Young Poz and somewhat Distressed.

  • profusian

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    Jun 24, 2009 5:19 AM GMT
    Being 23 I've been poz for 3 years. I was just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat. And you don't have to even be young...just being poz. Is it stressful sometimes? icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 24, 2009 2:01 PM GMT
    Yes but you deal with it.. With time and experience comes the ability to handle it. Just make sure you do routine visits with your specialist and if you have to take meds, then be severely strict about it. The medications are really great for extending life. You can have a long life(although this is not an excuse for being unsafe). You just have to make modifications.

    I find that it crops up in small ways. When I meet someone that I like, at what point do I tell them? now? immediately? wait after the first date?

    Same thing with others in my life. If I take in a roommate, I warn them and I do wonder about their reaction. WIll they be disgusted by me ? I always tell them so they know to be safe around me.

    You can deal with it. I dont know what area you are from but many cities have Poz support groups.


    I have absolutely a great life and I am completely healthy(because I work hard to be that way). You can have a great fulfilling happy life regardless of your status. I am sure you can too icon_smile.gif

  • dfrourke

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    Jun 24, 2009 4:03 PM GMT
    stressful, sure...everytime some ridiculously named virus enters the media: swineflu, avian flu, west nile virus...I mean really?

    After about 7 years I've really relaxed about being poz...and I am currently dating a guy who is negative [which I never thought I would do]...

    Volunteering in the poz community really helped me get over some of the anxiety and helped me find some support...

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    Jun 24, 2009 4:32 PM GMT
    It can be stressful, but only as much as you allow it to be. There are going to be things that might cause you some anxiety. There might be people who treat you badly and say stupid things. Just remember that at the end of the day you're still the same person you always were and nobody can make you feel bad about yourself unless you give them permission to. I've been poz 10 years and I've found that the only times I've really been stressed out about it have been those times that I could have just stepped back, taken a deep breath and let it go if I wanted to. Choose your attitude, it makes a world of difference.

    So find some poz friends and/or join a support group if you feel so inclined, but above all else, keep enjoying life.

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    Jun 24, 2009 4:45 PM GMT
    It's going to be stressful at times, but the key thing is keep a positive attitude (no pun intended) and build a support group for yourself. And it doesn't hurt to tap into your spiritual side to help you cope with the day to day struggles with this virus.
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    Jun 24, 2009 5:26 PM GMT
    There's nothing you can do but to continue living...
  • ickymuffin

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    Jun 24, 2009 7:27 PM GMT
    I think the consensus here is too continue living. I don't really stress about being HIV+...until I am in a situation where I have to "have the talk" with someone I am really into. When I first found out, I helped start a support group for young hiv+ guys. It's been really good for me, and others. It's not sad or depressing but mostly a repository for getting answers to questions from a group of peers rather than from your doctor. Plus we have outings and things like that as part of a group that are a lot of fun. Your local resource center should probably have contact information for a group such as this in your area.

    If anything my life has improved a great deal since finding out. I eat better, exercise a lot, spend a lot more time focusing on my friends, family, and career versus the bar scene. The quality of my life continues to strengthen as I get more comfortable with myself and my situation.

    Also...I recommend yoga. It's been great for me and really helps me clear my head. Plus it's a great way to strengthen your body and studies have shown that yoga can help boost your immune system.

    Good luck!
  • auryn

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    Jun 24, 2009 7:51 PM GMT
    What kind of support do you have in Lawton? I recommend finding a support group, if you don't go to one already, so that you don't feel alone.
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    Jun 24, 2009 8:03 PM GMT
    After reading everyone's responses I gotta say, all of you are AMAZING and a very heart felt uplifting thread!!!

    Thanks for sharing all of you!
  • TufLuck

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    Feb 12, 2012 7:29 PM GMT
    profusian saidBeing 23 I've been poz for 3 years. I was just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat. And you don't have to even be young...just being poz. Is it stressful sometimes? icon_eek.gif


    I tested hot at 26, so going on 4 years now being poz, and It took me the first two or so years to really come to terms. Like so many other great guys who've posted already it's super important to build a support network. Some close friends you can talk to and vent with.

    Also volunteering is great and is an easy way to meet other cool poz guys in your area. Almost every major city has a poz community on Yahoo or Google Groups so should be easy to find out where the groups are and get involved.

    But the big thing to never forget is your not alone dude. Tons of us out there and we all have our down and out days so you're never alone in this even if it feels like it some days.

    Tuffie
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    Feb 12, 2012 7:44 PM GMT

    I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling anxious and distressed. Like others have said, please seek help from a support group.


    This isn't going to win friends but it's so shocking to see people here born after the AIDS crisis that have it. Honestly how much more visible do safe sex campaigns have to be? Why can't people realise that but having unprotected sex you're putting your life into someone's hands?

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    Feb 12, 2012 9:16 PM GMT
    Well, the good news is you are young and healthy.

    The bad news is you live in Oklahoma.

    Get out and live life a little!

    Peace and blessings to you.
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    Feb 12, 2012 9:30 PM GMT
    Haaretz saidWell, the good news is you are young and healthy.

    The bad news is you live in Oklahoma.

    Get out and live life a little!

    Peace and blessings to you.
    Pssst.. the OP hasnt logged onto this site in over a year and a half.icon_wink.gif
  • Joeyphx444

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    Apr 19, 2013 2:54 AM GMT
    It's not so bad really
    Just live normally with the same precautions for your health that you SHOULD always have,

    I have been surprised actually by reactions. Yes, some guys don't like it and don't even wanna be friends, but some guys, after I tell them (and you should always tell) don't seem to mind it and some have even said they are positive as well.

    I think guys realize that we are in the 21st century and having HIV is not like back in the 80s. Medicine is advancing and helping people around the world. I do believe in my lifetime there may be a cure