I lived there for 5 years while in college, the Gay area is referred to as the Central West End lots of great food. If you want raw night life then you need to go down to either Soulard, south grand area or the Landing. As for gay night life look up The Complex, it has lots of hot guys, Magnolias is a good gay bar, Novaks wasn’t too bad either and there is also the Loading Zone, lots of guys as well. And be sure to head over to Boxers n Briefs over in East STL its a male strip joint. If you like coffee then head over to the tower grove area and there is a gay owned coffee house called Mokabes. There is also a great gay mens underwear store in downtown stl called boxers. Most stuff is kind of spread out around the city, but it is fun. Hope that helps.