know when he wants me to stop.
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    Jun 26, 2009 5:18 AM GMT
    next time he asks just say "Too late"

    It wont accomplish anything at all, it will probably confuse him and if you do it right, it would make me giggle..
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    Jun 26, 2009 6:49 AM GMT
    BigSETXjock saidI think if someone stopped and asked me that question, I'd say "get the fuck out, I think we're done here."

    If what someone is doing is not going to do it for me, I will have taken matters into my own hands (literally) long before they could ask that question. Still pretty rude. It's as if they're saying "how long is this going to take? I've got four more blowjobs to do tonight!"



    ROFL
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 26, 2009 7:39 AM GMT
    I think he needs a good ole "Tony Danza" to make him stop asking.

    Look it up in www.urbandictionary.com if you don't know what a Tony Danza is!!!!!icon_lol.gif
  • B71115

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    Jun 30, 2009 12:10 AM GMT
    Or you could be glad there is somebody to ask you.

    Must be nice icon_cry.gif
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    Jun 30, 2009 12:34 AM GMT
    I dont know why he'd ask you, unless you were moaning like a girl getting her vag stuffed. If you're one of those guys that screams and moans the whole time, he might think you're cumming lol.

    By the way you talk about it, Im sure hes just annoying.
  • torontoguy222...

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    Jun 30, 2009 2:53 AM GMT
    If I ask/have been asked I think it's more to do with timing the cumshots together than trying to rush the other person. I'd rather sex be longer than shorter, so if I asked "Are you gonna cum?" and the guy tells me "Almost", I might slow things down a bit to prolong it. Alternatively, knowing he's almost there, can speed myself up so we can come together! lol
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    Jul 02, 2009 4:11 PM GMT
    I'd just want to be sure I was getting a good cum bath...I LOVE A BIG/HOT LOAD ALL OVER ME! But I sure wouldn't keep asking!
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    Jul 02, 2009 6:01 PM GMT

    LOL... I do this .. I always ask so we can have orgasms at the same time..


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    Jul 02, 2009 6:16 PM GMT
    noren saidWhat would Heloise say?



    ROFLMAO!!!

    ...priceless