Losing my gayginity..

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    Nov 19, 2007 3:46 AM GMT
    Still haven't been with a guy. I have had about 6 offers on manhunt. Half dick pics only and half I wasn't interested anyway.

    The one on there I was interested in wasn't interested in me. My crush that some of you know about just likes to walk by and look at my lunchbox, and otherwise tease ect..

    So.. being a horny adolescent.. do I just jump on in?

    What did you guys do? Did you just have sex for fun, or was your first someone you cared about?

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    Nov 20, 2007 12:39 AM GMT
    My very first time was someone I thought I cared about, but I knew at the time that I was just horny. I was young as hell though, 13! But yah, I cared about him enough, and I really wanted to experience it so I just went for it. I would've done the same thing for a guy i didnt necessarily care about if I were in a compromising situation haha.

    I'd say that if you think you're ready for it, and you dont have any qualms about your "first" being special and being in "love", then totally go for it. Its just sex.

    Be safe though!
  • Timbales

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    Nov 20, 2007 2:22 AM GMT
    It's really a personal thing.

    I regret my first time. It was with a guy I really had feelings for and he basically used me as a f*ckbuddy.
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    Nov 20, 2007 2:38 AM GMT
    First guy I had sex with was someone I was dating, it was great! Unfortunately it only lasted a month, and in the long run maybe it was just as well we did not last. He passed away at 33 of Hodgkin's disease. He also had a lot of trouble with monogamy (very high sex drive, park sex, bathhouses, etc.).

    I am a relationship type of guy, I like to have feelings for the guy so my first was a good "maiden voyage".

    The one piece of advice I would give is, make sure it is a level playing field. If you both just want to be f**kbuddies that is cool as long as you both understand that. You do not want to be used like Timberoo.
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    Nov 20, 2007 4:44 AM GMT
    how do you find a guy to lose ur "gayginity" to if ur in highschool? I think im ready and want to... unfortunately there aren't many gays at my school that i would consider doing it with
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    Nov 20, 2007 5:10 AM GMT
    Ay caramba. My first time was in college and with my fraternity little brother. We were best friends but he didn't seem to have the same "gay" genes I had and the continued tryst started eating away at his dominant heterosexual side.
    The idea at that time of being able to have sex with my best friend was incredible. In the long run it was also the worst thing that could have happened. To this day I rue it as we have not spoken since college.
    The friendship was far and away the most important thing. Youth's folly can be a nasty bitch.
    Take this as you please.

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    Nov 20, 2007 10:04 AM GMT
    find someone u either want to fuck or someone you want a relationship with, but whatever you do, think about it first ... I agree that u should really establish what both of you want out of it before you even go there. Making out with a guy can sometimes be even more fun, play with and licking / bighting his ears, feeling his bits ... then leave him to stew, if he wants it he will come running to you ... just dont get taken for a ride by some horny ass hole, as most of us do with our first!
  • qalbi30

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    Nov 20, 2007 12:25 PM GMT
    Just take it easy,enjoy safe sex and try not to expect too much of the other person.

    Sometimes you will find that what starts out as sex when you are horny does not turn into a romance,also a f***k buddy can turn into a friend,

    Do agree do'nt be used,unless you wish to be.

    A very extroverted friend had a tee shirt which read "used and abused and loved every moment of it" not the best way to go !
  • zakariahzol

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    Nov 20, 2007 12:33 PM GMT
    Losing my gayginity,

    Unfortunately for me, it none of those two reason. No fun , no love. As I have mention in other topic, I was sexually abuse , sodomize against my will. What can I do, it should be the most unforgetable sweetest memory of my life. But turn out to be the most unforgetable gruesome nite of my life.
  • GQjock

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    Nov 21, 2007 12:04 AM GMT
    My first gay sexual escapade was with a hunky roofer at my parents house...
    but take it as it comes
    go out have fun ...
    you see a chance go for it
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    Nov 21, 2007 2:41 AM GMT
    Don't blow it out of proportion. In the big picture it really isn't that important.
    Sharing any amount of time with another human being, giving pleasure, sharing love and tenderness is a really positive thing. The "giving" will heal any wounds you might have from past experience.
  • Laurence

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    Nov 22, 2007 5:31 PM GMT
    I agree with Burnin. Don't make a big thing of it. Your virginity is not something precious (you're not a chaste bride holding onto her virtue). Your first time probably won't be that great. But practice makes perfect and you'll have a great time in the future.

    Jump the first hot guy who shows interest and use the juice out of him.


    ps. My only constructive advice here is;
    a) don't get too attached, it's probably only sex for him, so enjoy it;
    b) don't feel pressured to do anything you're not happy with.
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    Nov 23, 2007 6:10 AM GMT
    My advice is to date and fool around a bit, but wait until you find someone you really like before you go all the way. I waited 38 years, until I met a really sweet guy who was also a good friend, and I am glad I did.
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    Nov 23, 2007 10:41 AM GMT
    I waited pretty long before I went all the way analy. I came out of the closet when I was about fourteen and have had more than my fill with fooling around with all sorts of guys. Ok, well maybe I'm not being completely honest... I did have anal sex during this time but only on the giving end. So at 23 I finaly just decided to do it and I let someone fuck me... I enjoyed it emencely. Now I don't even know why I waited so long in the first place.
    I would simply go for it... guys ar'nt like girls that have issues about commitment and stuff. I had my first time with a completely irrelevant guy who'se face I barely even remember. Funny enough I remember his cock perfectly. Obviously doing it with someone meaningful will result in an overall more meaningful experience. But let's face it... If you going to wait around for Mr. right you MIGHT just remain horny for a very long time.
  • Tyinstl

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    Dec 12, 2007 1:48 PM GMT
    Well, what do YOU want Kyle?

    Personally I had sex the first time with my first boyfriend. I had done oral with a few guys before, but never the whole thing...it hurt like hell, but he stopped until i said go, very considerate and patient about it.

    Now I have sex whenever I'm in the mood and have no qualms, but I'm glad I lost my virginity that way.
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    Dec 17, 2007 12:30 AM GMT
    Update.. lost it, sorta.

    Had a date with a 21 year old that I really like. He spent the night and we did some mutual oral/mutual masturbation.

    I was going to try something else with him.. I always thought of myself as being more top/vers. Well, I was ready to try, he got ready ect.. but it was too big.. wouldn't fit and hurt too bad to keep trying.
  • Tyinstl

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    Dec 17, 2007 6:02 AM GMT
    I'm sorry Kyle. Generally it does hurt a lot the first time...did you try warming up first, with a finger and/or rimming?
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    Dec 18, 2007 5:28 AM GMT
    A tiny bit with a finger. I think he just got excited and in a hurry. I had to ask him to quit trying.

    Think of a coke can, not real long, but really wide. Ok maybe he is not that hung.. but I was suprised.

    I am not kidding you. I don't know how I or anyone could handle it.