Men in this country get a bad rap and hardly anything positive is ever shown about the real men who are the great fathers. My father was never my dad. My parents' divorced when I was just under 2 years old and my mom and her parents raised me along with my dad's grandmother. To say that he didn't have an effect on my life would wrong. For a very long time, I hated him for what he did to me and my mom after I was old enough and found out the truth. That truth is part of the reason I am the man I am today. I don't know if he would have accepted me as a gay son (he died when I was 13), but I do know he would be proud of having a son who stands up for what he believes, stands on his own two feet and tries always to see the good in things, even when it is painfully obvious to all around. I didn't know my father, but he taught me alot about being a man and for that I thank him.
So, even if you don't have the greatest father/son relationship, you father still has a profound effect on you. Smile, if for no other reason than that for having him as your father.
A special shoutout to the dads I have become pals with through real jock:mpls_jockwriter
and of course to baldone
(started this thread), ironman4U
and all the guys here and everywhere who are the brothers, uncles, cousins and stepdads who are father figures to so many kids who don't have or know their natural fathers. It is a good thing to be chosen as a dad figure. Happy Fathers Day
to all of you!